Should I go visit him first?

[Steph3500]

I met this guy a week ago, though a mutual friend. We really hit it off and ended up spending the night together (we did not have sex). The problem is he lives 2 hours away. He and I have communicated everyday since we met and have spoken on the phone twice in the past week for more then an hour. It is clear that we like each other and I would like to spend time with him again. I know that it is important for the guy to be the pursuer but he invited me to come see him. He is not planning on coming back up here until Sept 14th because he is every busy with work. . .i told him I would rather he came up again first and he said he would try to finish his project asap. I am more flexible with my job and could go see him. Do I wait it out and let him make all of the effort at first or should I just go and see what happens?

[grenn126]

I would not go see him becasue he may get in the thought that you don't mind going to him. And you may not mind it but I am sure you don't want to be the only traveler. I think you should wait and give him time to think if he wants you. If you let him think that you will run to him then he will think that he can sit back and not realy try. Like you said you want him to pursue too. Kepp talking to him on the phone but I would not go visit him. If he really likes you he will not be able to wait to scome see you in september, which is only a couple weeks away. Hope I helped.

[meplusabeemer]

I would make sure that he has free time before you plan a trip. You said that he is busy with a project, so you want to be sure he can provide you with his full attention during the visit. Once you confirm this then I would say go for it. He did invite you and you do want to show your active interest as well. You can still let him be the pursuer, but I think it will take some stress off him if you show an active interest in him as well.