Things That Happen When You Fail and 8 Tips to Overcome Failure

[KatherineWilliams]

You feel angry

You start to blame everyone else for your failure. You hate those who succeed and compare yourself to them. Mostly you go through this stage when you're still too fragile to take the blame for what has happened. It's very important to convert all these negative feelings into motivation and to not let them destroy your relationships with others.

Wanting to give up

The reality has sunken in. You understand what happened was your fault and now you feel useless. It seems like nothing matters and you are so shamed about yourself you don't want to try ever again. But don't give up on your goal. At this stage you realize what your weaknesses was before, so later you can work on them.

You may lose some people

This is not very likely but it may actually happen. Usually on cases where your failure happens simultaneously with others success. It doesn't mean people are bad or selfish. They just move on and you may be left behind. Fortunately the ones who actually care will always try to find some time for you in their lifes.

Damage control

That's the first step to your next try. You understand what can't be fixed and try to make things as good as they can get. You come up with a new plan for your goal and hope begins to wrap you.

You try again

Now you know what mistakes to avoid and you know your strengths. You are stronger and more mature about your goals. You have more realistic expectations and a solid plan to begin with. Even if you fail again you already know the consequences and you know you can handle them.

You will survive!!

Tips to deal with it:

1. Accept it. Consider what is done and what it means for the future.

2. Talk with someone about how you're feeling. Choose someone who has been through a similar situation and share your experiences.

3. Do not feel useless and do not constantly compare yourself to others. One setback does not make you a failure.

4.Understand what has gone wrong. Try to learn from your mistakes and to not repeat them again.

5. Do not overanalize it. Of course the past has a lot to teach us but if we live in it, there can be no future.

6. Stay focused. You begun with a picture of what you wanted your life to be. Do not throw that away just because it took you a while to learn how to draw.

7. Make a new plan. You've already dealt with the situation once, you know what needs to be done differently.

(8. Know when to give up. Sure we should stay true to ourselves and our dreams but if we only focus on one thing we really want - even if it doesn't seem possible- everything else might start falling apart.)

[capturemyheartnow]

You can fail a number of times and yet you can be successful one final time.. And being successful is no guarantee that you will never fail. So failure and success are a part of our life. Just because you are knocked down doesn't mean that you are knocked out.. But this is the best chance that we should utilize to prove ourselves. Because if we rise in times of crisis , the worlds becomes aware that we are special. When you achieve something , you achieve your potential , and the world knows how great you are.

[Cccgala]

I like this myTake 😊 Thank you for writing this.

"You may lose some people."

True true! That is actually happening in the real world. An entity's downfall can be the reason for loss of companions/allies. For example in the stock market when an economy crumbles and fails to be beneficially stable, it will lose some of its investors as they have low confidence that it'll progress anytime soon. There are many examples but that's the most concrete one I've known xD

[capturemyheartnow]

You my lose some people----You lose a lot of people when you lose/leave your job. Previously it was very easy to connect with these people because you were face to face with them , although your connection with them was not so strong. But due to family atmosphere at work , they are more involved in your life. But when you leave your job those relationships are less necessary. Of course you want them to be with you , but somehow or the other that is not possible. Secondly , losing investors investing is shares is not a big thing , because they are not there for the relationships but for the money and hot money can chase any available hot investment. Emotions should never be attached to investments. Investments should always be motivated by profits. But you could be right , when companies close down due to negative perceptions by stock markets resulting in eroding of share prices and networth , the companies are bound to close down because there is no investment support by big and small

[capturemyheartnow]

by big and small investors. So when people lose their jobs they lose their relationships. So their failure is losing their job for no fault of theirs and losing their friends for no fault of theirs. So this failure is situational failure. And very difficult to tackle immediately. This happened during the DOT. COM bust of 2001 when many people lost their jobs and relations. Some even committed suicide. And their loss bought unhappiness to their families too.

[Cccgala]

@capturemyheartnow Wow! That was informative. Thank you for your eye-opening input

[blondfrog]

No offense I am not trying to shit on your mytake, but even if someone knows all these things it still wouldn't help them. Learning how to overcome failure is just something that you either have or not. You can be the most confident person in the world, you could be Ronda Rousey and then still be on suicide watch. Just look at her she failed once and she still hasn't been able to pick herself back up. Some people have it or they don't unfortunately most people fake confidence and you dont' really get to see it until you see them fail then their true colors come out.

[Robertinho]

Ouch... you nailed it all the way bro, and its the cold sad, truth unfortunately.

[blondfrog]

@Robertinho Yep it really is.

[Decentguy]

you may loose some people? you will loose all of em.
i dont think there's anyone a big failure like me, i was born a dyslexic and all i did my life was fail again and again, and you can't overcome failure until you done something so good that you become successful and you shock people with your work

no matter how many people will say that to me or any person like me that dont feel useless or depressed because you are a failure it doesn't matter at all.

being a failure will make your life living hell. and the only way to solve it is to do something beyond everyone's imagination and become successful

[peachblossomluck]

Don't forget to do it secretly so it shocks them and you can take full credit as well.

[peachblossomluck]

P. S. I know one thing you did. You lost a lot of weight and now you are totally hot. I'm pretty sure you have done other things you fail to recognize as well. You seem very sensitive and bright to me. Many dyslexics are renowned for being genius so consider this, my friend♡

[Decentguy]

@peachblossomluck hmmm
Thanks a lot !!!

[JackAce]

I never fail. Failure is a mindset it doesn't really exist as a fact. You gain something from Everything that u experience its a matter of whether ur perspective acknowleged it or not. Perspective exists and its positive or nrgative depending on ur choice. Thanks for inviting me to share an opinion here.

[UnknownReflection]

Amazing take. I like it so much :)

To me actually this is the real layers behind standing up on our feet and fight again. You explained it very well.

[Anonymous]

"You may lose some people
This is not very likely but it may actually happen. Usually on cases where your failure happens simultaneously with others success. It doesn't mean people are bad or selfish. They just move on and you may be left behind. Fortunately the ones who actually care will always try to find some time for you in their lifes."

This is BS. This is what we call fake friends/people ones who are there for the good times and not there for the bad times. If people can't be with you when you are at your lowest then don't let them surround you when your succeeding.

"Wanting to give up
The reality has sunken in. You understand what happened was your fault and now you feel useless. It seems like nothing matters and you are so shamed about yourself you don't want to try ever again. But don't give up on your goal. At this stage you realize what your weaknesses was before, so later you can work on them."

Only weak people have this mentality.

[KatherineWilliams]

Well my experiences have taught me differently. Maybe you can try to be more open minded

[Opinion Owner]

Can you please stop with the shaming. There is nothing to be open minded about. People who only want to be with you during the good times and not the bad are not true friends.

[KatherineWilliams]

Of course. But that was not the point I made. I'll give you an example. If you fail to promote but your colleagues do promote, you won't see them us much. So you may lose them as close friends.

[Opinion Owner]

Except even when you don't see people as much we have so many things available to us to keep in contact with people that there is no reason to not keep in contact as much or cut contact with them completely. If a person goes NC and doesn't want to speak to you because they got promoted and you didn't then that person is not a person you want as a friend.

You can see them outside of work, Skype, facebook. If people want to be part of your lives they will be whether you fail or succeed..

[KatherineWilliams]

It's not always like that, I can guarantee. For example when your life is very busy you usually don't have time to deal with long distant relationships (that was the case when I failed last year).

[Opinion Owner]

This isn't civil war times where you had to walk 1 mile to drop off a post card to send to a person. You literally have a phone on you that you can just pull up a name on FB, and send a text in less than 30 seconds. There is no excuse among millennials unless to not keep in contact with people who you deem important.

If a simple thing like I'm now higher than you therefore we can't talk anymore then friendship wasn't really much to begin with.

[KatherineWilliams]

You obviously don't understand what I'm saying so I'm just going to stop replying

[Ronin122]

Nice take really , made me cheer up a little bit

[KatherineWilliams]

I'm really glad I cheered you up, even a bit!

[Ronin122]

Aww... You're so sweet 💜💜

[Anonymous]

the only way to avoid failure, is to be successful. everybody knows that

[danny69]

I think that sounds like pretty good suggestions

[cupidkisses]

great !

[Cowboy6666]

Awesome take.

[SuitAndTie]

Great take

[Joshuaaa]

Very informative C: