I was talking to a few people I know and they kept talking about how they feel so insecure about how they look. I told them that they shouldn't care about what other people think and I said straight up that I think I am very pretty and they should think the same about themselves. After that they seemed all offended and one of them said "maybe I'm not as full of myself as you, sure you are skinny and pretty but we sure aren't." I just walked away and since when is it bad to have self confidence, I was just trying to help them feel less insecure.
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Self confidence is good, but women (maybe men as well, idk) are expected to at least pretend they think they're ugly. It doesn't make much sense to me, just another way to spread unnecessary insecurity around.
I remember in middle school, for the first and only time, I actually liked my school picture. All my friends were going on about how terrible they looked, then comforting each other, then pretending not to believe each other, and I said "Mine's actually okay for once, haha." And one girl just snatched my picture up and immediately informed me of all my flaws in it. -.-
So basically we all just spread our insecurities around and expect everyone to participate. Do not participate. Don't brag or anything, but don't degrade yourself just because it's expected.1