Im 19, he's 21. What he wants in the whole world is to have a family. He wants to get me pregnant. I keep saying no im not ready. I want to dinish school, have a career, move out, and other girls i know who have kids at 19 start life wayyyy too soon. Im not ready. I know im not. He says *ur never ready until after you have one* well im not ready to give up my young life. we want to move intogether and everytime he sees a baby, or a family, in person or on tv, he says *pleaseeeee let me get you pregnant* *pleaseeeeeeeeeeee* and begs and begS. I want a kid, but a kid will ruin my life now. and if i have a kid with him, which i want, i would want to date for a couple of yeara and live together for a while and get married. THENN have a kid. Because what if we have a kid, and realize we arnt workig out? Ill be stuck as a single mother. dont want that.
So does anyone agree with me? Too early to get pregnant?
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I am proud of you! I am dead serious. I am 24... and all I see these days are single moms 18-25!!! It trips me out. I know some 25 year olds with kids who are already 5-7 years old! Why the fuck would anyone want to have a kid that early? Just so they can potentially be 40 year old grandparents?
The best time to have kid, which I have been saying for years (but single moms always yell at me), is to wait until your in you're in a LONG relationship, have a stable job, financial stability, a college education at the very least and you have talked it over with your significant other.
These days, I see so many single mothers... and I don't want to date a single mom. A man shouldn't have to raise another man's kid. That's just my opinion.
I think you should wait, just like you said. Get that education, get that job, become financially strapped, make sure you are in a great relationship and then have kid. Don't be like these other 18-25 year olds who decide to have a kid early. It's poor planning, and how can you provide for your kid if you're a single parent, working 2-3 jobs, etc?3
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