Wow that's a punch in the face (metaphorically speaking). You can't be too needy in a truly loving, honest and loyal relationship. There are a few options open to you:
1 - Consider that if you are needy, then he is lacking in either honesty or dedication to you. Ask him for clarification, talk about this with him about what HE is doing wrong.
2 - If you are too needy, it is obvious that he doesn't consider (or want) this to be a serious relationship, he clearly doesn't want to be tied down. Again, sit him down and have a conversation about where this relationship is going.
Hopefully you guys can work on this but if he just isn't in any way as emotionally invested in the relationship as you are, then you're gonna have to leave to find someone who wants you just as much, we all deserve to have our feelings reciprocated/returned. Good luck!
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If he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't be. I can't believe I actually have to type those words. He said you were "needy" because it is an empirical fact. If he had said the sun was larger than the Earth, would you contemplate leaving him too? If he's still with you, it's obviously not that big of a problem.
He is expressing something about your behaviour that is bothering him. It doesn't mean he's being mean or that you should break up. If he feels you're being needy, then the mature thing is to discuss it, find out what he feels is needy behaviour and stop doing it.
Judging by your update though, you seem to be very stubborn and ignorant to the advice people are giving you. If the majority of people believe it's you that needs to change your behaviour, then that's probably what needs to be done. We're helping you saviour your relationship but it seems that you're keen to just end it all without working on it because you feel insulted. It's not an insult to be needy.
Well...it depends. I don't know you or your situation, but I do know that if you really ARE needy, that will destroy every one of your relationships.
Either learn to be with yourself and trust your partner or leave him and spend some time JUST with yourself...to figure things out.
There might be a possibility that you aren't needy and that he's in the wrong, in which case, just dump him.
As I said, I don't know you so I can't tell what the situation is.
Well you should talk about how you are being needy to him, he might think that you are too close or always around. You just need to talk it out instead of assume its best for the both of you. Getting your words out and expressing instead of guessing and wondering what it could be is best. He is kind of being straight forward with this and may not know any other way to say it.
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I think he is being rude. What I think he is saying is that you bring nothing to the relationship and you feed off him. You and your persona won't transform just for him so I think you guys have no future together.
If he says that chances are you may be needy. Which isn't like you're crazy or anything. I said you should leave him so you can focus some energy and time just on yourself. You deserve that!!!
If he says you're needy, he means you're needy. I have a friend who is needy and it's annoying. I suggest asking him his honest opinion on how exactly you're needy (in other words, what are the things that you do or demand that make you needy?) and then try adjusting your behavior.
everyone is needy just some people show it more...but you don't have to break up just for that reason. it can be worked out.
"Isn't it also true that if one person thinks that the other is needy then those people should not be together?" No? Maybe you are just way to needy, and should stop being that?
Was he specific, or was he just bitching?
What do you do that he thinks is "needy"
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