my bf of 7 years and two kids wants to get married next yr but I'm not sure if I'mready. or if he's the one I love him n all but I'm not sure.. what should I do?
bf wants to get married next yr I'm not sure if I'm ready, or that he's the one.?
What Guys Said 4
You've been together for 7 years and have 2 children together and you're not sure if he's the right guy for you? Still? My dear if you don't know if he's the right guy by now then he isn't and that's sad because I'm sure you knew this 2 years into the relationship. You should definitely have a talk with him about the way you feel. There's no need to hide it any longer.0
Marry him and work through your insecurities if you say you love him and he doesn't abuse you. The truth is that your heading towards the age where you're no spring chicken my love.0
Ok how are you with some one for that long have kids with and are basically married but you have problems thinking he is not the right one. If you thought that keep your legs shut. I'm sorry but get a grip on your life and take some responsibility.1
What Girls Said 3
How can you be together for 7 years, have 2 kids, yet when some trivial ceremony comes into play, you're having second thoughts?
I mean, really now. Seven years is a long time. I think you're placing too much merit into this thing called marriage and forgetting the fact that you've been in love with the same person for 7 FEKIN YEARS. What difference does a ring make?
If you were to not get married, would you still stay with him another 7 years?
If so, then you're worrying over literally nothing. Stop putting marriage on a pedestal and thinking that it will somehow change your relationship. You are still the same people with the same feelings.1
if you are questioning if you want to marry him then don't marry him. if you have to question that then you are not ready to marry him or he may not be the one you want to marry. you can only decide that nobody on here can. I would sit down some where outside the house and write a list of the things you like about him and things that you don't like about him. I would take a trip some where for one or two nights and think about what is in your best interest of the relationship for you and the kids. (no kids and not him on this trip). Talk to a friend who will listen sometimes when you hear your self talk out load that helps put the pieces together. Good luck0
"The one" doesn't exist. Sorry but he just doesn't. Some people are just worth settling down with. but that doesn't mean there is only one person forever. It would have been beautiful but that's just not how it works. If you're happy and willing to stay with him like you are now, marriage won't change much. Having kids with him was a much bigger deal and I guess it worked out fine. So the fact that when the word "marriage" comes up and you flip out, is just a natural instinct. A fear of committing and not being able to go back (you can go back though if you are really unhappy). But don't worry too much. You should know where you are standing with this guy as you already started a family with him.0
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