If your bf of 9 months spent his birthday with another girl would you break up with him?

[Anonymous]

if you were at cheer camp and it was his 18th birthday and he invited another girl over thats not exactly a friend because they were assigned to work on a paper together, he's only known her since November but he invited her over to his house but they didn't do anything. they just cuddled but it was no big deal. they didn't kiss and then she went home would you dump him?

yes

no

[Mustachekitteh]

Unless the bf was stranded in a frozen tundra. Just with that chick and he's getting Hypothermia. That she is the only other source to keep him from dying. So cuddling together to raise his bodies temperature. That would be a type of cheating. I said no on the breaking up because I first understood it at him having a paper due and the chick was forced to be his partner because of the teacher. That ended up on the dudes b-day. Now since cuddling was involved. I would feel pretty hurt and he would have to do a lot of explaining. In the end I would dump them.

[Prettygurl12]

Excuse you, moron. Cuddling IS cheating.

Don't be that dirt bag.

But I assume you ARE that dirt bag. In which case, I don't understand why/if you're confused about why she's upset.

He'd be dead to me.

ANY interaction with another girl that is not absolutely 100% platonic IS absolutely cheating. And what you did IS absolutely 100% cheating.

[Asker]

no sex is cheating and maybe making out too. but cuddling is not if the girls cold or if she started cuddling the guy

[Prettygurl12]

Cuddling is absolutely cheating.

[Prettygurl12]

I'd dump you. Wouldn't even hear you out. You'd say, "we just cuddled." And I'd be like, "we just broke up, you cheating bastard."

[Asker]

You sound like a clingy and jealous gf

[Prettygurl12]

I sound like a girlfriend who values monogamy and faithfulness.

You and your girlfriend better not have different views on what is and what is not cheating. Otherwise you will find yourself single.

[Asker]

shouldn't she be the one getting dumped for not spending time with her bf on his birthday and choosing a competition over his bday?

[Edgeralanapoe]

I agree with the guy cheating. Sometimes people miss things. I'm sure she would've been there if she could've. But anything you'd have to hide from your SO is considered cheating.

[Prettygurl12]

You can't not go to a competition. It's a school sanctioned event. But seeing as you're shallow enough to think that it's not cheating to cuddle then yes, dump her. Let her find a more respectable man.

[Asker]

It's not school sponsored it's her own thing with a team

[Prettygurl12]

It's still a team. That'd be like just not showing up for work. Not ok. You can try to justify this all you want. You can't. You cheated. Doesn't matter who started it. You're at fault with her. Not the other way around.

[nert73]

Strangely specific...
Good luck being single, bud.
That's cheating, as far as I'm concerned. Cuddling is very intimate. I don't care if they didn't do anything--I wouldn't do that to a guy and I would expect the same trustworthiness and commitment from him.

[thewanderingme]

"they cuddled"

I don't care what day it was, cuddling another girl is not ok. so, yes, I'd be done with him.

[zorro8888]

So if you found your girlfriend cuddling up to a guy on a bed/couch you'd be fine with it... because hey "it was no big deal" Right?

Inviting someone or a girl wasn't the problem but you guys weren't platonic and you ended up cuddling. Come on... you can't possibly think this isn't a problem.

I'd break up.

[Asker]

shouldn't she be the one getting dumped for not spending time with her bf on his birthday and choosing a competition over his bday?

[zorro8888]

I'm sorry that you're too immature to understand that some people are busy and can't drop everything for you.

[tyber1]

You don't cuddle with a girl when you already have a girlfriend. If I was a girl, he'd be dumped. I wouldn't say that 'they didn't do anything' or 'it was no big deal' and if you would then cdn.ymaservices.com/.../throne%20of%20lies.png

[Asker]

shouldn't she be the one getting dumped for not spending time with her bf on his birthday and choosing a competition over his bday?

[tyber1]

No the world doesn't revolve around you or your birthday, even for your girlfriend. She obviously had to make a choice between two things she considered to be important. If you wanted her to be there for your birthday you should have asked, and if you did and she said no she has that right, even if you dislike it. Someone doing something you dislike in a relationship isn't a viable excuse to get intimate with another woman. You made that decision and it is you who is responsible for it, not her, don't blame other people for your own failures.

[bryon]

Yea that crossed the line into cheating territory , a dangerous place to be for man or woman

[Asker]

shouldn't she be the one getting dumped for not spending time with her bf on his birthday and choosing a competition over his bday?

[bryon]

I don't know about her but I have found being in more than one place at a time to not be my specialty. She was at camp read the question

[CHARismatic110]

Cuddling is intimate as hell my man. That's cheating in my book.

[Asker]

they didn't kiss or do even feel each other up

[CHARismatic110]

And that's all good, but like I said, cuddling is intimate to me. Why couldn't you cuddle with your gf instead?

[crazyincalifornia]

I voted A.
I just wold never do that to any guy.
So I expect the same in return

[Anonymous]

I would cause this was not something that he didn't have enough time to think about and back off from doing. He chose to do it with a full awareness of the situation.

[linkywinky]

Suspect as fuck.

[Asker]

how?

[linkywinky]

You don't just cuddle with other girls when you're in a relationship, dude.

[Asker]

she started getting cozy not me

[Katy16]

Probably and if not I'd still be PISSED

[Anonymous]

wtf 9 months already cheetin'?

[Asker]

he didn't cheat

[Asker]

please read the explanation

[Opinion Owner]

oh well thats suspicious

[Klaatu51]

a cuddle is just a cuddle... a friendly gesture

[Anonymous]

Probably not but we will have to do a serious talk