My Life With Nonexistent Boobs

[Anonymous]

1. Dresses etc, never fitting perfectly "up top"

It sucks to find the perfect dress that fits you amazingly, except for in the boobage area. There, it will slouch, or look all wrinkly and sad, like a deflated balloon. It will basically scream at you, "LOOK AT WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE!" So you have to stick with oversized looking dresses in general if you don't want to sport the slouchy look.

2. Wearing a sports bra, bikini or swimsuit (no padding)

With the magic of most bras, even those who only have minimal padding, at least you look somewhat decent. But with sports bras, bikinis and swimsuits? Good bye almost-existent boobs, you will be squished to death.

3. Bullying

Ah, yes. I know they're flat. You know they're flat. Can't we just leave it at that? Of course not. Because there's always some douchenozzle that feels the need to point out just how ridiculously flat you are, how it's funny to them, how it makes you unfeminine and undesirable, etc. I get it. You don't like small boobs. I'm over it, so why don't you get over it. I know exactly what I look like, I do in fact own a mirror, so when you tell me just how nonexistent my boobs are, you're not exactly informing me of any shocking news.

4. People assuming you haven't hit puberty yet

Yes, hello, I'm just here to inform you that puberty doesn't always = more boobs. Yes, puberty is indeed a very magical period during which many things can happen, but not for everyone.

5. People also assuming that you will have "the butt to make up for it"

Like sometimes when I mention my flat-chestedness here, some guys have commented "hey, look on the bright side! At least you surely must have the butt to make up for it!"
... In what world does that even make sense? Like it's some kind of weird math problem, minus boobs equals plus butt? No. Nono. Of course there are women who are more of a pear shape but just because you have small boobs it doesn't automatically mean you have a bigger butt, especially if you're just thin in general/all over (like me). Just stop.

6. Girls with bigger breasts who complain about their own boobs being "too small"

I truly feel so sorry for you.

Despite all these things that I have encountered and heard as a girl with a flat chest, I still love my body and I still love my small boobies. I don't care if people think I'm less feminine, or not attractive enough. My boobies are great. Besides, I'm hella awesome anyway. I don't need boobs to prove that.

[CHARismatic110]

All boobs are great boobs! Trust me, there are problems that come with having big ones too. Especially #1. I actually didn't think it was an issue for y'all. I envy girls with smaller boobs because they can rock just about any top. But yeah, boobs come in all shapes and sizes for a reason. Rock what you got girl!

[gobsmacked3]

Women come in all shapes and sizes but all have a unique perfection.

That pristine nature comes from within, the true beauty of womanhood that captivates us all and leaves us in appreciative awe :)

[redeyemindtricks]

Hah, I feel ya. I am naturally built like a handrail, and I just HAD to go to a high school where every other girl (or so it seemed, anyway) was built like a video vixen.
I mean, I even had a career as an editorial model in a few different countries, and I met and married the man of mah filthy wet dreams, all while I still had mah itty bitty titties... but, yeah, nope. Still had hourglass envy all the way.
When I got married (age 26) I was about a 32B or 30C -- and, considering I'm 6'2" (and know how to size a bra properly ::ahem::), that's some serious smallitude.

I had my first breast augmentation when I was 29, soon after I lost the baby weight from my first pregnancy. 650cc saline submuscular. Was about 32F or 32G (US sizes) after the swelling was gone and rehab exercises were complete. (On most women, 650cc's would yield an increase of more than just 3 cup sizes, but I am a thousand million feet tall.)

After 2nd breastfed baby, 32H (US size). 3rd baby didn't change anything.

Got BA revision (800cc implants) + mommy makeover at age 39.
Started doing fitness competitions again, since the mommy makeover.
Now my normal size is 32I in US sizes. For pre-competition cutting phases I'm a 30J.

The BA was basically the best decision ever.
The way I fill out a dress now? Holy fuckermother. <3
Combined with the extra ass I've got from having 3 babies... well, I've finally got that hourglass I always wanted.

I mean, I'm north of 40, and I actually look in the mirror and think my body is hotter NOW than ever before. That's pretty fucking cool, huh.

I had some back pain for a while after the BA, but, that was nothing that couldn't be obliterated by 4-6 months of weight training emphasizing the back. (Conveniently, it was pretty much impossible to train chest/shoulders very hard for about that long after each surgery, so... that's pretty much what happened by default anyway!)

So... if any of y'all girls with big girls have back pain -- try to hit the gym, de-emphasize the chest and shoulders, and REALLY hit yr back and lats. Do sets of 6 to 10 reps, with a weight that's heavy enough that you CAN'T do any more than that. (You will not start looking like Popeye the sailor man -- that's physiologically impossible for a woman, unless you're shooting androgens.)
Do this for AT LEAST 6 to 8 months before evaluating the results.
This should at least help, mb even cure the problem completely. Sure as hell beats reduction surgery...

[warren18]

There's nothing wrong with having small boobs, I think that they're a lot sexier than their bigger counterparts! Look...
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[warren18]

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[StewieRH]

Nice take! I can relate. Makes me self conscious sometimes, when I was with my ex I once sent him a pic of me in pyjamas with no bra and one time when we hung out he told me his friend was annoyed he was meeting up with me and not him so said (about my picture)

"To be fair it looks like she got no boobs"

I don't know why he told me that as you said it's not like it's shocking news to me, I do own a mirror and can see my chest but the fact he bought it up only made me self conscious.

I get self-conscious about it with my now boyfriend too and have admitted to him my boobs are pretty small (although he can probably tell that anyway!) but he says he doesn't care how big they are, he loves me for how I am. He asked once if I could would I have them bigger or smaller so I told him bigger and he asked why and told me I was fine the way I am.

I used to get worried about what he thought about them but now he's said that I am more comfortable. Plus though we haven't had sex he's admitted I turn him on and whenever I ask how he always answers "U just do" or "Ur a hot, cute, irresistible girl"

And so I no longer worry too much about how small my boobs are, I only care what my boyfriend thinks of them and he doesn't seem to care how big they are anyway :)

[CheerGirl38139]

OMG You so nailed this! This take prompted me to follow you. You're my sister from another mother on this subject!

The only addition I have is for some reason that when guys hear/see/read this, many of them will say something to the effect of "most guys like small boobs". Well dudes... guess what... I didn't ask you what YOU like... it's about ME and how I FEEL.

Why you feel compelled to tell me that my boob size doesn't matter to you, I have no idea. That may come off bitchy, and if so, I'm sorry. But again... it's NOT ABOUT HOW GUYS THINK of my boobs... its about how I FEEL about not having them.

https://youtu.be/6VEohajgYhM

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Aw thank you so much for that video. <3

[CheerGirl38139]

@SweetHomicidalQueen glad someone could appreciate it. 🙋

[Anonymous]

Some guys prefer big boobs, most don't care about the size, and some prefer girls with small boobs. There are Hollywood actresses and porn stars who are 32A-34B and they are quite successful. I prefer women with smaller boobs because they generally have a nicer shape. Also, women with big boobs can be like guys with big penises; they think that's all they need to be a bog prize for the opposite gender. Women with smaller boobs tend to compensate by being better girlfriends and better lovers. When you find the right guy, you will know that he wants you for what you have above the shoulders!

If I am with a woman and she has 32A boobs, I will suck on them until she has an orgasm and be glad to have the opportunity.

[ManOnFire]

I think girls with bigger chests still face more scrutiny and criticism. Sure, they're seen as sexually appealing, but deal with back pain, the struggle to find bras that fit, and are even said to be inappropriate. Flat chested girls are seen in the media 95% of the time and portrayed as the most desirable type of woman. So I think girls with big boobss probably have it harder.

And either way, whether your flat or large-chested, you're still seen as desirable anyway just because you're female, even if you're really not.

[myTake Owner]

Well, this wasn't meant to be a pissing contest, like small boobs vs big boobs, "who has it harder", it was just be explaining my experience as a girl with small boobs.

[Queen_KZ]

I think it's probably equally bad.
You forgot that there are rarely any pretty bras too. :-/ it's beige city

[ManOnFire]

@Queen_KZ Oh, there are many pretty bras, you're just not usually going to find them in average department stores.

[Queen_KZ]

Haha, well I don't want to spend an arm and a leg for them! I want cheap pretty bras too. But, yeah there are probably a few around

[ManOnFire]

@Queen_KZ Are you large-breasted? If so here's an old Take a wrote about big-titted girls, not sure if you're one who commented or not: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a25628-why-i-love-big-breasts

[Queen_KZ]

Not killer, but more than average.
I'll take a look at it

[BuchitaBuchys]

How many small busted girls make the "Top boobs of Hollywood", I'll wait. It's mainly your Sofia Vergaras, Kate Uptons, Kim Ks, Scarlett Johansson, that redhead big tit lady from mad men.

[ManOnFire]

@BuchitaBuchys The fact that they even have to make those lists shows exclusion. Apart from that, women in Hollywood with no boobs or small boobs get far more media and magazine attention than busty women. And even the women they do say have "big boobs" are really not big, they're actually pretty average. Big boobs to me is something like DDD and up.

[BuchitaBuchys]

And then men, of course, sympathize with big boob women.

I don't think they're seen as desirable like you think, or it's failing miserably as most men prefer bigger.

[ManOnFire]

@BuchitaBuchys So first you say men sympathize with big boob women, then you say they're not as desirable as I think. I would imagine that sympathizing with them would also include some measure of desire. And yeah, bustier women are definitely desirable to men.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I'm talking about small boobs aren't as desirable as you think. More men prefer bigger, so even with the "media's help", it's just barely as men don't really see small boobs as desirable, not as much as you say.

[ManOnFire]

@BuchitaBuchys Yes, that is most definitely true. But I'm not saying that they're more desirable to men - quite the opposite. I'm saying that the MEDIA makes small boobs out to be sexier and more desirable. We men don't have to be told. We already know we like bigger boobs.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Oh, such a struggle for big boob women!
*playing the world's tiniest violin*

[BuchitaBuchys]

My point is even with that media exposure, it doesn't work because men still prefer bigger boobs by a landslide.

[ManOnFire]

@BuchitaBuchys Right. But the media has an agenda, and if you haven't noticed it never cares jack shit about what people really want and like. Also, the media does know men prefer bigger boobs, but they still glorify bony women and boobless ones to control WOMEN'S thinking. Which has been easy enough. And they also seek to get young women into the industry by telling them if you want in, this is what you have to do/be. And also to falsely influence them to look like Hollywood because Hollywood says women are beautiful if they're bony or boobless. Which is how we have this social conflict now: women are saying they should lose weight, men are saying you look just fine. The women don't want to heed what we say even if we're the ones in bed with them, fine with their bodies, satisfying their sexual needs. But the women will listen to the magazine covers, the jealous women, and Hollywood. None of which give a damn about her at the end of the day like the man in her bed does.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Hmmm. I don't know. I don't necessarily agree since the boob implant industry is very lucrative. I think hourglass is the more desired and there's a reason why thin and big women feel inadequate.

[ManOnFire]

@BuchitaBuchys All you're doing is admitting what I'm saying. Women who get implants and surgery do it because the media says it's okay or sexy, or they do it because THEY think it looks good, not because men say so. Most men, don't want fake plastic women, and a lot will tell you that up front. Naturally busty women have no need to feel inadequate since they know what their attributes are and never had to work for them. There's true pride in that.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I get it. Men don't like small boobs or fake boobs. Busty women are precious creatures to protect.
*yawn*

Typical male response.

[ManOnFire]

@BuchitaBuchys Correction: men don't like fake boobs. A lot of men love big boobs, but you also hear about the guys who love little ones too. Neither is wrong. One is probably just more common than the other.

Your responses are pretty female-typical to me too. You're really just throwing stones at a brick wall.

[BuchitaBuchys]

You're correct. You are a wall.

[ManOnFire]

@BuchitaBuchys Insults and comebacks are all you know how to do when you lose your arguments, huh?

[BuchitaBuchys]

Sure Jan.

Notice how you made this a competition when that wasn't Lumos's intention. And people say women are the ones trying to compete with each other...

[ManOnFire]

@BuchitaBuchys I never made it any kind of competition. I simply said what the situation was. Competition was how you and others perceived it. I got 3 upvotes from females so I can't be all that wrong and they must not see it as competition, and even if I only had 1 it wouldn't make a difference.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Because they agree? Upvotes on this site mean very little when you can say "all women are golddigging hoes" and get 10 upvotes.

"So I think girls with big boobs probably have it harder"
"I never made it any kind of competition."

Hmmmm...

[myTake Owner]

Actually you did go on and make it a competition. I shared my experiences. You went on to basically say "well, that's fine, but what about girls with big boobs? They have it harder because back pain/bra sizes/sexual objectification/the media". I wasn't saying that girls with smaller boobs have it hard, or that girls with big boobs have it easy. You saying that you sympathize more with women who have big boobs means jack shit to this take because it's not a big boobs vs. small boobs take. A non-competitive comment would be more along the lines of "oh, I see, so that's how your life has been", not "WHAT ABOUT THE GIRLS WHO BLAH BLAH BLAH". Because the latter turns it into a competition, when you're comparing the different body types and choosing sides by sympathizing more with those who have big boobs.

[ManOnFire]

@BuchitaBuchys Hence why I said even if I only got 1 vote it wouldn't make any difference. When you or anyone else gets plenty of upvotes to your comments you take it as truth, and you know you do.

@lumos Saying that I think girls with big boobs have it harder isn't competition, I'm just saying what I think. I'm not denying there's some kind of issue with smaller boobs, I'm just saying that it's still tougher the other way.

[BuchitaBuchys]

You're so dense lol you're still trying to make it a competition.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah... trying to say that one person has it worse off than the other is turning it into a competition. Just like saying "I think x hockey team is better than y hockey team" is a competitive statement.

[ManOnFire]

@BuchitaBuchys *facepalm*

[BuchitaBuchys]

Dense.

[ManOnFire]

@lumos Let me try to break this down for you: I acknowledge the difficulties you stated in your Take, and I'm sure they do exist, all I did was say how TO ME those things just still aren't as hard as for bigger chested women. I didn't say that in competition, I said it in comparison.

And tbh? Yes. There ARE things in life that are harder for others. One person has it bad, but there's always somebody who has it harder. Do you think I would sit here and try to deny that it's harder for women in the work world than men? I can easily acknowledge my own troubles as a man with it, but at the end of the day it's still probably harder for women. And I can acknowledge that. Would you call that competition that I acknowledge it? No, you probably wouldn't.

[myTake Owner]

It's how you said it that was competitive. Also, I don't understand why it was even relevant to bring it up in this take. If you made a take about the kind of foods you dislike, would you think it was necessary if I commented on the take and said "well people in poor countries are starving..."?

[ManOnFire]

@lumos Your statement would be neither relevant or irrelevant. And I would probably agree with it too. Just because I dislike certain foods isn't saying other people around the world can't appreciate them or need them.

[myTake Owner]

Sigh.

[ManOnFire]

@lumos It really is not so difficult to understand.

[TheBootyChest]

Thank you for sharing all those stories about your "life". It's nice to hear from the ladies with small boobs. I don't think they are as appreciated as they should be. Like you said you don't need big boobs to be feminine. I enjoyed hearing some of the negative things about small boobs so I can better understand what ladies are thinking in their head when we are dating. I hope to be able to find a way to help her feel better about her self when she hits a low point like that.

Best part about this was the end when you stated you were proud of your body and still confident because of it. That is the true sign of feminine beauty right there.

Thank you for your hard work in putting this together and I hope to hear more of your stories in the future.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you! :)

[TheBootyChest]

Do you have any more myTakes that I can read?

[myTake Owner]

I made my profile public now so that you can check them out.

[Dargil]

My family went to Ocean City New Jersey during the summer times. When I was 14 and with raging hormones, my college aged step sister and a college girl pal came to were we were at 69th St beach, which was distant and remote from the boardwalk hangouts. She had a curvy bottom and waist but was flat up top and wore a bikini bottom with a halter top when she sunned and swam. At sunset when the families and lifeguard were gone. She took off her halter and swam and hung out topless. She was the first "grown-up" girl I ever saw naked up top. She did not have even mini-boobs. She simply had padded pecs with contrasting blueberry sized nipples and pepperoni sized areolae. She was overwhelmingly hot for my young eyes and was the cause of several wet dreams. Her boobs were great. So are yours.

[neosaber00]

can't say i pity women with either big or flat chested breast, but all i can say that women whether they have a flat chested or have big breast they still have their charm for small breast or flat chest I see it as pure, innocent and cute at the same time while women of larger breast size I see it as women who is sexy and beautiful.

So like I said do not belittle yourself because of this things, do not worry about because no matter what size it is or shape, to me it will always be beautiful. So yeah, be happy of your own cuteness and of your beauty for you , women are beautiful no matter what others may say. XD

[mikemx55]

"I get it. You don't like small boobs. I'm over it, so why don't you get over it."
Are you sure you're over it?

Anyway, you mentioned you may not have the body to fill those dresses the way they were designed to, and you mentioned that the math conclusion is stupid.
So I'll start with a new trend: you may not have the body you think others wished you have, but you sure compensate it with that angel face.

Nice take, here is my Like.

[myTake Owner]

Haha yes I'm sure, I did struggle in my teens but now I don't care. It's only annoying when dresses slouch etc, but I don't actually feel *bad* about it. Thanks :)

[mikemx55]

Yeah, I was just making a joke like: if it really didn't matter, you wouldn't write a take about it :p
But I'm glad you did.

(any particular reason for not letting me follow you? :o)

[myTake Owner]

Oh oops, I have my profile on private and I haven't checked the followers thingy. 16 unaccepted follow requests... I shall get on that

[RedThread]

I've never understood why people draw so much attention to the sizes of things whenever they aren't what the "average" is. We should take pride in individuality and not draw unnecessary attention to it. You're beautiful just as you are. I wish a lot of people regardless of the sizes of certain aspects of their body would understand that.

Great take ;)

[hellionthesagereborn]

Lets just be blunt, it doesn't matter. Women will find a way to complain about EVERYTHING. Her breasts are to small/big/average/saggy/firm/uneven/etc. etc. etc.. If she has no complaint about the breasts themselves she will complain about her aereola, if she cannot complain about that she will complain about the nipples. IF she cannot complain about the top half, she will complain about her butt. If she cannot complain about either of those she will complain about her thighs. If she cannot complain about all of that it will be her stomach that is the issue, if she is perfect in every conceivable way, she will find something else to complain about. Their is no winning, EVER, in these situations. Love what you got because you've got it and their are always going to be men out their who want it and stop fixating on stupid things.

[Stacyzee]

Wow, people sure care a lot about boobs (just look at the comments) lol!

I'm a girl with not much boobs but no one really cares that I have small ones because I'm thin and shapely.
I have a ass that sticks out, where people automatically look when they see me.

I think in general, boobs don't make someone automatically attractive.
It's the whole package itself.
Boobs isn't isolated and floating around.
It's just something that "adds to the appeal of someone".
If they're generally unattractive a great rack won't save them, it will probably just only get them laid and that is all!

Just be confident in what you have (as you seem to be).
YAY ITTY BITTY TITTY COMMITTEE WOOT!

[Sad_Onion]

i had a girlfriend who was flat chested once. i loved her to bits and it didn't bother me at all. she was really insecure about it though, even though i told her she was beautiful etc.

she used to insert these stupid chicken fillet silicon things into her bras which always made me laugh. people need to learn how to be happy with what they have (easier sad than done, i know)

[WhatTheHellAmy]

as an A cup, I can relate to every word of this take lol

I agree with all the guys here, your face is breathtaking, and boobs are not that special, I do have self esteem issues because of them, but lately I've been more and more comfortable with my body and I always look the positive of everything.

Back pain? wtf is that? haha

[AleDeEurope]

I wish more girls loved there small boobs, cause I know most men would love small boobs just like they lioe the big ones.
Small boobs don't make you less feminine, not at all, if you actually look at most models, they tend to have small boobs.
If a woman is attractive, she'll be attractive with big or small boobs.

[AleDeEurope]

I forgot to say, nice take.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you :) the model thing is kind of a weird example though, since I often see men bashing them for being too thin and again... "looking like boys". A big argument tends to be that "the fashion industry is run mostly by gay men which is why a lot of models have boyish figures" haha.

[redeyemindtricks]

@aledeeurope I was an editorial model myself, and, yeah, most of us have itty bitty titties (along with everything else that comes with playing for #teamprogesterone).

... but, you should definitely get rid of this weird idea that fashion modeling (runway and/or editorial) has ANYTHING to do with "beauty" in the sense of heterosexual attraction.
It's quite the opposite, actually. If a woman were too "sexy" -- in other words, if she were too alluring to men, in her own right -- then she would actually be a BAD fashion model. Because the whole point of fashion models is to be, basically, background (where the couture itself is the foreground).

I wrote a bit of a rant about this here (mho opinion):
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1894392-why-can-t-models-be-short
check it out.

[AleDeEurope]

@asker yeah, that's true, didn't think of that.

@redeyemindtricks but wouldn't it be better to have a model with a more average looking body? I personally don't find most models "perfect" as some people say, but they're still important when it comes to defining beauty.
I do see what you're saying though.

[redeyemindtricks]

"but wouldn't it be better to have a model with a more average looking body?"

For runway? Definitely not.
Would clothes look better on hangers with bumps and curves?

That's actually a serious question -- because runway models are, in essence, human clothes hangers. They are selected for being essentially shapeless -- especially in the kind of lighting that dominates runways.

You are thinking of "fit models" (not to be confused with fitness models). Fit models are selected to be "perfectly average size N's". I have a girlfriend who is a size 6 fit model for a few American brands, and, that's her job -- the brands literally design their size 6's around HER measurements.
There are fit models for pretty much every standard clothing size, men's and women's. They don't "look like models", because that's the whole point -- they look like average people who wear size N.
BUT...
see, where yr going wrong here, is that you are thinking (cont'd)

[redeyemindtricks]

... that runway fashion has anything to do, at all, with the kind of clothes that people actually wear in the world.

Designers make 3 different lines: runway, couture, and RTW (ready to wear).
RTW is most of what's in the stores -- and RTW is the stuff that fit models are used for.
RTW stuff is NEVER worn on runways.
Runway collections are -- to use polite language -- weird shit. Runway collections are about 5% clothing and 95% art. They look outrageous and ridiculous as "clothing", because tehy aren't even really supposed to be clothing.

[WpCurious]

I really loved this and can totally relate. When I was younger I used to be so insecure because most of my friends had big boobs and a nice ass. Now, at least I can do something about my ass - squats definitely work. But I don't really care what people have to say anymore. I love who I am, small boobs and ass as well. And also as soon as we have children our boob size increases. So I'm just fine with my size. It suits the rest of my body.

[LittleSally]

Excellent take. =)

I agree - having small breasts, having big breasts, having anything too small or too big will elicit ridicule from idiotic 'peers' in school - kids are mostly stupid, what can ya do...

Loving yourself - best way to move forward and live your life. ^-^

[Chief16]

The way I see it, some people are always gonna have a problem with a girls body. Too less? Flatrons. Too much? Cows. Doesn't matter what your body is, you gotta love what you have, especially when people's perceptions are from realistic. Good Take.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks! And true. It's sad.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

I feel ya, yesterday my mom walked into my room when I was changing and she saw that I was wearing a sports bra (which is what I usually wear unless I'm getting dressed up all fancy) and she told me I was so lucky I have "nothing there" so I can wear comfortable bras. Like she genuinely thinks I'm lucky but I was just like.
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[myTake Owner]

LMAOO that pic

[redeyemindtricks]

yeahhh see, these are the kinds of things that make me glad I grew up in a house full of just men (me + daddy was a widower + 4 brothers).

these little backhanded compliments -- nope. not a thing that happened lol