What Self Love TRULY Means

Loving yourself does NOT mean....


1. That you're flawless.

You can love yourself and still think you're kinda ugly. You can love yourself and still think you're overweight. You can love yourself *despite* your flaws because denial isn't going to get you far. This is aimed at people who deliberately ignore their short-comings because they want to love themselves.

You can be fat and love yourself but you can ALSO love yourself and strive to be fit. Loving yourself and having flaws are not mutually exclusive. The key to loving yourself is that you acknowledge your flaws and accept them so they can't be used against you.

2. That other people will love you too.

People put too much value in what other people think of them. Not everyone will like you no matter how hard you try. Life sucks trying to please everyone which is why you should strive to be please *yourself* and the people who you care about. The sentiment that "if you love yourself first, the whole world will follow" is false because there is no possible way that you can fit everyone's idea of what beauty, intelligence or a good personality is.

Burlesque dancer, Dita Von Teese (pictured above) who is admired and lusted over by the masses is NOT loved by everyone. If you don't have some haters, then are you really putting yourself out there?

3. That you can't have bad days.

Everybody has bad days. Including the most confident/talented/intelligent/beautiful people on the planet, they have bad days where their conversations don't flow well. Days where they feel awkward and make bad choices. It's a human characteristic to have negative emotions to offset the positive ones. You can't have the happiness without the sadness similar to how you can't appreciate the presence of a friend without absence.


CONCLUSION:

Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself - what you're wearing, who you're around, what you're doing. Recreate and repeat." -Warsan Shire

Self-love means you accept yourself the way you are, including your faults. You have to approve of yourself. You have to stay in the mindset that you deserve to be comfortable, to be happy and to be successful. Do NOT sabotage yourself in the pursuit of who you want to be. Loving yourself doesn't mean settling for mediocrity, loving yourself means feeling worthy of love, success and happiness.

Thanks for reading. Love yourself in 2017 and beyond xx


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What Guys Said 9

  • I thought this was about masturbation. Then I read on... That's good too.

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  • It means that I am my best friend.

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  • Loved it

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  • Self love is one of my blessings and I'm glad you have it too.

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  • It's important for a healthy mindset.

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  • Nice take and a happy new year!

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  • feeling awesome now

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  • So inspiring, nice!

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  • It isn't easy to love yourself when you are an average tall man with overly hairy body :(
    * Sigh*

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    • but it's not impossible

    • @BeeNee yeah, that's easy to say madam

    • Self-love can be a life long mission but the fact still stands, that it is not impossible. You and everyone else has to work on it, maybe everyday, in order to gain ground in the battle to feel they are truly worthy, which we all are if we allow ourselves the space to actually see that. Like the author says, even some of the most beautiful people on earth, struggle with self-love, because it's something you must know and feel in your heart even if a million people tell you how great you are. The work of achieving self-love has to come from you... that's why it's called self-love, and if you want it, no matter how hard, and how many times you think you can't get there, you'll go after it.

What Girls Said 7

  • This is good advice. Sometimes people that you think are gorgeous and have everything hate their lives and themselves the most and people you think are ugly and dirt poor love their lives and themselves the most. Self love has nothing to do with your flaws. Everybody has flaws because we'd all be boring and the same if nobody had any flaws of any kind

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  • Very nice take with some salient points which I think a lot of us need to hear and remind ourselves of.

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  • Thank you for this! <3
    Have a happy ass new year!

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  • The world is just filled with too many smart fucks.
    so just fuck off and work for self improvement.
    don't excuse yourself from self-improving in the name of self! love!
    and if you have made and still making poor choices with YOUR life than learn to accept it.
    don't complain about people who does it better than YOU!

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    • just take it for afact and accpet your married to sn UGKY UGLY FUCK AND GET THE SHIT OUT OF MY LIFE IM AM TOO DAMN PRETTY FOR A GUY WHO DECIDED TO SPENT HIS LIFE WITH ANDN UGKY FUCK!

  • Self love is looking in the mirrow and saying "You sexy, pretty girl! you look so hot!"
    with all your flaws

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  • Thank you <3

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  • loving yourself is repenting in Christ. thats true self love

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