I don't want to pass my genes down, help?

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Me and my husband have been together for many years now and he wants to start having children. I'm very worried and I keep saying no but he nudges me and tries anyhow. I'm worried because my genes aren't worth passing over and they're dominant. I don't want to ruin his with mine. I don't know what to do. He's a very handsome sweet man and I'm so eww. He's very tall, fair, blue eyes and sandy hair and great amazing facial structure and metabolism and I'm short, dark hair and eyes and tan easily but was born light skinned. I'm working that farmers tan you see and I'm pretty sure I am a carrier to premature balding as unfortunately this is happening to my brother. He keeps trying to get me in the mood and he is just laughing this off but I am very worried. What can I do?

chocolatedragon · Accepted Answer

Short genes are not dominant.
Your baby can still get blue eyes if you have the recessive gene for blue eyes.
The hair will vary from super wavy to curly.

From your explanation, I'm led to believe that you and your husband are of different races, correct?

Well I hope you know that average people of different races have a much higher potential to give birth to an exotic/pretty baby than average looking couples of the same race.

Take her for example:

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She looks decently pretty.

Now look at her parents:

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Her parents are average looking.

So believe me, you're fine.
If you don't want babies, gonna need a better reason than genes.

Illusive_Man · Accepted Answer

I will be lying if sometimes I don't blame my parents for some of the traits I have BUT while some are bad , also some are good. CONFIDENCE , you need it , and I do too.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't mean to be harsh, but you really need to get some perspective on this. There are people who have way more extreme concerns about genes then you do, people who don't want to pass down genes like breast cancer or mental illnesses and you're worried that your child may possibly be short or bald easily? You've got to be kidding me. Stop being so insecure about these petty things that don't even matter! Because they DON'T EVEN MATTER! And you're lucky if you are even blessed enough to be able to conceive! Some women are infertile and don't have the ability to create their own children! This isn't about insecurity, this is about you being ungrateful for what you have!

BuchitaBuchys · Accepted Answer

Oh gosh, I'm gonna sound so mean and horrible. BUT REALLY? Do you know how many couples are desperate to have kids but worried about passing down illness or inheriting other medically harmful things to their kids? And you're afraid of having an "ugly" kid? Why? Will you love the kid less?
Also, there's a saying that at least one ugly parent produces kids, the kids will be cute. So even if you are "ugly", the kid will probably come out cute.

Of all the problems I've heard of parents about pregnancy, looks. Really?

I have oh so many reasons for not wanting kids. Looks never crossed my mind. Ugly or cute kid, I wouldn't care cuz it'd be my little critter.

nert73 · Accepted Answer

Don't worry about it. Your genes are nothing to worry about. Think of it this way: if you're so worried about your child getting your "bad" genes, remember how much of those genes will come from your husband. People like me have health problems in their genes that no child should ever have, so you have nothing to worry about here. It doesn't sound like you'll give them a heredity disease or anything. Don't worry about it.

Aud_Queen · Accepted Answer

I don’t know if this helps, but i don't look like either of my parents. Instead, I resemble my grandparents. Grandfather on my mom's side and grandmother on my father's. Genetics don't always turn out like you'd expect?

Also, not to sound demeaning/rude, but did you tell him you didn't want kids when you got married? It seems like he really wants to be a dad...

ScruffyNerfHerder · Answer

hahaha, my goodness. Your genes sound fine ;)

Perhaps you're simply afraid taking the big step of becoming a mother? If that's the case, it's something you should embrace. I have a few nieces and a nephew now, and my sisters were terrified of motherhood. But seeing them now, you'd never think so--they've really taken to it, and they adore their kids.

Relax, talk to your husband, try to get to the bottom of why you feel the way you do. My gut instinct tells me that your genes aren't the problem ;)

XNicholeMariex3 · Answer

... If that is the only reason why you don't want children with your husband, then I feel sorry for your husband.
See, he married you for who you are... and he clearly doesn't seem to give a shit about how "ugly" (I doubt you are ugly) you are.

If you want a child, just have a child and stop being so hard on yourself.

Misterjay02 · Answer

Why would you be worried about such a thing? You two would have perfect babies, because they would be your creations. That is what would make them special.

been_waiting · Answer

Everyone has some somewhat less favorable genes in their DNA. Will you still love your child even if he goes on to bald early? I would hope so. Would his life still be worth living? Of course. Make a baby with your husband.

by the way what's wrong with being short and tan? And dark hair?

demonology · Answer

if you love your husband, and see him as beautiful, he loves you and sees you as beautiful. the "eww" is just an illusion; if you live around the same painting your whole life, it will appear plain to you in comparison to others.

i personally think thats so selfish
billions of years go into making specifically you, and you want to end it there.

if youve made your mind up, you can get a "beautiful person" to rent out their womb and have his child for you.

blondfrog · Answer

Look at it this way there are people who have no balding gene from their family genes and they still can have a baby who grows up with male pattern baldness or female pattern baldness. Balding isn't that bad and they have made a big break through in science now in how to treat it they have certain drugs going under clinical trial right now you never know the future could have a cure for baldness one day.

GutterGarbage · Answer

Work with a doctor with the new gene therapy. It uses 3 people DNA 2 females and 1 male for the new super babies.

Metlahead · Answer

I think your reasons are pretty pathetic, but if you don't want kids then you don't want kids. I don't want them either, but my reasons are more humanitarian.

FistSlaminElite · Answer

Oooo okay! So what so can do is have him ARTIFICIALLY impregnate a girl who you like her genes and then you carry the egg, its 100% like its your kid BUT he jizzed in a cup not you and it doesn't look like you , it has his and her genes

ThatGuy98 · Answer

Don't worry about it, if he wants to have children with YOU it means that he loves you for who you are and that is so sweet in my opinion. Every child is beautiful in it's own way and you will love it no matter how it looks^^

Greece1990 · Answer

Adopt or get some self confidence, those are your options.

Coolguy1928 · Answer

You should just do it. :\ Or, you could just adopt a baby, if you really don't want to give birth.

COCOCHANEL · Answer

it's hard to say with genetics, your offspring could be more gorgeous than the both of you. intelligent and other things too. you never know.

Anonymous · Answer

If you're 24 at oldest, just hold off a bit before deciding forever.

JackKerouac77 · Answer

Adopt a kid instead

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