Don't slam the door in his face again... You shouldn't argue with your parents. They won't always be around. Just respect their rules... no matter how insane the rules may be. Parents have a knack for being over controlling and making you mad, but you live in their house. Getting into screaming matches or fights about how unfair your parents are helps no one. It's all about respect. You may not get a whole lot of it right now because, you are young. But I promise it gets you farther than arguing with them all the time. To be honest, I was hit with a belt plenty of times as a kid and I turned out just fine. I got in trouble often due to my attitude and the way I carried myself. So many parents now think spankings and all that are "too hard" on the kids and then the kids automatically scream abuse if its so much as threatened. I know there is a line between abuse and punishment but when I was growing up, I knew my attitude was not going to be tolerated. I don't resent or fear my parents for any of it either.
I know what its like to have a parent (or in my case, a step-parent) with anger management issues. He would pop me when I was being all crazy with the attitude and not listening. He would scream until he was as red as a tomato... but he never hit me for no reason. If he got mad enough to pop me one, it was because I was the one being out of line... If you were yelling at your dad, I can only imagine him feeling the same way.
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No offense girl, but the first thing you do is start respecting your father in his household. You may not understand the magnitude of it now at this present age and phase of life, but parents work very hard to keep a roof over your head that includes air conditioning when it's hot and heating during winters full of blizzards, to keep you fed, and take care of your needs if you get sick or break a bone. I imagine it is extremely upsetting to commit your life's schedule, money, and energy into supporting a child then having them yell in your face and slam/possibly damage the property you pay for. No more disrespecting him on such a toxic level; that will help avoid situations like this.
Can't say for sure without knowing him but chances are if he has never hit you before then he was just angry, at his boiling point, and talking shit because you were so out of line and disrespectful that rational words weren't effective enough. Is your mother in the household? Any siblings?
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That's no excuse to use a belt on a child either. If he really means it, you need to report that.
I think that if a parent still has to rely on using an object or laying their hands on their child when he/she is a teen... there is something seriously wrong at home.
He's scooping down to your level too. Even worse because he's an adult and is suppose to act in a civilized manner.Well I would personally say you have no right to put your hands on me (or the belt) and if you do I'll call the cops. It's child abuse!
But if you do that I honestly think it's
just going to get worse. Just listen to him.I first wouldn't be yelling at my dad. I don't know what's wrong with kids these days. I grew up respecting my parents and if I yelled, I got slapped. It's disrespectful.
That said, I think he was simply angry and I doubt he'd bring out the Equalizer.Don't slam the door in his face again. Problem solved.
Lock that door and wait for a few hours. Or days. Hopefully he won't do it. If he really does though, get some help and fast.
What should you do? I don't know, but I bet you won't slam that door again.
Go to your mom or her sister, eventually to grandparents
Report him!!!
that's illegal!
Stay out of his way.
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