This article is going to be on the recurring theme I see in a lot of arguements regarding gender politics. The omnipotent, vague entity known as "society" always imposing it's expectations on.. well.. society. I'm sick of hearing this shit, and you probably are too.
Disclaimer: Slightly rushed, and I skimmed through the article for grammar and spell-checking so I apologise in advance for any mistakes.
First of all, who is this "society"?
It sounds eerily similar to the other various boogeymen of many conspiracy theorists, for example: "The Illuminati", "The Free Masons", "The Government" (This one isn't an unfalsifiable theory like the others but still a common scapegoat), "The Patriarchy"... you get the idea, right? A catchy name that you can use a scapegoat for all of life's woes. There doesn't even need to be actual physical evidence of this entity, you just need vague descriptions of how they affect society and the listener will then see "evidence" of this entity everywhere.
You have no obligation to adhere to "society's" expectations
Expect of course for the expectation of not murdering and stealing. But apart from the obvious, go wild! Wear a tin-foil hat! Be unhygienic! Be as hairy or bald as you please! You absolutely are allowed to do this stuff; Nobody is forcing you not to. Sure, people will give you strange looks but that is only a big deal if you make it that way.
A good role model for this philosophy is your friendly neighbourhood weirdo. You know who I'm talking about: The obese woman who rummages through bins, the old man who wears short shorts and nothing else, that one dude who wears leather clothes.. Look up to them for encouragement! Your hairy arms cannot be as bad as that old guy's left bollock poking out of his shorts.
"So if society isn't forcing me to obey it's expectations, then who is?"
*cue cliché drum-roll*.. YOU! That's right, you are the one actively forcing yourself to adhere to what you believe is "society's" expectations. You are the one who gives a fuck what "society" thinks. If you colour outside of the lines, then it is you who punishes yourself. If you see people laughing at you for crying then it is you who views that as a consequence of not staying in line with everyone else.
Take some responsibility over your life. Don't let people dictate what kind of person you are, to a reasonable extent of course. When you complain about society forcing it's expectations on you while at the same timme obeying, you sound like that in-the-closet brojock who doesn't put much effort into resisting the charms of the flaccid dicks surrounding him the shower.