How can I tell him I don't want to go to his house?
I'm 17 and I'm involved with an 18 year old guy I met a few months ago, and he's told me a lot that he loves me. A few weeks ago, he asked me if I wanted to come over to see him some time so we could spend a nice day together, I said yes and he planned it for this weekend. The thing is, I told my friends about it and they really didn't want me to go because he's had a violent past with gangs and stuff, and they think he could hurt me, even though he's said he's changed and found God. My sister's also said I shouldn't go, as she knows people who have gotten involved with guys that were associated with gangs, and they had guns pulled out on them. My friends have also made me promise I won't go to his house, and think that if I go then I'm choosing him over them.
So, yesterday on the phone, we were talking about the date, and he was like "You're still coming to my house right?". Because he lives quite far from me and because of what my friends and sister have said, I asked if we could meet in a town that we both know quite well, where it's easier for me to get around. He said that he had thought it may be easier for me to meet there, and was like 'whatever's easiest for you', and said he would ask his dad if he could stay in that town for the weekend with his grandma who lives there. When his dad said no because he thinks it may be dangerous for us both to walk around in that town, he again suggested me meeting him at his house first before we go out. He suggested that I type my address and his address in journey planner so I can find his house. He didn't offer to meet me on the way eg at a train station so we could go to his house together, but kind of expects me to make my way there.
I know it could be a bad idea to come to his house, as he's told me that he and people close to him in his area have been jumped or attacked by gang members or random hoodlums. And I'm just thinking that if he and his guy friends who can defend themselves can still get attacked even though he's 5'11, then what would happen if I walk around his area with him and he gets attacked, and I'm only like 5'1 and can't even defend myself? So how can I tell him I don't want to go to his house, without literally saying 'I don't want to go to your house' as that's kind of rude? Sorry it's so long! Thanks :)
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