Why and how come women deserve, get empathy/sympathy more than men do? men in fact get never or rarely get sympathy, empathy for anything?

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Because guys, men are expected to take responsibility, accountability for everything in life, their lives or situation is always their god damn doing, nothing is ever a woman's fault but always a mans fault for everything, if a guy is bitter and hates, is misogynistic towards women he is labeled a boy instead of a man, but if a woman is a misandrist towards men, she is not harshly judged or criticized, for example if there was a female version of George Sodini or Elliot Rodger, a woman serial killer will not be demonized, hated and despised loathed by society and the media as much as the other way around. So overall, why do women not have to do much as men do in order to earn respect and sympathy, empathy from people?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What he is talking about is the thing that is used by both men & women from some sick need to purge due to society, & that is male shaming. Exclusively male shaming. Women dont deal with anything as dangerous & life threatening as men in society, yet they're the ones that get their emotions catered to the most simply due to sexism. can a man even speak freely unless he has major accomplishments that are public or fame? if a man don't got nothing, his life means nothing to a wmn. In the manipulation wmn would have us all believe that that still means they care if he lives or dies enough to show empathy/sympathy. News to men... It don't. I bet in their eyes they feel like they're in a worse position than any man, so why should they do anything but lie to deescalate that response to such a harsh truth? That's asking too much apparently, but as men it's a requirement from women that men do it for 'love,' aka sexual access. "Awww How equal of women?" The problem is the way we measure men & then neglect them both men & women. Men are too disposable to women today, so they dont have to meet a standard as far as ethics & morals in dating. They dont have to have sympathy for men, they just have to have a nice a$$ & that's the problem. Men raise the standards for wmn & you will nip all that antimale social conditioning in the bud & out of our society. Men need to become a worldwide collective in order for it to work though. Wmn will always seek leverage over men to FEEL equal because they will never be equal, & women really don't want to be biologically. They know that but due to the fierce competition for sex among men, wmn will always be in positions to exploit that fact. It's up to men to start moving as a unit FOR MEN! Thats a very hard thing to do given the acceptance of male disposability by women, not to mention the gynocentric nature of govt & how it fosters hypoagency so that few men win while most lose. Waiting on a woman to try to change for the better in attitude, is like thinking a wmn is willing to try to save a homeless man from jumping off a bridge. Women just dont feel that way about adult men, & the boobtube misled wmn into that standard. & they will do nothing but lie to soften the blow of that. It explains why u get male shaming when u even bring up this side of women. Its all they know, so we as men cannot wait on women to save us from their hypergamy. They will noy

OpenClose · Accepted Answer

It's called Male Hyperagency and/or Female Hypoagency, and it exists all over the place. And frankly, it pisses a lot of people off.

Male Hyperagency is the idea that men are subject to few or no external forces. It's the idea that if a man's life falls apart, or his wife leaves him, it is his fault. In fact, what I hear a lot in a breakup is the girls saying "it's his fault, he's such a jerk!" and guys saying "looks like you screwed this one up, dude."

Female HYPOagency is the idea that essentially any misbehavior is only the result of being a victim to outside forces.

Homeless Women? "Society is terrible in its treatment of women. This is an outrage!"

Homeless Man? "Your fault, dude. You shouldn't have been such a lazy bum."

If you ask me, these sorts of things are almost entirely the basis of gender issues.

Early members of the women's rights movements acknowledged this issue in full. Women like Susan B Anthony would demand she be held just as responsible for her choices as a man. Some also wanted the right to more jobs not just to be independent, but so that this load wouldn't be solely on men's shoulders.

You picture at the time, a lot of men would work 12h/day or more in coal mines, while women would stay at home with the kids and the house. Hyperagency says it was the man's choice to work. Hypoagency says the woman had no choice but to stay at home. Both are an incomplete picture of what was very strong gender roles.

Also, you say "IF" there was a version of Elliot Rodger. I can think of a fairly close analogue, which is Valerie Solanas, who, in the SCUM Manifesto called for ideas to exterminate the male gender in ways similar to Elliot Rodger's manifesto. The MRM despises Elliot Rodger and refuses to claim him. Yet Valerie Solanas is still hailed as a "respectible feminist" in textbooks.

I'm not exactly anti-feminist, but I will say that modern feminism has more often encouraged hypoagency than earlier versions of the movement.

Belleza2 · Accepted Answer

Because its sympathy towards a woman first - women for centuries have been enslaved or thought to be dumb and her job was and to some still is cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids and her man - she was always a property when feminism took to power - it was kind of said a woman is an equal of a man however, a woman got another power whatever she has done wrong she will not be criticized or labeled in society's eyes as a monster due to the fact that she is emotional, that she is mentally unstable because she had to take care of something, that she has been through a lot!

While a man, always held his emotions at bay, took care and solved all problems no matter the situation - a man's job is basically to not cry or feel because if you think about it - on a level of some sort - a man can never understand a woman, he can never share his feelings like a woman can and as ridiculous as this sounds, its kind of true however, I can attest to one thing, make a woman mad and she can be one of the worst serial killers to exist because once again she is using her emotions, she is reliving everything that has been done wrong to her while a man in most cases, kills for fun...

somegurl01 · Accepted Answer

I believe that women should work just has hard as men to earn respect. Women play on sympathy and look for empathy and such because it is expected of them. Its the easy way out that women in a way are kind or encouraged to do. I treat men with respect and I expect to carry my share of responsibilities like a man would. Just because I am a woman does not mean I am any dumber or more naive or vulnerable then men. Except the fact that I have more emotional episodes under high stress or certain biological times but I try to control it as best I can.
On my side of it, guys have told me I am too masculine and I don’t make them feel like 'the man', 'prince charming' etc. so they aren’t interested because I won't give them the ego boost they desire. If men want to feel powerful and stronger than women and more in control then they would probably do better with a woman who doesn’t mind giving up that power but she will work with the power she has like sympathy, guilt tripping, pouting and crying.
If that helps maybe. :)

heartshaped_box · Accepted Answer

Because our extremely sexist society puts women and men into strict roles: women MUST be ladies, and men MUST be warriors. Because of this, women can't cuss and men can't cry. Which means men get told to "suck it up" when they're feeling bad. I think it's totally unfair. The only explanation for it is sexism.

Anonymous · Answer

As much as modern women hate to admit it, women were designed to be men's comfort. Women are capable, in general, of more sweet empathy, kindness and love that men CRAVE.

As such, women are more emotional, fairer, and weaker than men are, in many ways. Men are weak because we were built with a need for a woman's kindness.

We were built with a hole in our souls that only a woman could fill.

We are expected to be fighters, killers of men if circumstances require it, the providers, and women are supposed to be the nurturers, the completion, our "Other halves" our "Better halves".

Many women know this and take advantage of it. They live consequence free lives, or so they think. But nobody gets away scott-free.

They seem to get away with murder, but their hearts only turn blacker with each growing day. Her blessings becomes curses, and she will be a bane to all men who foolishly fall for her. So no. Nobody lives a consequence free life. And real truth will never be trampled by the lie that we are equal.

harakiri · Answer

What drugs are you on? I get blamed for shit all the time. I have to be accountable for myself all the time. When I say shit about men, people tell me I'm bitter, jaded, a lemon. So I get labeled too. I don't know why you are focused on what you need to do to gain sympathy or empathy. Is the purpose of your life to get pitied by others? Who the hell wants that?

Macklin91 · Answer

Even though i agree with most of what you said, i kinda like the expectations that come with being a man. My big brother and dad are my idols and they carry the responsibilities of being a man with pride and i want that responsibility. I don't need any help or empathy from anyone and i like that

Anonymous · Answer

Because male or female, nobody likes whiney people who expect sympathy. Those are the people who are just annoying and you begin to care less.  Hint hint.

523206720 · Answer

Men are stronger physically, emotionally and mentally and this is why they are given less empathy. I hope you never find a girlfriend.

PrettyBama · Answer

Killers don't get sympathy

Internet_Monster · Answer

You are right, blame the feminism XD

Anonymous · Answer

Tell me about it pisses me off

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