I don't know if I should I text her Happy Birthday?

[Bobster]

I've known this woman through work for years but we have only really been friends for the last year (when we got each others numbers). We meet for lunch every few weeks but recently its kind of fallen away. In the beginning we text all the time, but now if I text her I'm honored if I get a reply!

Its her birthday next week so if I text her happy birthday, would it be creepy or would she appreciate it?

I text her last week to meet for lunch but she ignored me! I just don't like friend's birthdays passing without wishing them well.

[elektrisitee]

Telling her "Happy Birthday" isn't creepy if she's the one who told you it was coming up. Now, if she did not tell you, it could be taken wrong.

Why? Because girls can feel threatened if you know something about them that they didn't tell you. It may seem stalkerish.

However, if she did tell you, or if it is on her Facebook or Myspace page... it is acceptable. It's displayed out in the open. She would probably be flattered for you to take care in such an act.

But the thing that gets me is that she seems to be avoiding you. And if that is the case, she might not like you mentioning it at all. She could be avoiding you for a variety of reasons: She could think you are into her and she doesn't like you like that or she could be dealing with some personal stuff.

I think the best thing to do is evaluate whether she thinks you as a friend or not, and depending on how you know its her birthday, decide whether to text or not.

I don't want to say "yes, do it" or "no, that's catastrophic!" because I don't know what kind of relationship you guys have.

[Bobster]

Well there's a thought....I know its her birthday because I put it in my phone calendar (like I do with all my friends). She had a big birthday last year and told me the date so it was then that I put it in my phone. Not really sure what I should do now, maybe its stalkerish, maybe she'll wonder how I know? then maybe I should just delete her from my contacts completely and just never mind?

[elektrisitee]

Well I think that if she is not making any effort to even text you back, which is SUCH an easy thing to do, then maybe it is a good idea to just give it a rest.

You probably didn't do anything wrong. And it is her that is keeping a distance.

[SilkSatin]

I dislike when other people's behaviours limit or force me to compromise who I am. It makes me feel awkward, uncomfortable, and causes me to doubt myself and my perception. If she has distanced herself, it may have more to do with how she perceives things/her current circumstances, rather than anything personal relating to you. Either way, if your the kind of person that values friendship and is used to sending kind words on birthdays, then be yourself and do that. Try not to let others force you into a box. Live free within reason. To answer your q - no, I can't imagine why texting 'happy birthday' would appear creepy :)

[Bobster]

Thanks for all your thoughts! Maybe I should just text her, after all, who doesn't like getting birthday texts?!!

[Rachel_Marie_TheGame]

I feel the same way about telling people happy birthday. Maybe if you say something like. "Whatever you're doing today, I hope you have a nice birthday!"

[Anonymous]

just tell her. It will show her that you care about her as a friend.

[ShoeGal55]

Definitely wish her a happy birthday!

[nikayy]

TELL HER! :D