Sometimes I feel critised or judge immediately when people see me, if I have basketball after school I may just wear something I can practice in to school. I get weird looks and I feel like I don't fit in. My best friend told me about how she changed her look up for highschool and she "grew up", we were talking about someone I like and she said I would have to stop dressing and acting like I do. I don't want this, but it feels nessisary. What do you think? Do I need to grow up from this stage?
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You do not need to change who you are, you never should stop being true to yourself. Society is vary patriarchal and sexist and thus many people will tell you that you need to become weak and submissive to attract a partner. The thing is, acting like that is a real good way to attract a guy who will *not* see you as a partner but rather as his property, as his servant. Being who you are may put a lot of people off, but one must remember that quality is usually in high demand... because quality is scarce while quantity is plentiful. Really, when these quantity men reject you it's just separating the wheat from the chaff, the undesirable from the desirable. The men most likely to reject you are the men you wouldn't want to date anyway, because they are the kind most likely to use you and not care about who you are as a person at all. Being true to yourself may result in longer periods of loneliness, but when you find that quality person who cares about who you are as a person and treats you as a real partner, rather than merely as a servant, you will be much *much* happier than those who decide to conform to society and lose themselves. Be true to yourself, and happiness can and will follow eventually, it's not a matter of if but when.0