When they say good men , they mean good men who are attractive... Why do they forget to imply that? For those women (not all women) who think there's no good men out there or left, I'm pretty sure it is, and I'm sure you have crossed paths with one you just don't them attractive I just don't understand why its so hard to imply.
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I will put this into simply and it's all in my honest opinion. Whenever you hear a woman saying that, 90% of the time in my belief, the woman acknowledges the fact that there are SOME good men out there--it's just not overtly stated. The majority of women understand this unsaid statement, but the primary focus of the conversation is the seemingly overwhelming amount of undesirable men that appear in this woman's range of focus (either by her own ill choices or unwanted advances). So it doesn't need to be said because women understand what she's saying... and that's more than likely the gender she's speaking to.
There will be people who say, "Well, there ARE good men..." and you'll hear the woman say, "I know that" or something of the like. It might seem like she's speaking in generalizations, but it's typically understood by us what she meant so there's no reason to mince words.
Also, the "attractive" bit is also unstated for many women because this should be obvious. I remember writing a story on Experience Project about this topic and getting a large amount of men saying "There are good men everywhere" because I didn't clarify that I meant "good attractive men". But the majority of women understood where I was coming from so that was interesting.
Going back to my first point, there will be some women who say "There aren't any good men". Someone will say, "Yeah. There are. Not ALL men are bad". And she'll say "True." which should send up a flag that she was thinking in a bigoted mind-set about men (probably has been hurt one too many times or is bitter).
Anyway, it's not about "implying". It's simply unsaid and understood... by the majority of women in my opinion. When it comes to talking to you guys, I realize that I have to be VERY CLEAR in what I say, because if I leave one word out, the whole meaning seems to change for a lot of you.2
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