That is a term I hate hearing. If I am told this, I will cry. Thankfully I've never been told this before but there is a certain person I can tell this to, who was supposed to be my best friend.
I'm that friend that will drop everything at a moments notice, or I'll lose a full nights sleep just to make sure my friend is okay. I've always been very empathetic and caring of everyone's feelings. If my friend needs advice I'm gonna try my damndest to help them out.
Recently, I helped my friend out. His girlfriend doesn't know what she wants from their relationship and he's getting very frustrated and upset with her. I told him "Talk to her. Be civil and just listen, communication is vital." He told me how he's talking to her about it and that if they take a break he'll feel terrible. In return I told him how I took a break from my first irl boyfriend. Overall I related to him and explained to take time off from her. In the end I said "There's a difference between taking care of your happiness+mental health over being selfish."
It makes sense doesn't it? I hope so.
A while ago, when my fathers abuse went from neglect to abusing me emotionally+physically, my best friend left me. He was being a prick and really hurt my feelings and he didn't have any clue about my dad. Months go by and I'm at my moms with my ldr boyfriend, the one who broke my heart.
(here's links to the myTakes talking about him -->
Well about a month after I get my heart broken, my best friend comes back. He apologizes and says "I wanted you to hate me. You deserve better than me and I couldn't leave, but if I made you hate me, it'd be easier and better for you." Bullshit like that. I told him he can come back but that he isn't forgiven. I ended up telling him everything that happened with my ex and my father. He missed that entire period.
My words to him when he came back?
"I needed you and you weren't there."
Those 7 words are the death of me.
If I tell you those words, you know it's serious. I don't say those lightly and I don't take it with a grain of salt.
My heart breaks for my friends whenever they're going through any amount of pain.
The 7 words I wish to hear after helping my friends?
"Thank you for being there for me."