Why you should never discourage someone's dream

All of us have some a dream. We think about it, we breathe it, we dream it. We take every single opportunity to make it come true. And if we reach it? We feel like we're on top of the world. We feel and we are invincible.

Why you should never discourage someone's dream

But then someone asks you what's your biggest dream and you excitedly tell them and they laugh at your face. The smile is instantly wiped off your face and you feel like you've been slapped. They finaly stop laughing and simply say "Good luck with that." and take a sip of their wine.

You get out of there as soon as you can and take a long walk to collect your thoughts. You've just opened up to someone and they mocked you- your dream. You feel bad for one night and the next day you're fine but you never look at that person that mocked you the same way. You just can't take them seriously anymore because they can't take you seriously.

Here's why it's not alright to discourage someone to pursue their dream:

1. They will lose all respect for you

Because you've obviously no respect for them by mocking their dream. By saying stuff like "You won't make it." or "You don't have what it takes to do it." you're not showing them reality but bringing them down. Yes, it's a tough world out there. Yes, it's hard to reach your dreams. But you aren't doing anyone a favor by telling them they aren't good enough. This shows you don't respect them because you're basically insulting their whole being. So, naturally, they'll do the same for you- they won't bring you down if they're mature but don't expect them to ever open up to you. It just won't happen because they know they can't count on you to be positive.

2. They might have low self esteem

And maybe you're not the first person to bring them down. What's the cause of that low self esteem? Could be a number of things but the important thing is that you're tearing apart a already torn paper. Maybe they come from a bad family and they don't have any support and their dream is their only hope to get away from them. To make something out of themselves. Perhaps they've heard their parents tell them they can't do it plenty of times and you'll be just adding more salt on the wound. What if their dream could actually make a difference in this world? What if they could save someone's life? And what if you could be the very person who could push them up but instead you're pushing them down.

The possibilities are endless. The point is that if you don't have anything nice to say and isn't constructive criticism, then it's better not to say anything. Be their support if you want but don't bring them down because you'll be making a difference by choosing not to burst their idea.

In the end, you should follow your dream regardless of what's someone saying about it because you owe yourself to give it a shot.


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What Guys Said 9

  • While I applaud the notion, sometimes dreams need to be dashed.
    Years ago I worked in a children's home. We had one boy who was going to go to some random college to play basketball. That was his plan, the only thing he thought and talked about. The thing is he was 5' and 200 pounds without an athletic bone in his body. He had never thought about any other future than to play basketball for this one specific college. In his case his dream was holding him back. As he entered his senior year I was present as the director of the home kindly but firmly crushed his dream. It needed to be done so he could look at a realistic future. To make realistic plans for after high school.

    Dreams are all good if they are based in reality. But chasing a rainbow will only hinder a person's life.

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    • Do you know what my drama teacher says? That some people have natural talent and that some people simply need to work harder. Instead of crushing his dream, you could've helped this boy- advised him to practice more and to lose weight. I hope he didn't listen to you and I hope you'll turn on the tv one day and see him playing basketball with magic Johnson and you'll think "Damn, I was wrong."

    • He had one year to make the world's biggest transformation. Wasn't going to happen. Dreams are great when they are based in reality. Sometimes hard work is not enough.

    • Yes, but instead of telling him "You can't do this." you could've told him to give it a shot and to have realistic expectations about it.

  • Great Take, I agree, mostly...

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  • What if their dream is to become a super saiyan?

    www.2fufu.com/.../Birdylovesit-Goes-Real-Life-Super-Saiyan

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  • What if their dream is to rob a bank?

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  • In summary, because is none of your business. Live and let live.

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  • If people aren't laughing at your dreams then your dreams and goals are not big enough. I would take it positively and also as a motivation!

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  • If people's dreams are unrealistic or entitled, then sorry, their balloon should be burst -- before reality ends up killing them. It's for their own good.

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What Girls Said 1

  • Not all dreams are attainable though. Its hard for someone in the west, or specifically the US to understand that because for the most part they have soooo many opportunities around them. Meanwhile someone in Siberia may want to become a freelance artist, but it just isn't going to work out because even just being a doctor only earns you $600 a month there in Siberia. So never mind being a free lance artist because you're just in no way going to be able to support yourself.

    Or if you want to become an olympic medalist, Im sorry to say, but not everyone is capable of it. Some people need a more realistic direction instead of going into a route that will clearly take them nowhere. People can indeed always work on achieving their dream, however, they are always going to need a plan B in this world. And thats just the reality of it. Its like that with most wannabe premier league footballers, I mean sure its an ambitious dream, you can try working for it if you are somewhat capable, but don't just have that as your only target, like a lot of football player wannabe guys do, dropping out of education to become a player and they end up being one of those 95% of people who don't make it even though they worked so hard for it.

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