I've been reading stuff online that it's better to not pay too attention to girls that you are interested in. Is that true?
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I think you have to show a little interest at least or else they won't know that you are into them at all. For me personally I feel like it's a lot easier if the guy is straight forward in what he wants, then you don't have to guess.
But on the other hand, an ex who has had my attention for years sort of seems to chase me, then pulls away a bit and it drives me nuts!!! I feel like I don't understand him, I wish he could be more straight forward so I wouldn't have to guess, but it keeps my attention. I always feel like I'm trying to figure out what he really wants, when we text he's so vague! It causes him to stay on my mind a lot. But since he isn't chasing me all the time and seems to eventually get cold when he's not, I conclude that he's not into me and move on, until the pattern repeats months later when he contacts me again.
In my opinion, I feel like maybe doing both is effective, but if you go from chasing them to not chasing them you have to handle the situation carefully. You don't want them to think you just lost interest and decide not to try and get your attention back. Or if you end up pulling away after sexual stuff has happened/ or was a possibility and didn't happen, it comes off like you only wanted sex from that person and that might change their opinion of you.0