Not even my husband.
A week back I got a call from my sister in law, she's 16 and was very very upset. So I picked her up and as it turns out she was raped but didn't want anyone to know. she was ashamed I guess. She didn't want to go to the police or the hospital but I convinced her to see my dad who is a doctor.
So she got a few tests
She really emphasised the not telling anyone part not even her brother (my husband) or their parents. She had a few scratches so she told everyone she had a bike accident.
I didn't tell anyone so far but I'm really torn. I can see she struggling with it and she's also been showing early signs of pregnancy. I don't want to betray her trust but I feel she needs help. And I also don't want to keep something like that from my husband
But then again isn't it up to her to tell them? It's not my decision, right? And she specifically asked me not to
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Don't betray her confidence in you! If she told you something, you need to try and talk her in to letting her know it would be okay to let her brother / your husband know. She is probably feeling ashamed as anything sexual even if it's violence can make a young girl like this feel like she's been treated as cheap trash, and worries that male relatives might take it the wrong way. She was attacked and as things get worse, keeping this a secret is not fair to YOU. I would get her in to counselling with you there with her so she understands how important family support it right now. If matters go to court or if she is pregnant, she'll need all the support she can get. She's not thinking clearly right now which is expected, but this can't go on.0