I am a man. I think back on my life and there are 16 times i was called good-looking, or cute, but it was mostly by older or fat people. I've been called ugly 5 times and it was by people in my own age group, mostly in middle school. From this evidenc, how do i know if i look good? I'm really depressed about this because i just want to know once and for all.
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You're going to get called handsome more often and more honestly by people who aren't interested in getting with you. Certainly, just because only old people are saying it does not mean only old people are thinking it. And I don't see why some of your admirers being fat would disqualify the compliment.
But using other people's compliments as a basis for your self-esteem is like filling a sieve with sand: over time, it's all going to fall through the holes. If twice as many people had complimented you, or ten times as many, you would still eventually doubt it. Celebrities who are adored everywhere, whose mere appearance in person excites people and about whom romance fanfiction is written by young girls and boys, can still feel miserable about themselves.
Ultimately you want to get to a place where you don't feel like your value as a person is determined by other people.0