Why did she do this
If you want to know who it is it's
www.girlsaskguys.com/user/pierre9
What she did was concited. It was extreamly concieted. I mean she can't just make everything about her. I did look at the stuff you answered and you are very good at answering and she's not bad about that. And i do have a legitamite question that i would like to send you if you will let me. I promise i will answer any questions you have. But to answer your initial question. People who over look things miss the details and people who underthink things miss almost everything. I mean there are flaws for both people. Like if you overthink things sometimes you can drive yourself insane with information. So what i like to do by that is to write everything down. I know that seems like a hassle but when you watch things unfold you can see how right you were. Devils live in details but so do angels. So overthinking isn't always bad. Now people who dont think too much they like to overlook everything. They like to brush coincidences off and only usually seem to see what they want to. One of my friends is like that and she can't save relationships or realize when its time to leave.
i mean this is separate from my last post but yeah sometimes women and men seem to both overlook and overthink things. in my post i say have a group of friends that consist of many girls and guys. a handful of those guys are very attractive in their own way and such but i still consider them like my brothers and i have known them for many years with no romantic feelings for them whatsoever. whereas the guy i speak of in particular, i am romantically interested in, i knew that from the moment i saw him but because he was in a relationship i forbade myself to go there, I'm just doing it now cause he's open game. thats how i know guys and girls can be friends. this girl however seems to be immature but this is a website for opinions. an opinion is an opinion but you try to give and give ur best opinion. I'm just saying most people overthink or whatever, but there are a handful of people who naturally and usually are seeing possible signs of a romantic interest. it's not fair if you assume everyone is overthinking or just overlooking.
I posted my question on yours because in your question title, you said "am I just overthinking"... that was my damn point. By the way, girls and guys can't be "just friends" everyone knows that... if they think they can, they're delusional
By the way, tomboys usually don't wind up dating people. Too boyish
i think they can. just because movies and books play on the fact that majority of the friendships between men and women fail or whatever due to the interest of one on the other does not mean its never happened or possible. i would agree that majority of girls and guys can not be friend but i don't agree that there aren't those existing friendships
I think you're misunderstanding the point of "just friends"
well mr. i'll have you know that i have been in several relationships just my profile says tomboy doesn't mean that I'm a baggy pants wearing, no makeup type of girl. i have been in several relationships with men who seem to like me for my personality cause i can be one guys and still be there girlfriend thank you very much. its a new age get with it. tomboy has a new definition.
lol, tell that to my feminine mother
I'm not missing the point of just friends i been on both sides of the spectrum i've had guys tell me they want to be just friends but i have also lost out on guys who genuinely wanted to be with me. just friends can range from many thing to strictly just friends to friends with benefits. what I'm trying to say is that you can be a little more open minded than just assuming all people are overthinking stuff. thats like saying all people drink are alcoholics. it doesn't hurt to have an open mind.
tell that to my tomboyish friend who is married for over six year now, very happily. whats your point maybe your or your father may not have liked tomboyish girls but everyone is not you.
There ya go
okay
Some people are like ostriches, don't wanna hear nor see anything that may crush their reality.
I once dated a guy who used to block me every time we discussed, not even a real argument! And then unblocked me very normally. Really childish not to say selfish.
You say it lead you to "believe that girls and guys can't be just friends", well I could say the same, but I don't think it's related to gender at all.
A lot of the people are immature here. Some are beyond immature and down right wacky with the questions they ask. No one can see everything the same way. Overlooking things is part of being human. If we did not overlook things then we would all think the same and see things the same. No use in asking opinions since we would all give the same answer.
Overthinking? Part of human nature. We have complex brains and must use them one way or another for good or bad. We live a lot in the past and future, we worry about everything and obsess. Terrified of making mistakes, looking bad and getting ego bruised we must perfect our life. That is how humans roll. You can see this in action with all the same stupid questions about "What does it mean when a guy looks at me for 16.7 seconds then looks away for 3.4 seconds then looks at his shoes... does that mean he likes me?"
Well, overthinking serves a purpose of distracting people from their life if there is pain or boredom and it is a better hobby than beheading the infidels, so let them keep asking!
lol at this.. she messaged me about her problem too under another name and then again as @Pierre9
I too think she was over thinking it. She even told me she has a tendency to over analyse!
She told me all about her problem under the other name, i told her what i thought.. and that was that. Then she came back as Pierre9 and asked me if she could tell me some more, as she left some things out of the 'story' first time. Having done that, I told her I thought the guy from work was was just being professional and friendly and it doesn't hurt to talk to him anyway. Bad idea!
She basically said, 'WTF! That's terrible advise. Thanks anyway. Bye!'
I guess it's not what she wanted to hear :O
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Girls and guys can just be friends. The girl you were talking to just seems immature to me for blocking you over something so flimsy. And I think people tend to overlook or over think things when they are anxious or tied up in their emotions.
Maybe its the wrong time of the month for her, i overthink a lot when i get PMS , and im more defensive during that time, Just an option to think about lol
People never want to hear what they need to hear. Especially on here.
Everyone's got their pre-meditated agenda and just hopes everyone can push the wagon along with em'.
Okay, I got a message from her as well and she said the same thing... I think she may be trolling.
Well spoken 🙌
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