Why is it socially acceptable for a girl to reject a guy solely because he is short?

[Anonymous]

A close friend of mine is around 5'4 and a number of girls have rejected him solely because he is short. They actually say that to his face. A couple of days ago, he asked a girl out, she was with her friends, and they all literally laughed at him. Well, it was more like snickering, but still. I felt so bad for him. He tried not to show it, but I could see that it hurt him a lot. The thing is, that he is a great guy. It's things like that that make me appreciate being 5'11.

If a guy rejected a girl because she was overweight (which she actually has control over), or her breast size, all hell would break loose. Let alone actually telling the girl to her face for Gods sake!

Why is that socially acceptable? Also, why is it that a lot of girls are completely turned off by short guys? In terms of strength and protection, the guy I am talking about could (and has) kick (ed) my ass easily lol.

Short is a turn off

Short is not a turn off

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Oh, I'm 18 (almost 19) if that matters.

[Ifonlyifonly]

So I dated a guy for 3 years who was 3-4 inches shorter than me. It's obviously not a "turn off" for me but I've also dated taller guys who I prefer. Honestly I know I prefer them because of my own insecurities because I'm not the smallest (not chubby or anything) but I don't like feeling like I'm too big for them, not just height but how thin/scrawny. Not because I see anything wrong or not ok, but because of my own shit.

Let me turn it around slightly though. You said you appreciate that you're taller (nothing wrong with that) but what if a 6 foot 3 ish girl was interested in you? Same situation but then you'd have to decide, being tall already, if you then wanted to date someone taller than you. You might be fine with it but many, many guys would not be.

And honestly I can't change my height, my boobs, or my face so f someone decides they don't like something I won't get mad about it. If they consider me too fat, too skinny, tall, short, etc that's their own deal and I have mine too and no one should feel bad about it.

The girls you're talking about were obviously wrong with what they did and I hope they feel bad because you know there's guys nitpicking them too. People are vain as a whole, and sadly it gets shown in hurtful ways

[Red_Dragon]

Typically big girls (tall with average build... not so much fat really) have been interested in me the most. From living 21 years on Earth it seems it's short, thin, girls who seem to be picky about it.

Also, I'm into 6'3 girls. Hell make her 7'3. That's fine too.

[Ifonlyifonly]

I'm sorry I wasn't trying to imply you wouldn't be ok with taller girls, I was just using you as the example because you said you were taller lol I had a friend back in high school who was always towering above the boys and some didn't care at all and some were like those girls and laughed at her like there was something wrong. And honestly the girls other than being short and thin are probably also bitchy and think themselves better than most anyway.

[Asker]

I would have no problem dating a taller girl. As long as the height difference isn't ridiculous, and we can still kiss without too much trouble, then height isn't a problem for me. I've literally never met a guy who said he would have a problem with dating a girl who is taller.

[Red_Dragon]

Well I'm not the asker. I'm short actually LOL

Yeah some thin, short, girls can be bitchy for sure.

[Ifonlyifonly]

I really have to pay more attention to the names lol I've done that twice in an hour now -_-

[Red_Dragon]

LOL XD. It's okay. You'll get used to it :)

[Ifonlyifonly]

We'll see.. lol

[BuchitaBuchys]

I'm like 99% sure you asked this same question a while back. Like a month ago maybe (or perhaps GaG topics seem to be the same thing).

I think people have the right to reject others for whatever they want. Though, they should be considerate of the other person's feelings when rejecting. Plenty of tall girls get rejected cuz they're tall. I have overweight friends, and they get rejected in horrible ways as well. Sometimes. Depends how much of a dick the person is. One of my friends was almost anorexic cuz not only would she get rejected badly, but guys would make fun of her. It's fucking rude as fuck. I think people need to learn to be considerate.

I've had guys laugh or poke fun at my small boobs, hell did not break loose. People didn't really care, only my friends obviously. Just like how you cared about your friend in your scenario.

I don't think it's "socially acceptable" for girls to be rude about like you make it seem. If my friends ever treated someone like that, I'd definitely lose respect for them.

Short isn't a turn off to me, but I'm short as well.

[Red_Dragon]

I think it is socially acceptable in terms of society's unwritten rules.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@Red_Dragon how?

[Red_Dragon]

Because tall guys are supposed to be with short girls. The media, the people, accept this. There are plenty of people out in the world who aren't this way but this is acceptable to the environment we live in.

Just like if I hit a girl it's not acceptable, but if she hits me who will stop her?

[BuchitaBuchys]

@Red_Dragon I don't know. then that means it's socially acceptable to reject tall girls?

If you hit a girl, depends where you are, people probably won't care. Outside my house, some guy was beating his gf. I yelled for them to stop, cuz I didn't want people fighting on my doorstep. But people just walked by and went about their business. Some people were just watching like high schoolers eager to see violence. But no one stopped the guy physically.
I only yelled stop cuz I don't wanna get involved. But if the roles were reversed, I would've done the same. I don't want violence outside of my house. Take that shit elsewhere.

[Red_Dragon]

Yes it's socially acceptable to reject tall girls. Within society's view they are seen as being more manly... more "masculine".

You like in the Chi. No offense, but I'm not surprised by their reactions. You make a good point.

[Red_Dragon]

*You live in the Chi.

[bombamboum]

I'm not going to say that I like short men, I don't. Is it socially acceptable? not entirely. You brought up weight or breast size, well some men will consider it a deal breaker.
People date whoever they want and just like eyes color or hair color, heigh is often in the equation, it's a fact.
He might feel bad about it but at least, they are honest. It's better than saying "it's not you, it's me".

Some women won't mind the heigh and even if you said he can kick ass, tall men makes us feel like they can protect us. My boyfriend is way taller than me and when I'm by his side, I feel like nothing can happen to me, it's also great to put my head against his chest and... it turns me on

[Red_Dragon]

Yeah y'all believe in a false illusion. Get a fucking security guard.

[bombamboum]

Hey, I just said it felt that way, no need to be a asshole about it.

[Red_Dragon]

Sorry. I just see it as foolish, and you do too yet you still won't turn from it.

[bombamboum]

I can't help it. It's stupid, I'm small but tall men always turned me on. I didn't start to date because he was tall but when I see him but I can't help it. I dated smaller guys though.

[Red_Dragon]

Bad look for the female gender. And females have the nerve to have a fit when guys say they are insecure about their penis size? LOL

[bombamboum]

Bad look? men are just like women. Many like short women and some tall women feel insecure. Women also have insecurities, it's not a battle, we all have preferences, there's no reason to be a bitch about it.

[Red_Dragon]

Save the preferences bullshit. I'm tired of every GAGer having the same brain as all the other GAGers. Preferences preferences preferences.

[Red_Dragon]

I can point it out no matter what "safe haven" you want to put it under.

[bombamboum]

So don't you have preferences at all? you don't like that word but that's too bad. We all have some stuff that turns us on more than others.

[Red_Dragon]

There are the open and non-open. Most GAGers are on the non-open side.

GAG Males want:
-Short girl
-White or Asian
-Virgin
-Thin or average build

GAG girls want:
-Tall
-White
-Average build

[Red_Dragon]

In the real world it's not as one sided as it is on here.

[bombamboum]

Well, not all gagers think that way and I'm talking about the real world here, not about a small community. It's not about a common preferences here, it's about each people. Each individual have their own preferences. See, I slept with many men, my boyfriend doesn't give a damn, he's not white and I just find him handsome. You try to make it all so simple. When it's way more complicated

[Red_Dragon]

In general GAGers do though.

It's about society's influence. How people's preferences are influenced by insecurity and blindness. It's not individuals. It's people non-open and open. That's all.

No YOU try to make it simple. Saying it's just preferences. It's not just that. It's where they came from. Do we all have some preferences? Yes, but I've noticed people on here follow society and it's preferences more so than the real world. There is a larger percentage of people here who have the same specific preferences as the rest of people on here as opposed to the various ones out in the real world.

[Anonymous]

why is it socially acceptable for women and not for men?
double standards those happen all the time like if a women uses her sexuality to get things from guys no one bats an eye if a guy uses his charm to get things from women all girls start loosing their shit calling him a player or whatever

why is being short a turn off? i don't know i would have to be a girl but i know that they like taller older guys the shorter compared to them you are the more you will be discriminated and the younger you are to them the more you will be discriminated.

[Imtheone88]

so you think girls are mean huh?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2alnVIj1Jf8

[Red_Dragon]

I've seen that before. She lied to them though. How are they mean?

[Imtheone88]

its not about lying. they have basically walked out on her. and these guys are adults not 16 17 yo teenagers. im not saying girls are nicer or anything. some people are just like that. its not about gender.

[Asker]

You can change your weight. You cannot change your height.

[Imtheone88]

you are not getting my point...

[Red_Dragon]

Well first of all not all of them did that (I didn't rewatch the video so I'm going by memory), and 2ndly she did lie.

If I wanted to go on a date with a big girl then I would search for one. She looked one way and then when the guy met her she looks another way. That's lying to me.

Bad argument.

[Nicolás25]

no because the girls in the situation described above were not lied to and did not feel betrayed they were just laughing at him in front of his face for no reason other than they weren't attracted to him and the guys here were lied to felt betrayed had good points of wasting money time and effort in vain it's like your boss promising you a raise so you work harder and then he says haha i was lying you don't get a raise.

[JayB124]

I wonder what the video would be like if it was guy who said he was 6ft and turned out to be 5ft 4 though.

[Red_Dragon]

@JayB124 Right exactly.

[Imtheone88]

you guys are keep focusing on the wrong part... were not talking about some one being rejected or not, were talking about the way one is rejected. ok the girl lied to the guys but isn't there better way to reject her than waling out? couldn't they at least sit down and have a coffee with her? im not saying she shouldn't have been rejected, yea she lied or what ever there are better ways to reject some one. so you can't just say GIRLS do these kinda things... guys do it too.
@JayB124 @Nicolas25 @Red_Dragon

[Red_Dragon]

Well that's a natural thing. Females typically are going to react differently than males are. That's just how it is. We are two different creatures. Our literal brains work differently. While females biologically stay in situations men typically try to resolve the problem. Hence why they are quick to leave.

All in all it doesn't matter. A liar is a liar.

[JayB124]

Of course guys do it too. But there is a stigma against it as this video is trying to show. Which is the point. When women reject a man for a physical flaw they are exerting their birth right, when men do it they are shallow pigs that need internet videos showing what jerks they are. That is after all what the OP was talking about.

[Red_Dragon]

@JayB124 Right. These videos are always set up a certain way anyway.

[been_waiting]

Um... guys reject girls over weight. I'm sure some reject girls over breast size. And being too tall. And any other thing he perceives as a flaw. Guys do it, girls do it.

It isn't socially acceptable to say you're rejecting someone for being short, fat, whatever. It is widely considered rude. Just because some people do it doesn't mean its considered okay

[Nicolás25]

ok good points but the guys that reject the fat girls tend to let her down softly not laugh at her in front of her face

[Red_Dragon]

It is socially acceptable in my opinion.

[been_waiting]

@Nicolás25 um... some guys are mean when they reject girls. Some girls are mean. Wtf.

[been_waiting]

@Red_Dragon in my opinion you can reject someone for whatever reason you want but you don't have to tell them why

[Red_Dragon]

I never said you couldn't. I'm just saying society won't accept a tall guy rejecting a short girl, but they will except a short girl rejecting a short guy.

[been_waiting]

@Red_Dragon define "society won't accept." What do you think happens when tall guys reject short girls over height? Protests and riots? Nah people just complain. Some way guys complain about being rejected for being short.
The difference here is that guys *IN GENERAL* prefer shorter girls and girls *IN GENERAL* prefer taller guys. Therefore a guy will often not want the girl that's taller than him and vice versa you get the idea.

[Red_Dragon]

Society won't accept means that in such example the tall guy is going "against the rules". There are unwritten rules that society has created.

-Men don't hit women, but women can get away with hitting men.
-Women are raped. Not men
-Women can reject short guys
-Men can reject tall women
-Women have a better chance at custody of children during divorce cases

The list goes on and on, and the common person accepts these unwritten rules. That's why so many people believe women can't rape men through mental breakdown. Why? Because society has this vision that it's impossible.

I disagree with the general thing. I say it's between open and non open people. Some guys prefer shorter girls and some guys don't care. Some girls prefer tall guys and some don't care.

[been_waiting]

@Red_Dragon unspoken rules. .. sounds more like insecurities and false victimhood that's been internalized

[Red_Dragon]

Maybe that's how these unwritten rules were created yet many people follow them huh?

[been_waiting]

@Red_Dragon guys still reject girls on the basis of height regardless of your rules. .

[Red_Dragon]

They aren't my rules and I didn't say they didn't. I'm just saying it's more acceptable for a guy to reject a tall girl just like it's more acceptable for a girl to reject a short guy.

[strength98]

Its all about feeling like the girl in the relationship. There are so many reasons that the boy should be taller. Mostly for me its that he is... well I guess superior over me. A guy just needs to bigger than me strength and height. Getting hugged by a guy who is taller is more comforting. Hugging a short guy is like hugging a kid. Nothing seems equal or balanced. Now if a guy has an outstanding personality, a girl should be smart enough to see through his size. There isn't anything wrong with the guy being shorter, but it is awkward and off balanced.

[Red_Dragon]

Do you have a vagina? Then you're a girl.

[strength98]

Alright here's the deal. I am very strong for being a woman. This means I have been more "assertive" then past boyfriends. I need a guy more assertive than me. This means I want him to be taller. Bigger. Stronger.

[Red_Dragon]

Hahahahaha height has nothing to do with that. I assure you there are plenty of short guys more assertive than tall guys. Stronger too.

[UberTroll]

It's acceptable for people to turn anyone down for whatever reason they want. Everybody likes different things and people are free to date who they want. Would it be fair to force a girl to date a short guy just because the guy wants to date her? The only way dating works is when it's a two-way street.

[Red_Dragon]

At the same time is it fair to us humans to let the world decide what we want?

[UberTroll]

Absolutely not.

[kain7th]

yup came in here to say this basically haha. upvote!

[Hephaestus]

it's acceptable because that is clearly not what the person wants in a partner, call it vain or shallow, but it's not that persons preference.
you saying you'd ask out a girl 4 times your weight?
or 6'8?
or any number of things?

it's all about preference dude, peeps can like what they like
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[madhatters4]

why is ok to reject girls who don't have large breasts? or reject someone because they are "prude" or "promiscuous"? why is it acceptable to reject someone because of their religion, race, age, weight, etc, etc, etc?

the fact is people reject people for a litany of rather superficial reasons that have nothing to do with what the person actually is on the inside. it's not great, it's fairly sad, but I'm sure EVERYONE has rejected someone for a very superficial reason

[SillyQuirks_]

It isn't socially acceptable... no one ever said it is...
However it is a known preference, that many women, for men to be taller.

Your friend should really work on building up her personality and using that as his first foot put forward. It is unfortunate that he is prejudged desirable or not based off of physical but at the end of the day someones personality can completely out weigh such a thing as their height.

[SillyQuirks_]

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Kevin Hart for example, met his ex wife before he was actually "famous"... He is 5'4
Embraces his personality and has a great sense of humor.

[Red_Dragon]

Kevin Hart is corny AF to me.

[Nicolás25]

kevin hart is not a good example he has celebrity status good personality and a lot of money

[SillyQuirks_]

@Nicolás25 Like I said, he met his ex-wife before he was famous... He was struggling up until his big break in 2003 with scary movie but met his wife about 2years before that when he was struggling to make it.

[Nicolás25]

oh sorry i didn't see you put that

[SomeoneImportant]

Same reason it's socially acceptable for me to reject a girl because she is too tall for me. People get rejected for being too skinny, too fat, too short, small boobs, small butt, lack of muscle... All that shit. Happens ALL THE TIME, only difference is she was honest about her reason for rejecting him, and even if she didn't, he would have known that was the reason anyway.

[JayB124]

I'm that height too and yes, women have said me many times. Women make the dating rules, so they made it so they could never be shallow. Instead of being attracted to money, it's "success", instead of abs its "health" and instead of height it's "the feeling of being protected". It's all nonsense but we have to play the hand we are dealt in life.

[Red_Dragon]

Women don't make the dating rules unless you want them to.

[JayB124]

What do you suggest? An internet campaign?

[Red_Dragon]

What?

[Anonymous]

Double standards. I'm very tall myself and whenever I reject short girls (I don't want to be with someone half my size) they act horribly offended, even though I'm never rude about it. They don't think it's fine for guys to reject short girls, in fact, I get a lot of shit just for stating my preference.

[Red_Dragon]

Yeah because you're wrong if you are a guy and reject a short girl, but you can reject a tall girl though.

Society. Smh.

[rachel_lee78]

I think people reject others for a lot of reasons. It's the same as rejecting someone for their weight.. it's common. But it is wrong to make fun of someone because of that, that's sad. It shows a lot about the other person and he should be glad that he isn't dating someone who would've snickered at someone for their height. It sucks, but he'll find someone who respects him eventually and won't care about height.

[BelleGirl21]

Short guys are not a turn off for me but I think people have the right to reject anyone for any reason. There are certainly more tactful approaches that could've been taken.

[Ihav2fart]

Could I be #2 in the VIP line?

[BelleGirl21]

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[Ihav2fart]

Fineeeeee :(

[BelleGirl21]

Man you gave up quickly ;) @ihav2fart

[Ihav2fart]

I'm a sucker for pretty ladies.

[523206720]

People have the right to reject others for any and every reason. If it wasn't acceptable to reject people for any and every reason you would be raping them.

[SillyQuirks_]

That is not really the point of the question... The girls were snickering at him in a manner that was disrespectful - there is an underlying situation to this question. Understandably everyone has their own preferences in partners but when it comes to public rejection and being turned down, if a person snickers or laughs while doing it then nine times out of ten it is for obvious reasons that you are not desirable in one way or another to that person. Which is wrong and not socially acceptable.

[Your_boss]

I honestly don't know but I agree with you.
Why is it that when a skinny girl hates on a fat girl all hell breaks loose, but when a fat girl hates on a skinny girl... Nobody cares. It's the same way for this situation.

[Red_Dragon]

GAGers on here are the same way. It's funny though because in real life I've never experienced any problems getting girls and I'm 5'4 1/2.

Fairies and Giants. Fairies and Giants.

[linkywinky]

I'm 5'1'' and I've yet to meet a guy shorter than me (who wasn't a child), so I can't say whether I would reject a shorter man or not because I've never been in the presence of a shorter man.

[Red_Dragon]

Hmm yeah that would be rare. I'm 5'4 1/2. Short, but not THAT short LOL

[linkywinky]

well, maybe "technically" you're short, but nah, you're tall. @Red_Dragon ;p

[Red_Dragon]

Yeah but some short girls can be really funny about short guys. Here they are at 4'11 and wanting a 6'1 guy. -____-. Though in my experience while the girls who want me the most are typically taller or the same height as me there are still some short girls into me. I think short girls are more prone to being picky about height than tall girls are though.

[linkywinky]

@Red_Dragon Hmm! I never really noticed, but thats weird. You would think my fellow short girls would care LESS about height, seeing as how.. well.. everyone is taller. I can say I probably wouldn't date a guy who is the same height as me, but even something as minimal as being two inches taller is enough in my books.

You'd think it'd be the taller ladies who were pickier.

[Red_Dragon]

Hahaha nah it's the taller girls who like me the most. I don't know if it's because maybe they feel if they have kids with me their kids would be more "evened out" as opposed to being with someone who is really tall and then thus having tall kids. I don't know what it is. Though I guess it all depends on the girl it just in my experience girls taller than me seem to be more interested.

[Watermelonoma]

He needs to work on building his income level. A guy very short can compensate by being successful. Some girls won't mind it, but the majority do prefer tall men. Girls can be pretty easy to blind sight, which is why they believe tall = strength

[Red_Dragon]

I'm broke and girls still want me.

[been_waiting]

More bs

[Watermelonoma]

@Red_Dragon

Clearly the guy he's referring to doesn't have that kind of game. If you lack game, and you lack height, I say focus on being successful

@been_waiting

la de da da

[Red_Dragon]

I lack game too. I'm shy and awkward. I just walk around and I don't know chicks just like me. Girls like shy, quiet, short guys just as much as they do tall guys. People on here just make a big deal about it because THEY have been unsuccessful.

[Red_Dragon]

And probably because many females on here are into tall guys.

[Watermelonoma]

@Red_Dragon

What you say is not something i see often at all. Generally, girls don't even notice you if you're shy, unless you're quite attractive.

[Red_Dragon]

Well of course the guy who runs his mouth all the time is going to get the most attention but that doesn't mean girls are attracted to him.

Plenty probably would wish he'd shut the hell up LOL

[Watermelonoma]

@Red_Dragon

lol, I do know people like this, though I still find that they are more often on girls radar than shy guys. They just have a noticeable presence, good or bad. And it can be even worse when you're short

[Red_Dragon]

I seem to attract people when I don't even want it. At least I don't have to try.

[Anonymous]

People can reject anyone for any reason. They're not obligated to date someone. Everyoone has different preferences. Besides, I doubt they were laughing at him. People don't do that.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Same reason we all have physical standards for what we like and don't like.

[Littlett25]

I wouldn't do that but it's not a turn on if he's short. But I still wouldn't not date him because he's short though. Wow that was a mouthful

[TheWiseOwl]

Girls turn me down because I'm short? Not a problem, there's billions more women out there.