My boyfriend didn't invite me to his birthday party? What should I do?
I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly 3 months, and he's been a sweetie pie for the most part. We do have some differences, as he's more of a... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
Well, as crappy as it is to say, there might be legit reasons for him not to invite a girlfriend to an event that has a lot of family present, especially family that could because problems for him (read: grandparents). When you don't have your own place to live, but rather have to rely on other people whose opinions you often disagree with, you often have to shut your mouth and bite your tongue and try not to rock the boat.
HOWEVER, IMO, he at least owes you an explanation of why he didn't invite you. If I were in that situation, I might say "this is a family thing, and it's better for them if they don't know I have a girlfriend, for the following reasons: ...", and I'd also say "my close friends and I are going to do something later, and of COURSE you'll be invited."
You don't get to choose your family, but you do have to live with them sometimes, so you have to make the best of it.
What Guys Said 4
it does indicate he doesn't take the relationship very seriously. So you'r overanalyzing here. Jus treat him like a casual friend fro now. Asking too many questions about parties you're not invited to will irritate him!
He already told you why, it's a family event with his best friend. Plus no offense but you're black and his whole family may not be accepting of him dating outside the norm. He needs more time to introduce you to his family, 3 months is too soon.
You Monster Frisbee!
What Girls Said 1
I think Moloch may be on to something here. Have you talked about the black/white issue & how his family feels about this? That could be it. OOOr...It could be a party for his family & his family's friends...NOT his friends. You know, like mom & dad invited their friends next door or people they've been close to for years that have been like family. That kind of thing.
I know it feels bad, but it is what it is. Unless you ask him, there's nothing you can do about it, and you won't understand it. So, you can either, 1.wait until after the party & ask him, 2.ask him before the party, or 3. stick your head in the sand & ignore it. It's up to you.
If you wait, you'll be miserable; if you ask before, he may invite you or he may be uncomfortable & have to tell you what's up; if you ignore it...shame on you.