Why wouldn't she invite me to her birthday party?

[Anonymous]

A girl that I like (we are NOT dating) but I wish we were. She is having a birthday party tomorrow and I don't think that she's going to invite me :( if she doesn't invite me does that mean that she doesn't like me and doesn't even consider me a good friend? But before you answer that here is more information: we flirt with each other a lot and half of the time she seems interested in me. We have been good friends for 3 years but have just started hanging out outside of school this year (going to the carnival, movies, etc) and all of her friends that are going are friends of mine too so she shouldn't be worried about them not wanting me there. I'm not boring at parties I'm always the life of the party type person who is always making everyone laugh (especially her). Also when one of our mutual friends had a birthday party back in October she was the first one to invite me and REALLY wanted me to go and she was very happy when I did go. So why wouldn't she want me to go to her party?

[Ashewark]

I think that is really odd behavior for someone who is interested in you. =-/ If she likes you, the only reason I can think of for her to do that is because she wanted you to ask about the party or something, but that is still putting you in a really awkward position. As SappherAngel462 said, it's possible that one of her friends likes you, so she is backing off because she wants to protect that friendship. She may also be trying to keep you as a friend only and make sure you know that it's nothing more, though she is doing it in a roundabout and immature fashion. Either way, it's pretty unfair to you and I think you ought to look for someone better who won't play these games that cause hurt feelings.

[SappherAngel462]

Hmmm.... good?.. my guess would be that one of her friends likes you so she is backing off. but sorry to say but she could have really liked you as a friend and was really open to you but when she started to get the sings that you like her she got scared because she doesn't feel the same but doesn't want to lose you as a friend.

But you should tell her how you feel even if the feeling is not the same at least you tried and don't have to live with what ifs. good luck

[LilMiss]

I'd get her a present anyway so that in case she doesn't invite you, she'll feel like a jerk lol

[Anonymous]

She might just tell you at the last min. but sounds weird if she don't invite you then don't go but she should