The Near 30's Scare! I Never Want To Be Old!

[Stacyzee]

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Oh my gosh, has it happened already?

Ever since reaching the age of 25, I've always thought,

"Wow, I am close to 30".

But never did I think those years would wind itself down so fast.

What's the difference between 27, 28, and 29?, I've asked myself.

Nothing, besides the realization that your age can now be rounded off to 30.

When you were much younger you always thought 30 was old.

It's amazing that now you're almost that age, your perspective as widely changed.

You still feel youthful!

You still feel full of life!

Hell, you can even still pass for someone much younger.

Even though that is the case,

at this point in your life, you find that you are more self aware than ever before.

You thought you knew yourself well 10 years ago,

but now you have an even deeper understanding of who you are.

Your lives journey as taught you that.

The age 30 has got you coming to terms with the fact that from this point on,

your life will continue to move forward at a rapid rate.

It won't be long before you are considered "middle-aged" or "old".

Oh no, what has happened?

Have the tables now turned?

You were considered young your entire life.

But now you aren't because as quickly as 30 came, so will 40, 50 and then 60.

Oh my gosh?

Don't you wish you were 29 all over again!

Doesn't that age seem so young?

We cannot stop aging!

But what we can stop is worrying about the things that we have no control over.

Life is the longest gift any one of us will ever have.

Instead of beating yourself up about getting older,

Instead of dwelling on the fact you may not have accomplished as much as

a person your age,

Instead of wishing things were different than the way they are.

Accept reality, even if it is harsh!

Just L-I-V-E.

There's nothing you can do about the past.

But there's a lot you can do about the future.

Some day we will all grow old.

Some day we will all reflect.

We will realize the little things we used to obsess over, should have never mattered.

Work towards achieving the greatest of your ability.

And if even if you didn't do it as fast as others, remember the race is not for the fastest,

it is for the swiftest.

<3

Your accomplishments will always remain timeless.

[OlderAndWiser]

The wisdom and confidence that you develop as you get older compensate for some of the physical changes. Teens think that they invented romance and have a monopoly on sex; how could anyone over the age of 40 possibly still be having sex?

News flash! You are never too old to find romance and as long as you are reasonably healthy, you are not too old for sex. Occasionally, I will post an opinion on a sexual topic and a teen will respond that I am a creep for even discussing that subject with anyone. . . "like, ewwww!" My usual response is: "at what age do you plan to stop having sex? At what age will you say that you no longer want romance or love?"

Life changes as you get older but there are always things in life that will bring us joy, satisfaction, excitement, and adventure. You can't change it (getting older) so you might as well embrace it!

Excellent myTake, as usual!

[Stacyzee]

The physical change in appearance I am dreading.
I am used to being seen as attractive.
That will probably be the hardest thing for me.

Thanks for the compliment! <3 Your advice is goal!

I agree with you as well, I don't plan on stopping sex any time soon.
I will continue as long as my body lets me, even if I am past 80!

[Stacyzee]

*Your advice is gold

[OlderAndWiser]

God is quite kind to us in our old age. I look at my 63 year old girlfriend and see a very pretty lady. I know that she's not 23 and her appearance has aged, but I look at her and see a pretty girl and I get turned on!

[OlderAndWiser]

"Your advice is gold." That is the kindest compliment I have ever received on this site. I appreciate the superlative and will try not to lose track of my constant quest for humility.

[Stacyzee]

Is that because you love her? Is that why she appears pretty?

[OlderAndWiser]

The first time I met her (8 months ago,) I thought she was an attractive lady. Falling in love with her has certainly made her more beautiful. :)

[jacquesvol]

If you look OK now, you'll look OK at 40 too, believe me (I'm from the internet! Lol) No joke, a woman's best years are after 30.

[RandomPerson1324]

Do you ever find that younger girls like older guys?

What has been the biggest age gap that you've been with?

[BaileyisDarcy]

My Nan (may she rest in peace) hit 104 last year. Born in 1910 died 2014.

Spent her last six months in a nursing home.

The oldest of three she outlived both siblings. Two of her children.

Nan lived through both world wars, survived breast cancer and was felled only by a vindictive woman with a heart of stone.

Something Nan once said is that you aren't old until you're in a nursing home. When it takes you until you're 104 years old to be put in a nursing home, it really puts in perspective all these thirty year olds complaining of old age.

[dark_goofy_weirdness]

I totally agree. Why do people complain about turning 30 anyways? If they think 30 is old then they got a long road ahead of them. If you turn 30 then why complain when it will not make you any younger.

[Anonymous]

I turned 29 yesterday, and I feel ancient. I have wanted to be young again every year since I was 14, because that was when I was forced to grow up and come to terms with this world being a horrible, hopeless and evil place. The greatest of my ability wasn't good enough when the whole world set itself against me- I'm told that the things which I obsess over, the only things which ever gave me a purpose in life, were meaningless, and that I never mattered. I've never accomplished anything that anyone else has ever acknowledged as being meaningful or worthwhile, and at my age, I've had to accept that I never will- it's too late for me now. I will never find acceptance, kindness, or happiness from anyone- I'm too old for anyone to accept me now.

Since then, I've mourned every single birthday. I've never celebrated a single birthday since I turned 13, because I never had anyone to celebrate with; even by my own family members, who I chose to sacrifice all of my hopes, dreams, aspirations and prospects in life for, saw my existence as something to be commiserated, not to be celebrated. For the past half of my life now, I've wanted to die. The only reason why I haven't killed myself yet is because I still care about my parents too much to hurt them by doing it, and because even though they constantly tell me that everyone on earth would be happier if I'd never been born, I'm also told that wanting to end my life, even if it's only because they want me gone, makes me the most selfish, egocentric and evil person on earth.

I want to die in my sleep- I've only been eating intermittently for the past four years, less and less, and I've finally stopped eating altogether in the past fortnight, because there's no hope left to sustain myself for. I've stopped drinking as well- I'm still not strong enough to abstain from drinking altogether, but I'm down to less than one glass of water a day. Every 'Act of God' in my life has come whenever I've dared to hope and to try and be optimistic again- come down from the heavens to crush that source of hope, end that pitiful chance in life and increase my suffering. But now, just once, I want God to take pity on me. I won't live to see 30. I've had enough of life, and I'm not strong enough to go on any longer.

[Stacyzee]

I wish I knew you personally. I would show I love and care about you.
As old as we think we are , we aren't even halfway throughout our life span.
I want to tell you have hope but it seems as if you have no where to pull that from, youve never been loved.
I will offer you my ear, I feel thats the most I can do.
I'm here to listen if you ever need to talk just pm me.

[Opinion Owner]

I tried following you, but it still won't let me pm you.

[kxera]

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[Anonymous]

I completely freaked out the day before I turned 30. It felt like everything was going to change and I didn't know what to do with my life, and it didn't help that my good friend, who is only a few months younger than I, kept calling me grandma because she thought that was hysterical. In a full blown depressed state, I blew out the candles on what turned out to be one of the best worth birthday's ever. I OD on cake that really upset my stomach, ended up sick in bed, but woke up the next morning feeling like nothing had really changed. I was still me. I still had the same amount of worry lines I had before I turned 30, my metabolism didn't die, and the guy at the coffee bar guessed that I was 5 years younger than I actually was when my friend told him that it was my birthday. I don't fault anyone for freaking out at that age. It's the first real age when people feel that age is coming on and its a time when you're really an adult. No one thinks a 30 year old is a kid anymore. But with every tick of the clock, we gain something new, some new knowledge, wisdom, adventure. When you put it into perspective like that, age seems exciting rather than so depressing.

[KDA20]

Like some of the older people who responded here I feel the same way, you couldn't pay me enough to be young again. My experience with milestone birthdays two months before my 29th birthday, bit of a freakout about being 29 nearly 30 then 30 came and went. 35/40/45 just passed me by someone will probably have to tell me that I have turned 50.
Sure my body ain't what it used to me but my persona has being moulded into a quite content place after 47 years of highs and lows.
The litmus test for anyone at my age is to look back and say if you met yourself as a teen, twenties, thirties maybe early 40s, what would you think - My appraisal would be probably a nice guy but too full of himself, good social acquaintance but not close friend material but now if I ask myself about the 47 year old me, I go yeah I could see myself becoming best friends with that guy.
Fantastic take as usual, Stacyzee, keep up good work.

[Stacyzee]

Thanks for the compliment <3
I'm really surprised you wouldn't want to be young again?
I wonder if I'll feel the same way when I'm older...
that definitely shows me there are a lot of life lessons that are learned as we age, that aren't worth trading for younger years.
That definitely adds to the bright perspective I'm trying to have.

[nymous1234]

such good advice i think! lol i always say i am not that afraid of getting older because I think i get better with age and you could not pay me to be 21 again. :P

[Anonymous]

I think everyone dies at 27, as in beyond that point, once you turn 28, you can no longer legitimately think you are "young" and no matter what you do, you are just not as cool as when you were 22.

having said that I don't care so much about being 29 or turning older but rather feel like I never got to do the stuff that people in their 20's are supposed to do, like, have tons of friends and fun and party, sleep with tons of girls, and establish a solid base for a nice career so that after you turn 30 you are considered a professional in that field, I just feel like I have missed out on the social life of a 20something person,

however, I did somehow managed to buy a not too bad apartment in a big city at 25, which definitely makes me less miserable than I would otherwise have been. And I also did find the balls to try starting a business at 24, not really a business more like selling stuff at a short-term rent shop, but for a few months, I was a proper, proper entrepreneur, and I felt it was really important to start my first business before turning 25 because starting a business after you turn 25 is just not as cool.

i also feel very lucky that i have finally got into a dream job/dream career during the last few months of age 28, i spent my 22 to 28 years either being unemployed for months or being overlooked for jobs that I really wanted or doing jobs in industries that are so dreadful that i absolutely hate and despise. But now I work in a really cool if not the coolest industries there is, so that's nice.

the only thing that bothers me now is that my salary still sucks but even more so, I still haven't come up with a cool and viable business idea that will make me rich, I literally spend days and nights reading or thinking about business ideas but I just still haven't quite found it yet or I don't have the expertise or capital or social network to carry out those ideas.

[Anonymous]

Most women are afraid of hitting 30 cause all their poor health decisions start to catch up around that age. I know a woman who is exactly 30 now, when she was 24 she was gorgeous but now after all the smoking and drinking she's done you can clearly see the wrinkles on her face that she covers with makeup.

That said, while you can't beat Father Time you can always change your health lifestyle and get the energy and youth back. I'm glad I had my wake up call at 21 and now at the rate I'm going age will jjst be a number to me. I look great and feel great. I will be one of those guys who looks better as he ages, not worse.

[Stacyzee]

So, this all caught up to her as soon as she reached 30? Or gradually before?

[Opinion Owner]

It's not like once 30 hits suddenly bam youth is gone. It happens over time, until te point that you look at a picture of her from 25 and a current picture now and it's like whoa that was only 5 years...

[Southern_Shorty]

I'm going to be 30 this year and it's sinking in. That's only because my life doesn't look like everyone else's. They're married, have kids, done with college, and so forth.

Not that my life is bad, but compared to other people, I feel like I haven't done much. I have been learning that this is my life and hey! It's okay if my life isn't a cookie cutter shaped mold. I am living it for me anyway, right?

[Stacyzee]

Same here.
I have a few accomplishments I really wish I could have made before this age, but what's done is done, there is no taking that back.
I just have to deal with what "is" and move forward from here.

[COCOCHANEL]

same here. when i see actresses and singers on tv who are 29 (there's a caption with their name and age) i'm like hmmm we're the same age...

[redeyemindtricks]

I actually don't, at all. Totally don't wish I could be 29 again, or 39 again, or any number N where N < my current age.

And my boy, he actually LIKES the storylines that life's left on my body. He'll run his finger over the stretch marks where I pushed out our babies, and his dick will get hard enough to cut concrete. The boy loves women, in all our glorious imperfection.

I got a good life.

[Stacyzee]

Wow :)

[springocelot]

My 30th was unforgettable. Sure, I freaked out a little a few weeks leading up to it, but once it happened it was just another day. Turned out to be a great year.

Yes physical changes may be more obvious after 30, but I'm not too worried about that. Never had beauty anyway. Just glad I'm getting wiser and am here another day longer. Like the birthday message GaG sends, "whoever has the most birthdays lives the longest!" lol

[Stacyzee]

Yikes. Physical changes? :( im pretty can I expect to lose my beauty

[springocelot]

They come up very slow. 30s is the age metabolic slow-down becomes noticeable even though it starts in your mid 20s. also, expression lines start forming on your face, like those "11s" if you have a habit of squinting between your eyes. Frownies are useful for preventing them or getting rid of minor ones.

Luckily, I have none of those. Because despite sub-par looks I have youthful skin. Generally, though, if you have good facial bone structure, especially in the cheek bones, you'll age much slower and maintain beauty longer. Just be more vigilant with your health, don't get too stressed out and you'll be fine.

[Stacyzee]

Yikes !

[springocelot]

you're freaking out too much. remember what i said about stress, lol. you probably won't age until you're 60 :)

[Dough]

I was okay with 30, 40, 50. I was having so much fun in life I never stopped to think about aging. But 60 was devastating. Once I got over the fact that I am 60 I began to try even more new things than I did when I was younger. I came to a point where I didn't care what people though and just started to do what I had put off for years. So, not to be mean, I say stop your whining and go out and have fun. Because getting old is not that bad, especially when you consider the alternative, i. e,, being dead.

[Errhh]

Haha I still think 30 is old!!!

I feel the same, I look the same.. And sadly I am not any more mature than I was five million years ago. ... When I say my age people don't believe me, when I say my age I don't even believe myself!! 😂😂

Anyway, the only difference is, i have a lot more responsibilities, which in a way makes me in a sense more mature if at least in that aspect. And getting old is something that will happen to everyone regardless of anything else, unless you die of course 😬...
so the best thing one can do is be happy, be with people that make you happy, eat healthy and lead an active life style!!! Cause in the end that pays off, when you're 50 and look younger than the person next to you that just turned 30 😛

I wonder what I'll look like when I'm wrinkly and gray 😯

[Stacyzee]

If you think 30 is old, then how old are you?

[Errhh]

Thirty!! 😂😂😂 haha in human years! In real life I'm 100 years old.
It sounds freakn'old!!! But I don't feel old and I don't look old and that's awesome!!! But I still think 30 is old!! Like, if someone is not 30, but hey look 30, they look Old! That's how I think.

[Jersey2]

I remember thing I would be dead by 26 now I am much older. Get your stuff together because if 20 feels like yesterday, 30 will feel like yesterday when you hit 40. Ten years goes by quick so set some new goals so you don't wake-up in 10 years thinking life has passed you by.

[Stacyzee]

Good suggestion !

[JudgmentDay]

I'm in that age range.

I think life is too short to really worry too much about everything, and particularly age.

The end results are still gonna be same regardless, so by worry less and let go of them it makes it easier for you to breath and relax. Just have fun while you still can in this world with whatever time you have left, because it's really not a whole lot, as we never really know when our time is going to be up. Some people leave this world earlier, while there are others that make it way past 100 years old. The last I've remembered the oldest person that ever lived was officially recorded as 122 years.

[Hollywood-Glam]

Great take👌 . I can't wait to reach my late 20's. The moment where I'm considered a grown woman who has accomplished a lot, and experienced a lot. By that time I hope to have my goals completed with my career and salary.
Getting older is a beautiful thing. The older I get the less I feel like a kid.

[Stacyzee]

I shared that perspective when I was several years younger. But views have a way of changing with time. Of course one can't wait to be more settled in their life, but there comes a real awakening to one when they are in their late 20s. You won't be young forever. It is a sad thought.

[t3stosterone]

Lol 30 seems like it will be alright.

BRB still aesthetic because I take care of myself and lift
BRB have a chit load of money in the bank
BRB my mind is fully developed
BRB women love men in their 30s.
BRB get on dat dere mature love relationship
BRB making fcking babies and having little mes running around
BRB owning my own house
BRB BRB

Past 40 though.. you old brah.

[cinderelli]

And tony's back huh...

[ConsultantIsBack]

@cinderelli shh don't tell the other ubers that discriminate tho.

[AnonStar]

YES i have this teacher who's 35 and he's the sexiest teacher i have ever had lmao! i guess 30s isn't old for men

[t3stosterone]

@AnonStar Just look at @consultantisback 27 and an aesthetic fcking monster. Should I mention he makes bank too. Come over here and kiss me u fgit.

[AnonStar]

Yeah i haven't seen all gagers but i think @consultantisback is #TheFatherOfAesthetics on Gag 👍

by the way the mention option doesn't work anymore 😂 this site gon beta for real bruh whats with the hearts and the flashy things? they are blinding my alpha eyes 😂

[t3stosterone]

@AnonStar I know test levels are plummeting right now.

[menina]

Great Take!

I'm far from turning 30, but I feel so late when I compare myself to other people who are my age. I think I should have accomplished a lot of things they already did.
But now I will keep your words in mind:

"And if even if you didn't do it as fast as others, remember the race is not for the fastest,
it is for the swiftest."
"Your accomplishments will always remain timeless".

Thank you for sharing these wise words :)

[REALisRARE]

Just reading this shot up my anxiety lol. I pre midlife crisis it at least 3 times a year since 25...30 is rapidly coming... I like your end points, they are very true... still wish I could unread this...😜

[Stacyzee]

I am good at drawing people into my depressive mode by making them realize things they would have probably ignored :( sorry ! Lol

[REALisRARE]

Lol I really did like it though! All joking aside, my anxiety shot up and then you calmed it back do as I kept reading. Good job!

[meatballs21]

Yeah? I turned 36 a month ago. I'm now closing in on *40*, not to mention being closer to 70 than birth with each passing day.

I am also in the best physical shape of my life. So long as you stay active and happy, you'll feel young forever.

[Stacyzee]

I thought I was going to read something depressing with your first few lines but you got me smiling now <3

[meatballs21]

Thank you! If you look after yourself, youthful brightness will keep shining for a long time. I have a coworker who just turned 50 and she still has the body and positive demeanour of a woman half her age. Don't act like a lazy old grouch and you won't turn into one :p

[Stacyzee]

Lol, then I better stop it then. I can be moody and grouchy at times

[Stacyzee]

you're right. Youth remains in the way you feel. Ill always remember that.

[Anonymous]

It only freaks women out because of that biological clock time+ the stigmatization men will place towards them when they are in their 30's and still single.

30's is actually best time for guys. Everything becomes easier if you worked on yourself and your career. Women in their 30's become easier to deal with and no stupid games when it comes down to get sex. Also women in their 20's like guys who are in their 30's because who still retain their looks because they not only have looks but the money/capability compared to 20's guys who are still broke in college.

Summary: Get that paper and hit the gym. 30's for guys is what 20's was for girls WHEN it comes to dating.

[Stacyzee]

Why is this stereotype about men aging like fine wine in their 30s around? I've seem plenty with premature aging signs, unfit bodies etc.
The way you're making it seem is like all of you become studs while women get ugly.
I have a nice slim figure and ill keep it that way

[Stacyzee]

*seen

[Opinion Owner]

"Why is this stereotype about men aging like fine wine in their 30s around? I've seem plenty with premature aging signs, unfit bodies etc."

Like i said. If they do it right. That means go to the gym and take care of themselves. However, most guys don't because they think their money would be enough to get young girls. This is only true if they become filthy rich and in most cases they'll be a gold digger.

I have a friend who is owner of several chain of pizza places. When he started out he use to go to work on a bicycle and use to give his all to his girl who later cheated on him. Anyways fast forward, he has a full head of hair, goes to the gym (in shape) and can casually throw 20k at a party in Miami and has not only young women wanting to fuck him. He has a hot instagram girlfriend in her 20's even though he's 35 now and she is 22. So yeah 30's is the time men get their chance to shine.

[Stacyzee]

Im not impressed at all by this, sounds like grown men regressing to me in development. If thats whats out there id gladly date 40s if I were single.

Im still hot enough to compete with women ten years younger than me, so im fine about it

[Opinion Owner]

I don't see why women have a problem with this. You guys have a set period where you get to shine and are capable of dating and potentially marrying men who are above you in social hierarchy. In addition you have a large range of suitors and people doing nice things for you because they potentially want to sleep with you.

Men eventually get the same treatment from working on themselves in their 30's and focusing on things women value. Money and preserving looks. They get that status by working on their jobs and moving up the ladder.

It shouldn't be a problem seeing when women are young in their 20's many want to date older men. i've seen girls on gag talking about their 28 year boyfriend when they themselves are 20.

[Opinion Owner]

"The way you're making it seem is like all of you become studs while women get ugly."

Most women and men too let themselves go. A woman's ability to attract mate in men is tied to her beauty. Aging causes her to lose that beauty and it tends to be more noticeable in women. While with men these features tend to show experience.

"I have a nice slim figure and ill keep it that way"

That's nice but even if you work out. Crow's feet will still set in and your boobs will drop. i go to gym and see so many older women who 5 year prior were lazy with their workout sessions are now gym rats trying to get back their physique.

"Im not impressed at all by this, sounds like grown men regressing to me in development. If thats whats out there id gladly date 40s if I were single."

They are not regressing. They are just follow biology similar to how women like rich. successful men. Sure if a woman takes caere of herself and does away with bad traits associated with women men will consider her.

[ArtDent]

You don't see why women want to remain in the position of power when it comes to sexual market value? It's true that women can stay physically attractive into their 40's, but my god the baggage they have by then.

[Scrambledagain]

I know some stunning women at 40 and guess what... they still control the sex game. Men who think that they "get revenge" by becoming some 30 year old heart breaker is in for a shock. Women today are also becoming powerful in their sexual choices. I quote this from a message I got from my friend last night "I love being sober at a club and watching all the men lust after me, I can pull the hottest guy, and then I love breaking his little vanilla heart". She is 36. I so love her❤️❤️ But yeah... no man controls her.

[Opinion Owner]

@Scrambledagain That's nice. So your friend is an easy lay club cum dumpster who guys can go home with. That's nice. how many of them actually want to commit to her?

[queenmariereigns]

Any young girl who deliberately dates a guy in his 30s because she assumes he is mature and wealthy and is willing to work out is seriously naive. I'm 22 and I'm single and I don't chase older men. I have met men in their 20s who are more mature and have their life together and make better life choices than men in their 30s, so to assume that younger women in their early 20s like me chase guys in their 30s is a deluded fantasy.

[Opinion Owner]

@queenmariereigns Strong sense of entitlement we have going her. So because you don't that mean all young girls don't.

[Kris85]

I'm telling ya. The 30's kill the 20's. I'm having a better time now than I did then!!! There's a different attitude about being in your 30s. You tend to have a more carefree attitude towards things that you may have sweated when you were younger and you are more comfortable with who you are and not as insecure, and yes men still want you lol. I've never had a problem in that department even at my age. You'll be fine!!!