Am I wrong for ditching my roommate? Would you hate me for this?

[vishna]

A person and I signed a lease agreement for the upcoming year. We've known each other for about 3 months now. A friend of mine initially agreed to join us but, after believing the school didn't have the specific major wanted, took back what was said. So, my roommate and I started looking for other roommates.

Now some of the people I was unsure if I would get along with, because of social habits. I met these people anyway because I knew we needed someone and because my roommate really liked them. I voiced my concerns about clicking with these people but my roommate was happy so we met them (plus we were kinda desperate)

Well, a few weeks into talking to people (around the same time we met the first major potential roommate), my friend toured the school, got better information on majors, and decided to go. That person my roommate and I were booking on decided on another place. Now my roommate and I need a person to live with us. My friend has now put in a security deposit, started texting my roomate to build a relationship (she lives a few hours away so meeting in person isn't feasible right now), and has told us she wants to live with us.

The problem is that my roommate doesn't want her to. Reasons, what if she bails again and I don't know if we will be friends.

I showed my roommat a picture of my friend saying she is going to our school, has put in her deposit, and wants to live with us. And my friend then apologized to my roommate for changing her mind and also for possibly being awkward when texting her because she is bad at texting (which she is)

Now, my roommate and I have very little things in common, really we couldn't be more different but we get along. My friend and my roommate have similar interests, and I truly believe they would get along.

My friend IS a good person. Nice, respectful, open to different people/view points, and very laid back. I don't feel like she's getting

You should stay with your roommate

You should go with your friend

You should live on your own/other

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Update: My roommate now says she doesn't want to live with my friend because she is a homebody like we are. She said she wants to have fun and go out. And because my friend isn't party going she doesn't wish to live with her.
1) my friend has gone to clubs and is ok with drinking
2) I read the messages between the two (friend and roommate) and social habits were NEVER discussed.
New thoughts? I will be awarding BA Friday night

[phillymuralist123]

Hmm its a confusing situation. Just do what you feel is right and hurry so that who ever needs to find a new place can do that immedietly. Sometimes its better to just live with a roommate so you have the air of respect around the house because I don't know about you my my friends would get a little too comfortable and leave shit around and pay late because they know they can or you know they know ill be more understanding than a random roommate
So it depends on the experience your looking for, fun easy or professional. Hm but yeaj your decision but please do it in a timely manner so that other person can find a room somewhere else. Nothing is worse than having a roommate back out last minute

[523206720]

Its okay to ditch your roommate if

a) your friend is willing to live with your rooom mate
b) your roommate is not willing to live with your friend

She had the option of living with both of you and she rejected it so you are not ditching her - instead she is ditching your friend (and you by default)

[stillagoodgirl]

I'd say ditch rommie since you're a homebody too and you don't need a new person to mess up your friendship

[martyfellow]

Keep trying to work things out with the roommate, but hey, if she stays obstinate, you should live with just your friend.

[Anonymous]

You already signed the lease you can't just up and leave.

[vishna]

I could break it, I probably wouldn't get my security deposit back though. What do you feel is right, beyond the lease?