The idea that males and females speak different languages of love is incoherent media babble! I will disprove this by arguing for core points relating to how love is commonly shown and comparing it to media contrasts which fail to show the reality of the situation. I firmly believe that if we are to move to a more egalitarian state and to improve relationship quality we must cease these stereotypes.
"Words": Males and females both use words and while it is true that females have a larger area of the brain dedicated to words the myth that males are unable to communicate clearly is just false. Not only are there obvious indications of this in real life as males and females in couples both give one another loving send-offs, welcomes, and general conversation but also also in studies showing that males generally say it first (news.discovery.com/.../science-of-love-111230.htm) and tend to mean it as well.
Media: Words to men are a foreign thing. If it doesn't hum like a car or a drill and doesn't involve fixing something it's in one ear and out the other. Males are poor listeners and generally say emotional things without meaning them at all, and this is just wrong and false, actively being misandry treating males as idiots in the face of their doting females who "put up with" their social ineptitude.
"Deeds": The common thought is that males work to bring home money and women clean the house however (time.com/.../) men who help out around the house in healthy relationships tend to get more sex and (www.nytimes.com/.../...work-and-live-together.html help each other prosper in their lines of work as well. This concept of the nuclear family is terribly sexist and prevents healthy bonding between pairs.
Media: Men do A, Women do B, and if there is an overlap someone is being encroached upon! This is garbage. If a female can fix the sink and the male can fold the laundry better they play to their strengths particularly because that is how strong relationships work. The concept of segmentation is completely toxic to success.
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I think you should pick a new topic, because I believe you are wrong. Men and women are not the same. There will be some exceptions, but for the most part we do speak different languages. Thinking men and women should react the same, or be attracted to the same things will only lead to disappointment, and misunderstandings. I see a lot of communication problems in your relationships if you really think men and women are communicating the same way with the person they love.
You're looking for social constructs or actual brain and hormonal differences?
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Personally I think men and women look for the same things in a partner. Aside from physically they look for intelligence, sense of humor, playfulness, flirting, posture and bunch of other things. We are pretty much the same actually
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