Coming from a third world country I am a bit confused about feminism by the terms of how American men see it. I never hear guys complain in my country about feminism. It has never been a issue or something guys ask me on dates or stuff like that. I was very shocked when I see what some men write on feminism when it comes to the internet and specifically from Americans. I see so much hate and it confuses me so much and makes me upset because in my country it simply means giving women the same advantages as men in terms of career fields and studies. Nobody here has a issue with that. I am not shunned away here or told I can't be dated just because of the fact that I support equal rights..
I am confused because whenever I see a man saying it's wrong or we are wrong then I feel like they are saying they think it's wrong that I want to also study say a career field that is more for guys or maybe receiving equal pay. So basically if you are against feminism does that mean you want me to stay at home and cook for you and clean? Do you want me to just be seen as a mother who cannot follow a professional career? I am quite shocked if this is what American guys want. . Guys here seem to like the fact that women are studying and want to contribute financially. Most guys here are happy about the fact that women can vote too and be part of businesses and not just be seen as home makers.
I also don't understand why American men think if I simply want equal rights it means I must hate men. I do not understand this logic. I do not get it. I do not hate men at all. I am a gentle person with love in my heart.
I am sorry if I offend someone but I want to understand why American guys in particular are so hostile towards feminism in comparison to guys in my country. Why is it wrong for me to simply say I want the same opprtunities as guys? Why is it wrong for me to not want to be like my mother who couldn't study her drea
Once again I'm not trying to debate. I want to understand why I am undesired by American guys for this.
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firstly, you should know that places like here on GaG have a vitriolic hatred of feminism because a lot of the guys on here aren't good with women, and they attack feminism at every angle because its the best way they feel that they can get vengeance against the women that rejected them. Lets be clear though, this by no means means that feminism is pristine... far from it. I'm just trying to inform you that amongst the legitimate critiques of feminism, there are critiques that simply come from a place of hatred, both on GaG and on the internet in general
Now to help you understand the issue... I'll tell you what the problem is. In a good portion of the western world, such as in the USA, men and women are already virtually equal. There's still some discrepancies in terms of the pay gap (which is way smaller than what feminists tend to claim, and not really proven to be caused by sexism) and how women are treated in the workplace sometimes, but by and large, women are able to pursue pretty much any career that they went to school for. There's nothing stopping a woman from achieving her dreams in 2015. But feminists still push this idea that the genders are still so disproportionally unequal, that they start to propose things that some interpret as an unfair advantage for women. They already do better academically according to recent data in the USA, and yet apparently the school system and the patriarchy is still oppressing them =/
I don't really have the same kind of hatred for feminism as other men do, as i don't disagree with them on absolutely everything. I would still date a feminist with no issues at all, as long as they were respectful of my own views on things as well. You being from a third world country, I imagine the situation for women probably isn't so great, as it seems to be in many other third world countries. If i were you, I'd move to the west asap. You'll be treated a lot better over here9
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