There is no such thing as the Dad bod!

[Stacyzee]

When I first heard this term I couldn't believe it! "Dad bod?"

When will people start taking responsibility for neglecting their own bodies instead of coming up with a term that is "supposed to be widely accepted" or seen as the new trend in modern times?

The "Dad bod" cannot be compared to the "Mom bod". It's well known that women go through tremendeous physical changes during pregnancy.

After a woman delivers her baby she is very fortunate if she maintains the same physique as before. Some women get back to their pre-pregnancy bodies with little or no changes. But there many others who are left with tons of stretchmarks, deflated boobs, and loose/wrinkled skin.

Getting back to this woman's original weight is not the problem. The signs of pregnancy has marked its territory forever.

The people with the Dad bod are pretty much men who let the pounds pack on over the years.

Moms who dropped the weight and are left with permanent changes, had no choice in the body they have but the men do!

No matter how you acquired that bod of yours acknowledge the truth in how you got it.

If you are contented with your appearance, then continue loving every inch of your flesh!

Whose to say it isn't worthy or beautiful ?

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Let the hate begin.

The truth has spoken.

[SirenDep]

I think that a woman can control how her body looks post pregnancy as well. Putting hydrating cream all over your body prevents stretch marks and working out while pregnant, helps avoid loose skin.. dad bod, it's just an expression. It's a fact that men usually put on weight after 30 years old. Before they become 30, they can eat more than they need to, and they won't put on weight. But after 30, they suddently realise they have to be more careful what they eat, and that they have to work out to keep their body looking good

[Stacyzee]

You can't control the appearance of stretch marks , those creams are all a gimmick.
There's a reason why there is laser treatment.
I agree with everything else you said though.

[Stacyzee]

Also , the thing is pretty much anyone can attain the Dad bod even if they aren't a dad. That's why I feel like the bod has nothing to do with that aspect.
But yeah , it's just an expression that a 19 year old college girl made to empower men I believe.
It's a term that got a wide recognition

[SirenDep]

Once stretch marks turn white, there's nothing you can do about them, apart from laser treatment. If they 've just appeared and they are still purple, there exist good creams to treat them. The best thing is to put hydrating cream before you get them, hydrated skin is more stretchy and less prone to get stretch marks.

[Stacyzee]

I've known plenty of women that have gotten pregnant and the creams are a gimmick. They may reduce the appearance in stretchmarks but they do very minimal work. Not much of a huge difference in all honesty.
The people that don't get stretchmarks are those with fantastic genetics. They believe the cream is helping them when all reality it is their genes.

[SirenDep]

Hydrating sure helps not to get them, though.

[Stacyzee]

It may help a bit. But if you're prone to get stretch marks there's not much a cream can do to help

[thegingersnap16]

I hear used coffee grinds can help. But I guess you just want to say it's hopeless.

[Stacyzee]

www.babycentre.co.uk/.../how-can-i-prevent-stretch-marks here's a link that explains what I am saying

[Stacyzee]

I don't make these things up. Fact is fact.

People will always have their remedies to these things @thegingersnap16

[Dandeus]

Guys didn't come up with the term dad bod, chicks did. Some girls like huskier guys... they're "like teddy bears" and other such things. If they want to call it dad bod, who cares?

[Stacyzee]

I cafe actually cause it's not a dad bod, it's from being out of shape. It has nothing to do with being a Dad unlike Mom bod.

But hey , I love all body types here.
No hate.

[Stacyzee]

*I care

[Riggers]

''had no choice in the body they have but the men do!''

Ugh... -_-...

Yes, The dad bod cannot be compared to the mombod, Though, Both are unnatractive in their own right. So that links the two.

''Dad-Bod'' is not to suggest the body is a direct effect of enduring pregnancy, Dad-Bod is named what it is, Because typicall when a family has a baby, The man usually has to work longer hours etc to pay for the child more, And this results in him having less time (To workout and such), Which can cause depression and weight gain due to reliance on food for happiness (Due to dopamine releases from food ingestion).

So no... a lot of men cannot ''Control their dad bods'' so easily as you seem to put it. Sure, Some can, Hell, I would consider myself (Even though im 16), To have a ''Dad-Bod'', Though, The pictures you have provided are not ''Dad-bods'', Those are just 30-40 year olds with beer bellies,

The most famous example is Leo, The body type behind the ''Dadbod'' is visible muscles but a bit of fat, Basically to represent a man who was once buff but put on some weight (I. e as if a kid was born and made him go to the gym less, hence the name).
www.viralthread.com/.../leo.jpg

You can still see his muscle groupings and stuff, Just there is a layer of fat on top.

Like i said, Personally i would say i have a ''Dad bod'', Im kinda muscular on my arms and shoulders and legs, I just have a little belly like in the Leo picture. (though, as many on here know i use to be pretty obese).

I know you like to make it sound like dad bods are easy to loose, But, Im at the point where if i loose any more weight, I will get loose skin as a result of loosing TOO much weight, And, From a poll i conducted a while back, Loose skin is far worse then a dad bod -
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1609416-would-you-ever-date-a-guy-with-loose-skin

So, Even though i hate my 'dadbod', And would like an ideal body, I guess im just fucking stuck with it and just gotta deal with it.

Its nice and encouraging to know people hate it so much though, So thank you, I appreciate the honesty.

[Riggers]

Typo, I put i was 16 instead of 17** D:

[Stacyzee]

I understand why the words "Dad bod" is used in relation to being a Dad. However, it's not a accurate or suitable term because (like you) guys can have that type of body way before ever becoming a Dad. So you my sir, have proved the point I am trying to make.

"It's nice and encouraging to know people hate it so much, So thank you,"
I never stated my personal preference. So if you want to automatically draw a conclusion that I feel a certain way towards a body type then you can.
All I am doing here, is differentiating the difference between a "Dad bod" and a "Mom bod" . I am pretty much stating why the Mom bod deserves it's title and why the Dad bod does not. A person can get this body at any stage in life. He can also lose the weight and look normal again.
A woman with tons of stretch marks and loose skin due to pregnancy will have to go through plastic surgery to look the way she did before.

Nobody ever said it was easy for a man to lose the weight. However, if we were to write

[Stacyzee]

a list right now there'd be a million different reasons why someone doesn't do the things they are supposed to for their health. It would be an endless book, and in every day life seems to be a endless cycle. It's easy for people to list reasons of why they can't.
No one is saying become an athlete. But a person can take as little as 20 minutes of their time to do exercises and adjust their diet if they really wanted weight loss.
Someone that makes excuses off hand already has a lack of commitment and is showing that they don't really want to be any different.

Also, as I have stated to other users there is a wide range of Dad bods.
The ones you showed look pretty much like the every day males.

[Stacyzee]

Also, you don't have a Dad bod... you have loose skin which is a separate issue. When you're a bit older, you can put aside for surgery (if that's something you want to change).

[Riggers]

This is just it though, You are implying it IS a bad thing based on your wording alone,

''When will people start taking responsibility for neglecting their own bodies instead of coming up with a term that is "supposed to be widely accepted" or seen as the new trend in modern times''

You consider this body type, The same body type you then called ''everyday males'' as a form of ''Neglecting your body''.

Like i just said, I have no choice to loose myn that dosen't involve skin removal surgery, So its not as easy as you make it out to be.

And, Seriously, Do you think if some guy is busting his balls working 40-70 hours weeks, He can also find time and energy to work out and prepare a correct diet too?

Hell, I work 60 hours per week in construction, And after work i literally just do not have it in me to go to the gym, I am absolutely fucked. And im young, How do you think the older ones feel?

[Riggers]

''Also, you don't have a Dad bod... you have loose skin which is a separate issue''

Yes, Because you, A complete stranger who has never seen me knows what my body looks like? -_-.

Right now, I have no visible loose skin. The point i am making is, I have lost so much weight up to now, If i continue to loose any more, i WILL gain visible loose skin. (Like right now, My skin isn't hanging off or anything, But, If i pull on it its not as tight as it use to be, But you can't tell until you pull it, If i loose more fat then it will be loose all the time).

Combine being like 10-15lbish overweight with being fairly muscular, And what you have is a ''Dadbod'' my friend

Look at the ''Dadbod'' guy in this video, I swear to god, My body is basically exactly the same as his.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPR8NV9wrFM

[Stacyzee]

As I said previously, there's a WIDE range of dad bods. The photos I have posted are strictly discussing those who have the protruding bellies (Which does not fit into the every day average male body).
From a medical stand point it , it's risky to have a significant amount of abdominal fat. The fat in your belly is called visceral fat because it builds up in the spaces between and around your viscera internal organs like your stomach and intestines. This visceral fat in your middle makes toxins that affect the way your body works. Those chemicals are called cytokines that boost your chances of heart disease.
Someone that doesn't neglect their health wouldn't allow their bodies to get to such a extreme.

[Stacyzee]

If other people can get it done that are in the exact same situation, why can't those men? Too many excuses.

[Riggers]

By ''Those men'', Your pretty much implying myself too.

And, As I've just said, I can't afford a loose skin surgery, I don't know about you, But i dont have $30,000 lying around to conveniently blow on cosmetic surgery at 17... -_-.

[Stacyzee]

At some point in your life you will have that amount of money. Nowadays the new trend seems to be https://www.gofundme.com . There's plenty of people that will probably sympathize with you if you deliver your story well.
You're trying to find a reason to be offended, I said you don't have a Dad bod.
So if you want to include yourself... then alrightly then.

[Stacyzee]

You did something about your weight, so I'm not sure why you feel like this is about you.

[Stacyzee]

I know someone who is trying to lose weight now because he doesn't want to end up like his parents with high blood pressure/diabetes. He's 5'8 and 300 lbs.
So, yeah there comes a time when the weight catches up with you whether you read a post about it or not.

[Stacyzee]

So, if someone wants to hold a blind eye to the issues that can occur later on in life, and cover it up with a cute name like "Dad bod" then be my guest.

[Riggers]

My god, What are you missing here?

Dad bod, Implies a body type that is both overweight and muscular, It does NOT have to mean a father, It is mearly a name for that specific body type (Sort of like how some girls are Hourglass or apple or pear etc.)

So yeah, I do have a ''Dadbod'', And no, I likely never will have $30,000 to blow on such a thing. I don't know how much you earn, But to me that is an pretty unachieveable sum of money.

God damn, This is exactly what i mean !!! ''So, if someone wants to hold a blind eye to the issues that can occur later on in life, and cover it up with a cute name like "Dad bod" then be my guest.''

How am i turning a blind eye and tried to cover it up ? I actively tried to fix the problem and it went south now i live every day hating myself, Im hardly covering myself up with a cute name in denial am i? I'm in over-acceptance to a point of self disgust without the power to change it.

Your final 2 sentences are so hypocritical to the rest of the take.

[Stacyzee]

It's not hypocritical. Realistically, When people reach a certain weight health issues may arise. You choose to somehow want to ignore that fact. Why do you think diets exist? or people try to lose weight?
Also, YOU'RE not understanding.
Like I said, ANY ONE can have the Dad Bod so the term isn't suitable for it.

Like I said, you do not have the dad bod, you did something about your weight.
But you keep inserting yourself in this article to take offense.

[Riggers]

Why do i not have a DadBod? My body looks exactly the same as the guy in that video who DID have a dad bod, Whats the difference between me and him that makes our indentical bodies have different names?

You just said ''ANYONE can have the dadbod'', So why not me? What term would you call it?

I did do something about my weight, I was Obese, And lost weight, Now im at Dad-Bod levels of overweight, My ''Dad-Bod'' is the current end product of my weight loss, So, Again, What is the difference between a skinny person gaining weight + muscle to get a dad bod, And an obese person loosing weight + gaining muscle to get a dad bod?

Both look the same in the end right?

I am not inersting myself to take offence, You are saying a body type, Which is identical to my own, is bad to have. I am merely saying, its hypocritical of you to say how you dislike a body type and how bad/wrong it is, And then proceed at the end of the take to say '', then continue loving every inch of your flesh!''.

[Stacyzee]

None of the Dad bods I showed have loose skin. The person who coined the term did not refer to those who do.
I don't know why you want to be offended when I am saying things that are medically correct and beneficial. Even as a skinny person , that was making the wrong choices with food I chose to eat right and exercise because I was unhealthy
I don't see what your problem is. You're just insecure and want to be offended

[Riggers]

Omfg, Mate, Listen, I DO NOT Have loose visible loose skin right now, You see that video i showed you? My body, Literally looks EXACTLY the same, Do you see loose skin on him? No...
I am saying if i lose any more weight i WILL thats why im stuck at a dad bod!.

God damn, I am not being offended !, I just find it silly of you to be able to talk about how unhealthy a body is, How bad it is and how much you dont agree with it, And then IMMEDIATELY after say how people who ARE like that should love themselves and stuff, Like... What?

How can you tell someone they have a bad body then expect them to like themselves?

Im not offended, I already hate my body and know others do to, But for gods sake, Its just annoying when people say it, And then act like they never and encourage you to still likeyourself even though they just insulted you,

Get what im saying?

[Stacyzee]

I can't watch videos on my phone.
So, no I didn't see what you were talking about.

Look I'm over this back and forth.
This article was supposed to be about why a Dad bod shouldn't be called one , and why a Mom bod is more suiting to its title.
I have nothing against the Dad bod , however I call it the way I see it. As a health care worker and a nursing student it's unhealthy to have a significant amount of abdominal fat whether you love yourself or not.
Sadly too many people choose to act before it's too late.
I think you just want people to sugarcoat and tell you how healthy that is, but I will not.
People should love themselves if they are contented with their body , however they must be knowledgeable that continuing with a lack of care for their body can result in health conditions down the road. The problem with this generation is they'd rather make up terms like "Dad bod" or scream curvy girl pride when they are far beyond what those real images display

[Stacyzee]

Deluding your mind does nothing for it. That is all

[Riggers]

OH MY GOD. Are you not understanding me or something ? Did you not read the 15+ times i literally said i understand my body is A) Unhealthy B) Vile Aesthetically and C) I appreciate you for being honest about it ?

What do you mean i want people to sugarcoat it for me ? I literally just spent about 30 minutes saying how bad my body is and how other people are right to think the same...

I know my body is unhealthy, And i know it looks terrible, I know there is literally fucking NOTHING i can do to change it, And i fucking hate myself and want to die every fucking day because of it,

My point, From the very very very fucking begining, Has simply been, YES, Dad Bods do look bad, We all know, Unless you are ripped with abs and shit, You are worthless as a male human being, But for fucks sake!, You ain't gotta treat people like me, who CAN NEVER achieve that ultimate body as a mear 'Someone to lazy to change who dosent accept themsleves' or someshit

Id love a nice body, But i can't.

[Stacyzee]

Look, I have nothing against body types all I'm saying is be knowledgeable about what can happen. The same goes for me as a skinny person.
I wish you didn't feel the extremes of which you do. My intent is not to make you feel worse I was simply making a differentiation in this article , sadly this has gone far from the topic.
When I see people... I don't see them according to "who looks healthy" and "who doesn't" .
I see them for their soul.
If it makes you feel any better I've never dated anyone ripped with abs.
In fact my partner would fit under the description of Dad bod.
As long as you project that you are a good human being and learn how to talk to girls you'll find someone to love you down the road. You are not hopeless.

[Riggers]

Kudos to your partner then, He achieved an almost impossible task.

For the rest of us though, Any form of social relationship it just completely out of the question unless you have lots of money or something. Thank you for the empty encouragement anyway though.

And, Dont worry, You never made me feel worse about myself, I have always felt this bad about myself, I am just saying, I agree with your points about my body type being bad. I also too think people with my sort of body should be ashamed of it, And its certainly not something one should have self respect over.

If one has the power to change a body type like myn, They should, I just do not have that power, So sadly im stuck as i am, Which is pretty shit, But yeah, I agree, Guys with my body who can change should change, Im merely stating, Those who can't change like me, Whilst yeah they have vile bodies, We need to accept the fact there is nothing they can do about it.

[Stacyzee]

You're right. There's nothing you can do but come to terms with how you look. No one is perfect. Even those that appear like they are have some flaw they wish they could change.

[stubbsy]

Child birth does take its toll on the female body, and its unfortunate to the ones it does, but if I was honest, if I went through pregnancy and child birth, I would expect that, because women are singled out for this task only, no man can imagine what it all entails, but I know I don't speak for every man here, but in my eyes, whatever pregnancy and birth does to a womans body, its a reminder to how unique women are and how much we fail to appreciate, that being a woman is something a woman could only do, no man could or would if he had the choice, be the one who solely created not just man but the human race. What man would be able to accept that responsibility when all man does is thrive for power through the threat of death and destruction, x

[COCOCHANEL]

the last line ♡

[Nuqood]

Do you even possess a pair of balls? Your disingenuous disposition is obvious to everyone who doesn't have a hard-on for male belittlement; You look like a jackass berating yourself for female attention.

[lumos]

Yeeeah, I'm never getting pregnant. Kudos to women who happily go through all that and feel ok looking like that after giving birth, it's really admirable. Due to my anxiety though, I would never be able to cope with such drastic changes made to my body. :/

As for the dad bod, from what I can tell it's just appreciating the average male body of a 30-50 year old. Not just a fat or unhealthy body, but more like an average body with a lil' bit of muscle and a lil' bit of pudge.
This is what I think of when I head "dad bod" :
cdn.playbuzz.com/.../...4f24-8dde-b7cee31068da.jpg
The guy is clearly taking care of himself but he's not a gym rat or anything. That's pretty much the ideal body for me. Love it.

[Stacyzee]

I find nothing wrong with the Dad bod. I stated to a previous user that I like all body types. Dad bod fits into the normal standard of what people are, however there is a wider range of "Dad bods". They all don't look like what you showed. When the term "Dad bod" blew up a lot of men didn't waste time to show their beer bellies on social and other body parts.
It sort of was sort of like the "curvy girl movement".
Some girls fit into the standard of curvy while others are clearly overweight and are saying that they are.
I am all for people being contented with their looks.
However,
Being a Dad has nothing to do with having that body.
You can get that body when you have no kids, unlike the Mom bod.

[Stacyzee]

Thanks for commenting by the way. R u sure u don't ever want to get pregnant? is it purely do it physical changes that (may or may not ) occur?

[lumos]

Yes I know there's a wide range of what the "dad bod" really is, but the picture I posted is the image that pops up in my head that I also prefer. :) And yeah I know being a dad has nothing to do with the body, I'm guessing that the term is just for men ages 30-50, a lot of whom are dads by that time and age.
And yes, I'm sure. Not just for the physical changes but also because I believe I don't have a maternal instinct. Absolutely nothing about kids appeal to me. Like for other people, they might want kids because they think parenting is fun, they like the fact that the kids are a part of them, that they get to see them grow up into cool individuals (hopefully) etc. And all of that since nice I guess, but I just feel very "meh" towards the entire idea of kids.

[lumos]

sounds nice*

[Stacyzee]

Do you think you'll ever change your mind about kids?

And I agree some people just don't have that maternal instinct. But usually, when a woman has her own those feelings change.

[lumos]

No, I've felt this way for 20 years already. In fact, when I was younger, I thought there was something wrong with me because I had no fascination whatsoever for babies. Yeah, I thought they were cute, but I didn't feel the need to hold them, feed them or ask loads of questions about them. And I don't think I'd ever get kids without feeling a maternal instinct at first, hoping I'd get it once I have kids. That really wouldn't work for me at all.

[Anonymous]

Why do people always bitch about everything? So what if people try to make themselves feel good about themselves? Why does it effect you? There's so many people who try to live up to you and many other people's standards but can't because of genetics, stress, sadness, etc. I have know 3 people who felt so bad because of people like you always putting them down. They would hurt themselves and not eat for weeks to try to be perfect. What you're doing is so messed up. The dad bod isn't unhealthy or obsessed, it's actually very healthy to have a few extra pounds. Do none of you people who bitch actually study what you complain about? Seriously? The f###?

[Stacyzee]

I notice on this site that anytime someone expresses a strong opinion , it's called bitching or complaining.
Grow a pair !
Not everyone is bitching or complaining.
I'm stating a fact.
I have nothing against bodies like what I showed.
I am just simply stating it's a unfair comparison to pretty much place it in the same category as the Mom bod.
Stop hiding behind cute names and realize , that yes you are out of shape.
This reminds me of the overweight girls who say they are curvy.
there's nothing wrong with your body , just don't hide behind these names.

[Stacyzee]

Sorry If you feel I am criticizing the Dad bod b

[Stacyzee]

but that's not what I'm doing at all.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm just pissed because I lost a good friend because people kept calling him fat. Even though the doctor said he was very healthy people kept putting him down and he couldn't take it

[Stacyzee]

I feel sorry for your friend , he didn't deserve that.
I don't go around insulting peoples bodies , those that do are terrible and probably insecure about themselves (so they need to put others down in order to feel good). I think people should embrace their bodies and imperfections.
A way of doing that is not hiding behind a cute name.
Someone can say so what if I'm overweight? I still love myself.
it's all about self pride.
As long as the person is happy and healthy why should anyone tell them to lose weight?

[Stacyzee]

And what do you mean lost a friend?

[Stacyzee]

He committed suicide?

[Opinion Owner]

He didn't mean to but yeah

[Stacyzee]

My sympathy goes out to you <3.
I know you already have built up emotions from losing your friend. But understand this trend isn't that. I made no criticism towards dad bods I am just highlighting a difference.
*thumbs up

[Scrambledagain]

I met this 45 yr old friends with benefits and she is also a little consciountious about her body due to her pregnancy. She is pretty hot for her age but yeah you can see a scar or two, which doesn't bug me as its only natural for this to occur. she is, hands down, the naughtiest person I have met, she's awesome, stretch marks and all.

[GreatnessPersonified]

I can't understand why people make a big deal of Dadbods on men who are old enough to be dads. If you're 40 and over, your body isn't as youthful as a 18-20 year old.
It takes A LOT of work to keep it looking good at that age, like the Rock or Nathan Jones (who's almost 50)
At that age, body is less important than being able to take care of a woman and her children (that are hopefully your children)

[HereWeGo12]

are you nationalist!

[Stacyzee]

Personally, I don't care about Dad bods in general. What bothers me, is the term itself.
A guy can have a "Dad bod" and not even be a Father. He can attain that body type in early life.
My whole reason for comparing it to the Mom bod is because, a Mom bod actually has to do with the fact that she is a Mom.
The term "Dad bod" is useless and has nothing to do with being a Dad.

[GreatnessPersonified]

Well, I was talking about men who are OLD enough to be dads, like late 30s-40s and up. Yes, I know that any guys can become a dad after puberty, but I'm not counting that.
I'm 31, and I'm finding it hard to have reasons to stay in shape other than I want to.
I have a cushy job, take care of my family with smarts and wit, and not with physicality (like a hunter would), and even though I'm a martial artist, I'm not looking to fight, all the time.
So, I find it hard to care.

[Stacyzee]

You're right. The more responsibilities you get on your plate.. the harder it is to be as active as you used to.
No one is saying a body with extreme definition. But small changes in life can life... such as changing your diet. Or instead of (taking the train to work) and getting off of a stop 2 blocks away from your job. (Leave your home earlier) and get off 2-3 stops before your initial stop.
Walk more.
When you get into the routine it's not such a hassle anymore.

[Stacyzee]

*No one is saying have a body with extreme definition

[GreatnessPersonified]

Stuff like walking extra distance to work will improve health by a lot, but won't get rid of dadbod alone.

[Stacyzee]

Yeah but realistically people have to start small and progress from there.
I find that people have a harder time making a change when they start off huge.
Starting small and building on that, gets you in the mode and prepares you for routine and lifestyle change in the future.

[GreatnessPersonified]

I get it.

[lv4lv]

1) I'm pretty sure no guy coined the term "dad bod".
2) Yes, it's unhealthy, but some people are attracted to it and they need a reasonable way to say a body-type.
3) "Dad bod"s are about 30-50 pounds less than what pictures you have shown. It's more like this: www.viralthread.com/.../leo.jpg

[Stacyzee]

nutritionandpersonaltraining.files.wordpress.com/.../hot-dad-bod-600x377.jpg
www.rockfm.mx/.../...5-04%20a%20las%2016.11.08.png
tristanbuttle.files.wordpress.com/.../dad-bod.jpg
Those don't look so bad. They pretty much have a range though in Dad bod's from what I'm seeing.

[AdamThomas]

Yeah, the idea of a Dad bod never made sense to me. It's just an excuse to be lazy, just the same as fat acceptance and all that. All anybody ever does nowadays is make excuses and complain about how hard their life is and how unfair it is to be held to any standard at all. We're becoming a generation of pathetic weaklings.

[Northeast106]

You did leave out medical conditions, and biology as well. Dad bod was just a nice way of saying an average, aging, family man's body. Obviously it's not ideal, but when you have family sometimes your goals and your personal time are put aside for others. Most moms and dads have less time for themselves, between work, kids, sports programs, doctor appointments, etc. Aside from that maintaining a good body only does so much, your face is going to age, it's not like your going to be hot when your 80 years old lol.

[Stacyzee]

I didn't want to turn this into a lecture , I only wanted to speak about the physical aspect since "Dad bod" and "Mom bod" are based on that.

[Stacyzee]

I exercise , go to uni, work , take care of a kid. All it takes is twenty min , five days a week for me to work out. Not everyone wants to put in work.

[Northeast106]

That's true, sometimes it's laziness and bad diet or habits. Those are really bad stretch marks above though, I've never seen them that bad in person.

[Stacyzee]

Girls with tummies like that usually wear shirts that don't show it. There's a lot of women walking around with stomachs similar to that. U just don't know it

[Stacyzee]

Also stretch marks tend to fade over time. It will always be there but perhaps it won't be as red and a few years later

[Northeast106]

When I meant in person, I meant single mothers I've personally been with, not random women in public. I know some people have body scars though, I have two keloids myself from burns.

[Stacyzee]

Oh ok
How would u react if one of the single mom's had that stomach?

[Northeast106]

Honestly I don't know. I've seen stretchmarks before, but not like those ones. I've even seen burn scars on a girl all over her legs from when she was a little girl. That didn't really bother me, but that first pic especially looks bad, I'm not going to lie.

[Anonymous]

At best maybe some guy facetiously referred to his figure as a dad bod and called it attractive knowing it wasn't all that. But I'm pretty sure women came up with the "Dad bod" and perpetuated it. I highly doubt guys are coming up with this to avoid taking responsibility for neglecting their bodies.

"Mum bods" aren't a thing because they just simply aren't a thing. Absolutely nothing necessitates a female equivalent in this respect. But if we are to draw any parallels in terms of attractiveness, it would be to MILFs.

So, you can say you don't like the dad bod and can call bullshit on so many women liking it - and you can point to the rough shape a woman's body can be in after birth, but why are you trying to make a parallel between them when they have so little to do with one another?

[Stacyzee]

You missed the entire point of this article. theoverlookedonlookers.files.wordpress.com/.../point_missed.gif
I don't think you are familiar with the term "Dad bod" . Dad bod was made by a College student named Mackenzie Pearson. She was trying to empower men who don't fall into society's standard of fit.
My whole point in comparing the "Dad bod" to the "Mom bod" is to make a huge highlight in the fact, that a Dad bod can be attained without ever having to be a Dad.
A Mom bod on the other hand does.
I am stating that the Dad bod should not be placed in the same category as the Mom bod.
They are totally different.
Dad bod's are guys who don't really care after their health.
A Mom can be a woman who does exactly that... but it does not show because pregnancy marked its territory forever.
I am not here to dispute what is attractive or what is not.
I made no personal reference to what I like.
I didn't even criticize others for liking it.
It amazes me that people insert their own words in this article when I never made any mention of that at all.

[Prettygurl12]

And that, ladies and gents, is the physical representation of about 55% of the reason why I do not want children.

[Stacyzee]

Children are a blessing. But not every one is willing to take the chance to see if they will be a) the mom whose body looks almost exactly like it did pre pregnancy or b) the mom whose body is ruined

[Prettygurl12]

I don't much care for children. Maternal instinct is not the cloth I was cut from. I have to catch myself before I apologize when people tell me they're expecting and I have to correct myself more times than I can count for referring to a child as "it." If I had a kid I would tell my husband he will be then paying for me to get plastic surgery to correct my body. I want as few reminders of the child's existence as possible.

It's best that I just not have any to begin with because I wouldn't like it and would find it a chore to care for and not at all rewarding. I only see the negatives they have. And the "positives" don't outweigh the negatives to me. I don't want any of the things that come with being a parent. Never mind the whole body destruction thing. I don't want to send a son to prom or be the mother of the bride. I don't want to sit on PTA meetings or throw a child's birthday. I don't want to be a grandparent. So I'm cut out to not have kids lol

[Stacyzee]

You most certainly are ! You see the moms that end up having their bodies ruined wouldn't trade their kids in for the world even if it meant having a pre pregnancy figure again.
Your outlook screams , no kids !
That's okay.
We are not all wired to be the nurturing type.

[Anonymous]

I hate to break it to you, but a girl came up with "dad bod." Most dudes have a dad bod and want to be in better shape, so you're really drawing dead on this one.

[Stacyzee]

Read below at my responses to various users. I know a college girl named MacKenzie Pearson coined the term. That is not my issue. My issue is how can it be called "the Dad bod" when you can have that physique before ever becoming a Dad? That is the whole reason for me mentioning the "Mom bod" in this article because those figures have to do with being a mom. So the phrase suits it.

[Stacyzee]

Also , im not concerned about whether most men have that body type or not , that was never mentioned in this article.
There are different levels of the Dad bod, i am also pretty sure most men dont have a protruding belly.

[Anonymous]

I think women do have a choice in what they want their bodies to look like. Every woman should know the risks of her body not being the same after having a baby. If they don't know these risks then perhaps they shouldn't have a baby to begin with?

As far as the "dad bod" stuff it all just seems like an excuse for fat, lazy, men to be attractive to women.

I really didn't need to see those pictures. Absolutely disgusting.

[Stacyzee]

Whose the lucky woman you're getting pregnant if that is your view?

Also, no one knows how their body will react to pregnancy.
So, it's not a choice.
They didn't choose to be that way.

Saying you're not having kids is a way different decision than saying no to something like juice.
Way bigger decision. Some people want kids.

[Opinion Owner]

You don't think women should care about the risks of having a baby before having one? That is rather unfortunate. I hope most women aren't like that. Even as a guy I'd want to weight my options on having a baby. Can I afford it? Am I in the right environment for it? Will I have the support from the child's mother? Etc.

I never said anybody knows how their body will react, but they should know their body WILL react and that's the risk. Again risk doesn't mean guaranteed. It is potential. So YES it is a choice.

Yeah well with kids comes responsibility and risks. Sorry that's the way it is.

[Opinion Owner]

*weigh

[Stacyzee]

I don't know what you are turning this into. We were speaking about strictly physical appearance now you're turning this into some discussion over financial stability etc. What the hell? Stay on point and quit trying to throw insults because I called you out on the truth.

[Opinion Owner]

I was talking risks even as the father of the child. You sound bitter. Calm down lol.

[Stacyzee]

A woman that really wants a baby doesn't care about the changes in her body until after the fact. Even then , that is probably her smallest priority.

It's not a choice in what happens to your body.
I would say it was if a woman could control her hormones and genetics.

Weigh your options baby or stretchmark belly? A woman wouldn't care much about a belly in that case.

[Opinion Owner]

Children can be stressful in a lot of ways. The physical body is one of them. If you want to talk physical then what one guy said on here is right too. When you have kids it's harder to spend more time on your body and thus sometimes having kids may result in the father getting a "dad bod" hence the name. Either way I still feel like the attraction towards it is ridiculous, but women came up with it to begin with and I'm a straight male so...

[Opinion Owner]

Well then if her body isn't much of a concern then she shouldn't complain when unattractive natural things happen to it as a result of having the baby. Not that I'd wish bad things on people, but still I have no sympathy for that.

It's a choice in having a baby when you know there are risks.

Okay then why complain if the woman doesn't care? Lol.

[Stacyzee]

Well she will probably care but it's not like she'd wish she never had a baby over the physical changes.

[Stacyzee]

www.babycentre.co.uk/.../how-can-i-prevent-stretch-marks here's a link that says more

[Stacyzee]

Wrong person sorry

[Rpf1918]

I don't know who said they were the same thing, as it seems obvious they are not. Of course men put on weight or get a little rounder as they age. Our affluent society allows people to pay the bills working at jobs that are physically undemanding, and sedentary lifestyles are more common than ever. And of course guys that have moved past the hunting mode they were in when they were focused on attracting a woman will smooth out somewhat. Yes these are all lifestyle choices, but people tend to go along with the norm, and this is now the norm. So if guys want to say they have "dad bod", and not be ashamed of it, nothing's wrong with that in my opinion. These factors are all contributors to the overall "mom bod" by the way. It's just that guys don't generally get the stretch marks, and obviously don't get the "pooch" from a stretched out uterus.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Don't be content with yourself. Strive to improve from the inside-out. Your body, your personality, your weaknesses, your character and attributes, your intelligence and social awareness, and so on.

Being content, giving up, not prioritizing self-improvement just seems like an awful way to live.

[Humping_Tornadoes]

I agree with this 100%. Neither women or men should get fat to the point of no recovery. Better make the best of it while you are still young.

[zagor]

It's a "Dad bod" because you get so busy working and running kids around that staying in shape is no longer a priority. Plus you already have a woman who is kind of stuck with you by mutual obligation to take care of kids so you don't have to look hot to get laid.

[Stacyzee]

Why is it called a dad bod though? When you can acquire that body in early life as a kid? I think the name itself makes no sense.

[zagor]

I thought I just explained that. When you have no kids you have time and motivation to stay in shape. With kids that is no longer a priority.

[Stacyzee]

A dad bod isn't distinctive because you can acquire that bod even in early life. So for personal weight gain to be called a dad bod just because you have more responsibilities in life makes no sense. It should just be called gaining weight.
The Dad bod isn't distinctive like the mom bod. Because with a mother's body she can't achieve that look pre pregnancy. (Loose abdominal skin , tons of stretch marks , saggy breasts etc.) So the name makes sense.

[zagor]

But most guys DON'T acquire it in early life. So it is associated with a time in life that is also around the time most men become fathers.

HIV is called an STD even though you can get it from a blood transfusion...

[Stacyzee]

I disagree. I've seen plenty of out of shape guys before the age 20 with similar bodies. Why do you think in America they are cutting out certain drink sizes in fast food restaurants (XL) ? Why do you think in public schools they are giving the kids healthier options now? Obesity is a problem. Americans have far too much available. To say most people are fit before they become a dad is inaccurate.
The term itself isn't only suiting for a Dad which is why i feel it is irrelevant.

Hiv is a whole different story and off topic.

[zagor]

Look at a bunch of guys who are 20. Look at a bunch of guys who are 40. Compare the AVERAGE physique in each group.

There are people who have a "beer belly" who never drink beer.

[Anonymous]

To me "dad bod" means he's busy doing family stuff instead of living at the gym. Maybe not obese, but softer than in his single life. Though I know guys who are awesome dads who have six packs. But not everyone had the same work obligations. Plus, I think I read that domestic life slightly lowers a guys testosterone so he's a but cuddlier and calmer for his role.

"Dad bod" on a 20 year old college student, though. That's poor diet and low care level.

[Kikikenobi]

yeah its not supposed to be taken so seriously i dont think. my boyfriend is kinda out of shape and i say he has a dad bod as a term of endearment. really he's just a little fat, but i don't mind... actually i kinda like it.

[Anonymous]

I personally think the pregnancy thing is an excuse to get away with no longer looking as fit as you were before you had your baby. You claim men have a choice in the body's they but women don't. Yes they do. I understand pregnancy is hard but there are plenty of women out there who go to the gym and work hard so they can maintain the bodies they had pre-pregnancy.

[Stacyzee]

A woman's body rarely ever is the way it was pre-pregnancy after she has given birth. Assuming we are speaking about a woman who got back down to her average height. I am speaking about things that cannot be erased such as stretch marks , and loose (excess) abdominal skin (as shown in the first pic of the girl). That's something no amount of exercise or cream can ever fix or fade away. Surgery is required.
That's not an excuse.. it's a fact.
I don't think men will understand this unless they are able to have multiple babies themselves.

[Stacyzee]

**average weight

[RachelBrigs]

She isn't talking about weight.
there's nothing a woman can do about the loose stetch marked skin on her tummy and her boobs that got saggy and stretch marked. Even if she gets back to her pre-pregnancy weight she'll have those problems. And after pregnancy a lot of women experience problems with their lady bits too.

[GirlScout]

I think the Dad-Bod is just a normal guy, hairy chest, bit pale, not muscly but stocky instead. I don't think it's fat, it's stocky and sturdy.