Should I text this guy for his birthday tomorrow??

[Anonymous]

So here is the problem!

I went on a date a week ago with a really attractive guy. Everything went great, we both laughed, danced, had lots in common and he told me he didn't want to leave at the end of the night.

The next day I awaited for him to message me but he didn't the whole day. I was confused and thought maybe he didn't like me but why would he laugh and appear to be interested especially when he told me he didn't want the night to end.

The following day (2 days after the date) he text me whilst I was at work at midday, he said something along the lines of "It was really nice meeting you, hope you had fun and are not too tired for work xo" I couldn't reply quickly as I was busy with work but replied as soon as I finished work which would have been roughly two hours later.

I said, "Hey I just finished work! I t was nice meeting you and I hope you had fun too p.s I was a little tired but made it through the day :)"

To this I got no reply..and its been a week and he hasn't text since.

I remember him telling me it was his b'day next week (which is 2moro)

I was going to text him but now I'm not so sure because maybe he's not interested or maybe he thinks I'm not interested and is waiting for me...

Should I text him happy birthday? Help me out guys and girls!

[ynot2009]

hmm this is funny I went through pretty much the exact same situation with the guy I am currently dating! we hung out, had a great time then I didn't hear from him within a week and when I did it was nothing huge. anyway his birthday was coming up too (but I never text him birthday wishes) BUT we ended up meeting up and talking about 2 weeks after our first date. and layed everything out on the table, he thought I wasn't interested in him! I guess he said that he was getting more of a friend vibe from me and he thought that I was "out of his legue" anywho I think you should definitely let him know you are interested but in a very suttle (sp?) way. like maybe text him one night and ask if he's going out, and tell him you and your girls are gonna go out somewhere and that he should come, so its more casual! but honestly you have nothing to lose and if you don't at least make an effort you will always wonder what if...so even if he's NOT interested, which I don't think is the case, at least you tried :) you might be like me and you are always used to the guy initiating everything cause that's how I was, so I assumed that my guy wasn't interested but I learned that it really is a 2 way street, and now me and this guy are dating and everything is going great!

[Asker]

Hey, thanks for your answer :) That's what I thought too I have nothing to lose sending him a b'day text seeing as it was only one date, I have no idea what to say! Hopefully I'll be as lucky as you in your scenario, which congrats btw!

[Mande1985]

Have you ever seen that movie "He's Just Not That Into You"? If you haven't then you should. I don't think movies should be guidelines to relationships or how to date. However, they made some really good points. If a guy wants to be with a girl he will make an effort. And to me it seems this guy hasn't made any effort. If he REALLY wanted to spend time with you he would've texted you within this last week. Personally, I think it would be kinda creepy to get a Happy Birthday text from someone I was clearly trying to avoid or not make anything serious with.

You did point out that he may not think you are interested which could be the case, however, I highly doubt it. If you want to test your theory out, then you should text him today. Tell him to have a happy early bday and that you wanted to know if you could take him out for his special day. See what he says and then you can go from there.

Let us know what happens!

[Asker]

Thanks for your answer :)

[confused415]

It seems very strange that he had such a great time with you, however, has remained to have little to no contact with you. However, perhaps by wishing him a happy birthday, you will allow for open doors and make it easier for him to approach you for future dates.

If you truly want to see how much he likes you, you can use his birthday as an excuse for a further date. For instance, why not wish him a happy birthday and as a return for such a wonderful evening, ask if he would be willing to go out to dinner or even a dessert for his birthday. If he politely declines, then you know that you can remain as friends and nothing more. If, however, he accepts, then you can take the relationship to the next level. :]

Best of luck!

[pawan_jasoria]

Yes you should text him, tomorow is his birthday , do it, you just giving him yours wishes.

[haleyej96]

I think guys just do that...but definitely do text him, he'll appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

What happened?