Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.
Start telling yourself what you love about yourself
In your own life it’s important to know how spectacular you are. You really have to look in the mirror and be kind. Because what we see in the mirror is often what we see in the world. Our disappointment in others, our acceptance of others, our ability to see potential in others, out patience with others often reflects all of this within ourselves. You’ve got to show yourself some love first and foremost.
Be one with what is
Something that’s really difficult, but worth it, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the journey of becoming your true self. The most beautiful part of this journey is simply returning to the peaceful feeling of being. You will have to retrain your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.
Focus less on winning the approval of others
Remind yourself that you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. You don’t have to get permission to do it differently either. As the saying goes, “What you do today is important, because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.” Don’t wait around for someone else to give you permission to live.
Distance yourself from those who bring you down
Being in no relationship is better than being in a wrong one. Don’t worry too much about people who don’t worry about you. Know your worth! When you give yourself to those who disrespect you, you lose. Your friends in life should motivate, inspire and respect you. Keep it tight. Quality over quantity, always.
Forgive your past self
You should confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with forgiveness. It’s just a matter of accepting that sometimes good people like you make bad choices. It doesn’t mean you’re bad; it means you’re human. Forgive yourself for what you think you did or didn’t do, and focus on what you will do starting now.
Start making the changes you know you need to make
Just because something made you happy in the past doesn’t mean you have to keep it forever. If you want to see changes in your life today, you’ll have to do things that you’ve never done before. Different input = different output. Move away from the things that drain you and move toward the thoughts and activities that empower and fulfill you.
Embrace the mistakes you haven’t even made yet
To be successful in the long run, you must fail sometimes. Don’t let the fear of making the wrong decision prevent you from making any decision at all.
Show gratitude for who you are and what you have right now
No, you won’t always get what you want. And no, you won’t always be exactly where you want to be. But remember this: There are lots of people who will never have what you have right now. So use pain, frustration and inconvenience to motivate you rather than annoy you.
Do something every day that makes you happy
There’s a big difference between empty fatigue and gratifying exhaustion. Life is too short. Invest in the activities you deeply care about. A good life is about making a good decision every day to do something that moves you – caring for yourself by doing things you care about. It’s a matter of realizing that there’s nothing selfish about self-care.
Give yourself a fair chance to explore new ideas and opportunities
Don’t let not knowing how it’ll end keep you from beginning. When we act, uncertainty forces us into the open where opportunity awaits.
Listen to your intuition and be honest with yourself about everything
We cannot speak with integrity about a lifestyle we are not living. We don’t need more glorified storytellers; we need more genuine ones. Listen to that inner voice. Confidence comes from knowing that what you’re doing is right, and that what you’re doing is right for YOU.
Believe in your abilities
All things are possible! The key is to identify what you want, claim it as part of who you are, and believe that you are worthy to have it.
Focus on writing your story, instead of reading, watching and hearing about everyone else’s
And when you catch yourself comparing your life to someone else’s, remember that people often only show their highlight reel – not their reality.
Pay close attention to your life as you’re living it
One of the greatest presents you can give yourself, is to be present, every chance you get. Distractions are in the palms of our hands these days, but we need to remember to look up more often. So much is lost when we don’t.
Loosen up and be a little less serious about it all
All self-misery has its roots in self-pity, and all self-pity is rooted in taking life too seriously. If you take everything too seriously, especially yourself, you’ll wind up fearing every new step you take. Loosen up and laugh it off when you can – especially when things don’t go as planned. People with a good sense of humor have a better sense of life. You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself and your circumstances.
Go out of your way to be loving and kind to others too
Almost everything comes full circle. People who love themselves come across as very caring, generous and kind to others too; they express their self-confidence through humility, forgiveness and inclusiveness. So seek to understand others before you attempt to judge. And be thankful for rude, difficult people too – they serve as great reminders of how not to be.
All of these things aren't to be taken generally.
I always think this is implied, but then the attackers come who can't wait to point out the fact that not all of these (or any other) points can apply to everyone. They don't apply to everyone, how could they? It's a subjectively objective myTake. Take it or leave it.