First of all, this is totally a cultural thing. A lot of non- Asian people misinterpret the behavior of Asians around people. They like to joke, tease and playfully kick guys. But this does not necessarily means that she is interested in you. Maybe you gave her a sign that you wanted more than a friendship with her and she does not know how to react. So she goes and ignore you or get distant a little bit, that is her natural reaction. You probably did not say anything wrong or offensive to her. It's just that you guys were getting too close and she realized that. Maybe, her behavior means that she does not want more than a friendship and that's her way to show you that. She is not telling you anything because she is probably shy and she will not tell you upfront, that is a cultural thing- sometimes they could be very ambiguous. I am an Asian girl, and I have been studying different cultural behaviors. I have gone through the same thing too and have noticed that guys usually misinterpret my nice behavior. They think that because I get too close with jokes and blah blah blah. I like them, that might not be the case.However, maybe she likes you but she is shy and does not know how to behave around you or how to tell you...
Sounds like she still likes you as a friend, but gets embarrassed about her drunken behavior then withdraws from the friendship. I definitely think it could be a cultural thing... I found a really good essay about humility in Japanese and hyperbole in English, here is the link: link It's in .pdf format.
Have you confronted her about your feelings? If not, you might try that, find a nice time when your both in a good mood(not drinking) and ask her nicely how she feels about you two. Tell her you like her and enjoy spending time with her.Drinking often opens a person up and even makes some do things they might not otherwise. So don't worry too much about that. If you try to talk again and you get nowhere, then there isn't much else you can do. In that case, if you like her, just continue to be there and if she turns then great. If not, you'll both move on and you can add it to your list of experiences.
I would say continue acting yourself around her. Have you had any conversations about dating someone from a different culture? Her parents probably don't approve and parents are a huge part of asian culture (at least that's what I've gathered). Obviously she is really interested in you on a physical level as well as emotional (based on the amount of time you guys have shared) because when she's had some to drink she can't help but show that physical attraction. Definitely don't take advantage, in fact while she's drunk and you have some alone time it might be a good time to bring up a conversation to get some honest answers and possibly to admit that you like her. Make sure she knows you do not want to lose her as a friend no matter what.
Why is she acting so distant from me?
Ok there is this girl that I met in Japanese class. Also she is Japanese. I don't know if that means anything but I just figured I'd add it. Anyway... Show More