Cause and effect

[unknownpoet]

Do you live at cause or at effect? At effect or at cause? How do you live your life?
It is very important to make this distinction. It's quite rare for someone to always live his life at cause. The majority of people live their life at effect that is, responding to the desires, whims and emotional states of others.

Being at effect means you blame others or circumstances for your emotional state. for your bad moods for your failures for what you have not achieved in your life. you feel unempowered and dependent on others in order to make you feel good about yourself. you rely on your close relationships and expect them to understand you and help you with your own dreams and expect them to want what is the best for yourself and life in general. you wait and hope for things to be different and for others to provide and that makes you a victim of circumstances. believing that other than you is responsible for your happiness or for your mood is incredibly limiting and you are giving up all the power to others and that causes anguish.
The ones who live at effect see themselves and live their lives as victims without choices. but they do have a choice but they just choose not to choose and to only be responsive to what is given to them.

Being at cause means that you are decisive in creating what you want for your life and you take full responsibility for everything you have achieved or will achieve. If you live at cause you see the world as a place of opportunity and that makes you move towards achieving your goals, objectives and desires. If somehow things don't unfold the way you life you explore other possibilities and take action. More importantly, you know you have the choice in what you do and react to other people and events.
If you live at cause it means you have choices in your life. it means you can choose what is the best for yourself while making sure the choice is good for everyone around you. You consider the consequences of your own actions on others but you don't take responsibility for their emotional well being.
Otherwise if you believe you are responsible for the emotional state of others it will generate a great deal of stress without any need whatsoever.

That's how I live. I'm always at cause. I truly believe and know that I'm the only person in the world responsible for my own feelings.

[Wonderer89]

Completely at cause. I'm responsible for me, things may happen out of my control and as a direct result of someone being cruel or malicious but only I can control my reaction to the events and behaviours of others.
I much prefer being autonomous and deciding for myself which things are worth investing time, money and emotions on rather than being bombarded by the negatives around me. Of course I'm still sad, angry and hurt often but those are by things I choose to deal with, or that I take on as a responsibility.
I find this approach is much more beneficial at work than at home though 😊

[OlderAndWiser]

Same concept, but I always ask, "Do you make life happen or is life something that happens to you?"

[mikemx55]

At effect of course. It's so much easier xD

Nah, I think we always have a bit of both. Depends on the situation, sometimes we think of ourselves as the captain of our ships, but sometimes some pirates come along, and we can't help to blame them too.

[NogardaCurse]

100% honesty, I live at both, although I strive to be the second.