Kissing her on the lips to stay out of the friendzone, but not asking her out?

[Anonymous]

Been kissing her on the lips, to try and avoid the friendzone with her... figured it's the best way. I always ask for it because I never know if I've earned them (that's how I feel about kissing, I shouldn't get it, if I haven't earned them so, by asking it means "do I deserve a kiss today?" But, I refuse to ask her out. Why? I don't want to get hurt. That's pretty much the only reason... so, on one hand, I'm confusing her BECAUSE I'm confused myself.

Is this wrong?

[BlackAndArtsy]

yes, it's wrong, and unfair. You are preventing her from moving on but aren't willing to take the next step. Uh, uh, that's not cool.

[Asker]

Moving on? If she was moving on, she wouldn't kiss me

[BlackAndArtsy]

maybe she kisses you cause she thinks you are finally about to ask her out.

[Asker]

I guess my logic is a little backwards... like, I believe that kissing her, will make her want to go on a DATE with me... keyword, DATE

[BlackAndArtsy]

Maybe she does want to go on a DATE with you, but you won't bother asking her because u're too scared to take a risk.

[Mette]

Yes it is.

[Asker]

Why?

[Mette]

Have you ever thought that a kiss might mean something else or more to her?

[Asker]

She's allowed to say no. I could have gone for it and she back away or turn and give me the cheek. Yet, she says yes and doesn't turn her head. Why are friends allowed to kiss like that?

There are many different kinds of kisses. I've heard that a kiss on lip when departing is just a way to say goodbye. The problem is, it's a controversial idea since it supposedly has some sort of connotation to it. I mean, we've only ever kissed when we're saying bye

[Asker]

I do realize though that when you kiss on the lips, that it means something romantic. However, when it's a LONG passionate one, it means "I want to fuck". A kiss on the cheek, is just a friendly thing to do (we're just friends). She was doing that up until the other night when I said "Can I kiss you" and she said "quickly"