If you took 50 dollars from your mom - is it called stealing?

[Anonymous]

I took 50 dollars from my mom I didn't know her phone number from work so I took it for - to make copies of my books and maybe buy a little something for myself (I never told her) so when she found out - she screamed at me and beat me up - and I always tell her when she finds out - now somebody tell me if it is called stealing why would it be called stealing when you took it from your own flesh and blood?

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+1 y

Ok I get it its called stealing but what about the fact when I work she always takes my money and doesn't leave me a single penny - what do you say to that?

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+1 y

Or when my grandma sends me money for me as in my birthday and she takes it from me what do you say to that too? Yes its stealing but having to ask my mother for my own money whether I worked for it or someone gave it to me as a present is stupid!

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And the money that I took from her was my money!

[Anonymous]

Its called stealing, in fact you keep stealing from each other. My mom mooches dough off of me, but there's an AGREEMENT like "can I have money? " and I say "yes, you can" when I was younger I used to steal change from around the house, and perhaps I got a few smacks for it. "Beating" can either a. ) be an exaggeration, which without an agreement I might expect a smack (from my own experience) or b. ) she actually BEATS you and that is not right, harsh physical abuse is not right, especially over petty cash. If your down on hard times, and you know your mother needs that money for rent and food or such, you should really think twice about stealing it, When I got older I realized I shouldn't take money from my mom because we were not well off and every penny counted towards our survival (not to be melodramatic). So maybe these beatings (if this is your case) means "stop taking the food out of our mouths, think like an adult, we can't afford extras (not talking about books).

[annwyl-cariad]

Taking something from someone else without their permission is stealing. No matter who you steal from. Would you think it acceptable if your mother drained your bank account to "buy a little something for herself," claiming she had the right because you are her flesh and blood? No, of course you wouldn't.

However, as others have said, that does not give her the right to use physical violence against you. She does, however, have every right to prosecute you under the law. Just keep that in mind. I think you need to sit down with your mother and sort out some issues in your relationship, if stealing and physical violence are a common part of it.

[Asker]

She did that I worked and every time I would get my check she took it from me without giving me a penny and bought herself a damn diamond ring now tell me something is that right?

[annwyl-cariad]

That is not right, I agree. It is not uncommon for parents to take the earnings of their minor children to put towards, say, their college education, but to do that to buy something for yourself is unacceptable. HOWEVER, it does not give you the right to stoop to her level. I stand by my statement that you and your mother have some serious issues to work out between the two of you.

[Anonymous]

Well, she is your mother. She has to pay for you a whole lot more then she takes from you. Food, electricity, internet bills, toys when you were growing up, etc. So her taking money from you isn't a big thing as you taking money from her. Maybe she really needs the money for something, like if she was in debt. Like my mom takes money from me all the time since she works all the time and still doesn't have enough to get gas for the car. Yea, sometimes it seems unfair that she's taking your money, but unless she's addicted to something, then its probably for a good cause.

[Asker]

Ok I see your point

[That-Guy]

You understand that stealing is something that's looked down upon in every culture?

Stealing from your own family can result in being disowned. Trust me, that's the low of the low, stealing from one's own family.

As far as her beating you, if I stole from my family. I hope to god they beat me up for doing something so stupid and disrespectful. Not everyone in our family gets along but stealing is a boundary we know not to cross.

"Violence is never the answer," a cliche I don't always believe in as some things deserve a slap in the face. I know their are things I've said that are not tolerable and deservingly gotten the backhand.

If you are 14-17 this isn't too far fetched to how teenagers act in their rebellion stage but you are 18-24, come on. You are better then this.

[Quackpotty]

It's stealing if it's taken without permission - and that goes both ways. What happens that makes your mother take the money? Is that with some sort of deal you have going? Or does she just take it from you without your having a say, like snatching it out of your hand?

My brother, funnily enough, took fifty rand (South Africa's currency - at the time worth about eighteen dollars) from my mother's purse. She found out and it wasn't pretty.

[Asker]

She just takes it away from me without me saying anything I mean I could give her half of my paycheck but can I have the other half I asked her that she said no because she sees it pointless in me having money to spend it on crap when all I really wanna do is save up the money and use it on something important I tried talking to her but talking to her. She's very stubborn so she never really understands me.

[Quackpotty]

Does she see it as rent perhaps? Have you told or shown her what you intend to spend your money on? It's not right if she has no legitimate reason for taking your money. That's bordering theft. Be careful how you approach her, though. She might not like it if you start a screaming match with her. Try talking calmly and leave no room for her to gainsay your insistence that it's your money and therefore decision as to how to use it. Just speak calmly and maturely. She should understand.

[Asker]

No she doesn't see it as rent money like I said I have no problem giving her half. she knows what I want to spend money on she just sees it as I'm not at that age to hold the money or knowing what to do with it

[Quackpotty]

Is there no way that you can deposit your pay before your mother gets a hold of it? That way she hasn't got the chance to act like that.

[x9354]

It's technically only called stealing -- if you get CAUGHT . If you think the money is rightfully yours, then you simply need to refine your money lifting techniques . Try taking the whole purse or cookie jar or whatever you took the money from, that way she might just think she lost it on her own or someone else took it . But just make sure you still ask her for some money BEFORE she notices her money is gone - that way you can counter her with the argument of "why would I be asking you for money if I took your purse . "

Or if you absolutely have to be honest, you can always leave a note (an I . O . You . ) in place of the money that you took, and sign your name on it -- that way it won't look like you're trying to get away with something .

[DeanW]

It sounds like your mom has some real issues. Should you be lifting money from her? Well, no, but it's not like it's the most insane thing I've ever heard. When I was growing up we had a jar in the fridge with money in it for exactly those type of situations, where money was needed but neither parent was around.

The late Foucault noted once that it's only stealing from the point of view of property. In other words, we have an idea of ownership of things (money, land, dogs) and some of these things do seem like we truly own them, but, in the end it's still a perspective. It sounds like your mom has lost sight of that.

I'm sorry to hear that you have to deal with that. It's not a good mother-daughter relationship. It is stealing, but I see what you mean about it being different because, after all, family is supposed to be there to help you.

[Lancealott]

Ha I have the same problem I cut a yard and every so often I get a 300 dollar check for doing it but my parents take it and keep all the money they only pay me back sometimes like 80 dollars every so often its not my fault they spent to much money on credit cards and stuff when they were young I want MY money that I WORKED for. But no they need it cause they were to stupid right now they owe me over $1,500. 00 dollars but well only give me 80 every 2 or 3 checks and they say their paying me off! Haha

[LilMiss]

Yes when you take something that belongs to somebody else without asking them, I believe it is called stealing. And making excuses to justify your actions is wrong. If you're old enough to work and be that dependent on yourself, move out and don't give her your money. Unless she's having you pay her back for something like bailing you out of jail or maybe just having you pay rent. It's hard to give a good answer without knowing the WHOLE story hun.

[Jarett]

She beat you up? That isn't good hun! That isn't healthy at all! As far as your question, if you take something that doesn't belong to you, without the person knowing, then it's stealing. Why would she beat you up?

[Asker]

Cause I took it without her knowing I forgot to tell her - I always tell her but its just stupid money - you know it even shows in your family money rules the world my mom always cared about that now as I see but she beat me up cause I took those money

[Jarett]

Yeah I think it's wrong for you to take it without her knowing. But that is no excuse for her to get physical with her. How did she beat you up?

[That-Guy]

Why didn't you include that vital part in your original question?

That's something you're going to have to discuss with your parents. Lay it all out and work things out.

"Mom I stole X amount of money because I believe that you took some of my money, is this true. "

Let the storm roar and hope that the rain washes and cleanses away the dirt.

[AJtogo]

As everyone else has told you. Taking something without permission of the person who owns it, is stealing. Doesn't matter who it is. Sometimes, in families, we can do this because of circumstances. But, we tell the person at immediate first chance what we did and hope they will be understanding enough to agree with the act. It's still stealing, but forgiveness will make it ok in the eyes of the one we stole from.

Personally, I would never take something from a family member without asking.

[Emerald]

Taking something that doesn't belong to you, even if it is from family, is stealing. At your age you could even be prosecuted for it.

On the flip side it is not acceptable for a family member to beat you up either and you could have her arrested for assault It sounds you like you are both in a very unhealthy relationship.

I think you need to learn a lot about respect. Not only for others property but also for yourself.

[Anonymous]

It is called stealing but your mom should not of beat you up. That's not right. :)