Everything in moderation. Too much of a good thing will eventually be bad.
In this myTake I will discuss why being "too nice" is indeed, a bad thing. So let's begin!
1. It's boring.
I'm not saying you should act like an asshole to spice things up. But being too nice all the time is like putting a shield up. Nobody constantly agrees on everything that everyone has to say, that's simply not possible. If you're constantly this happy-go-lucky person who is ALWAYS fine with doing anything, agreeing with anything, seeing anyone and helping anyone with literally anything, you start to come off as a very bland person who doesn't have any views and interests of your own. It's like you just tag along for the sake of tagging along and pleasing everyone else. It's hard to read people like this. It's difficult to understand what they're really thinking, because obviously not everything in life is always fine and dandy, and obviously you don't always want to do everything. Sometimes, you just want someone to challenge you a little. Someone who can offer different views and perspectives. Having someone agree with you all the damn time is like eating the same food over and over. It becomes bland. And boring.
2. It's predictable.
You're always the go-to person when someone needs or wants something. You will, every single time, drop everything you're doing to help everyone with everything. It doesn't matter if it's an inconvenience to you, or if you really don't have the time. Because everyone knows you'll do it anyway. Of course it's a good thing to be a reliable person, but you need to have your own life. And that's perfectly ok! People are otherwise going to end up using this side of you, so you need to show them that you have your own life and your own problems that you need to fix first.
3. You'll just end up hurting yourself.
People are going to use you. Constantly. They will see what a doormat you are, and walk all over you. They will take your money, rip your heart out and throw you around like a sack of potatoes. Having a spine and being careful when choosing who to help is SO important. It shows confidence. It shows the ability to think critically. You can't trust every single person you ever meet. You need to be able to analyze people more carefully. Only help those who you deem trustworthy. Only open up to those who you believe won't rip your heart to shreds. Only lend money to those you know will give it back, one way or another. You wouldn't let 100 strangers into your house to do whatever they want with your belongings, so why would you be so naive to think that nobody will ever use your niceness against you?
4. Being a doormat shows lack of confidence.
If you want to please everyone you ever meet, it just shows how insecure you are. How much you need the constant appreciation and validation of others. How afraid you are of opposing someone, sharing your views or rejecting someone. And that simply is not attractive, or a good thing. It makes you come off as a coward who's unable to be themselves because they're too busy making sure everyone else is having a good time and getting their needs met. What about you?
You can't be perfect all the time. Not everyone is going to accept you, regardless of what you do or say or how you act. It's simply not possible. So instead of walking on eggshells your entire life, trying to please everyone but yourself - BE YOUR DAMN SELF. Don't hide behind your "niceness". Don't act like you constantly agree with everyone and never have any problems with doing everything. Be yourself. Express yourself. Don't be afraid of saying no. Don't be afraid of kicking someone toxic out of your life.
That's all I had to say about this matter. Now, I'm truly off to "enjoy" my hiatus, which consists of working my ass off in school. Adiós!