Several months back, I purchased a special made item for my then boyfriend. Because it was a special made item it was something only he could use.
It was a quilt with tractors all over it (something he collects) that I then customized with his name.
I planned to give him this gift for his birthday the first part of Jan.
As it turned out, I left him the end of Oct. We were not right for each other, he started playing games and being kind of a jerk. We wanted different tings in life.
I wanted a partner in life to stand next to. He was not ready for that and may never be, but would not admit that. Instead, kept promising things would change.
I saw we were only going to cause each other pain if we stayed together and I told him it was best if we walk away before we hate each other.
We were together about a year.
Now, I'm going though old stuff and find the gift I got him all those months ago.
It is a non-returnable item. Custom made, so no one but him could use it.
It seems a shame to throw it in the trash. Yet, if I walk up and give it to him, he may mistake it as a gesture I want to get back together.
I was thinking of just leaving the gift without saying who it was from.
That way he gets the use and enjoyment out of it, without digging up old things from the past.
Perhaps he would think it was from one of his family members.
Would this be too strange?
Is it a bad idea?
It was a quilt with tractors all over it (something he collects) that I then customized with his name.
I planned to give him this gift for his birthday the first part of Jan.
As it turned out, I left him the end of Oct. We were not right for each other, he started playing games and being kind of a jerk. We wanted different tings in life.
I wanted a partner in life to stand next to. He was not ready for that and may never be, but would not admit that. Instead, kept promising things would change.
I saw we were only going to cause each other pain if we stayed together and I told him it was best if we walk away before we hate each other.
We were together about a year.
Now, I'm going though old stuff and find the gift I got him all those months ago.
It is a non-returnable item. Custom made, so no one but him could use it.
It seems a shame to throw it in the trash. Yet, if I walk up and give it to him, he may mistake it as a gesture I want to get back together.
I was thinking of just leaving the gift without saying who it was from.
That way he gets the use and enjoyment out of it, without digging up old things from the past.
Perhaps he would think it was from one of his family members.
Would this be too strange?
Is it a bad idea?
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What if I sent it with a note that explaned I got it for him months ago when we were together and figure he should have it now, but it is from a FRIEND only.. I do not wish to start anything back up. Would that be OK or stirring old things up?
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Ok. IF I give him the gift, I will make it clear it was made months ago and now is given in freindship ONLY. As I said before, he is a good man-just not right for me.. Just as I was wrong for him. We want different things in life. Thanks everyone !
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