My ex and I broke up because I discovered he was cheating with transexuals and having unprotected sex with them. I am so thankful I didn't catch a disease because him and I never used condoms. We used to live together and he'd come home at 3am, 6am and then he started coming home days to weeks later at a time. I asked him was it another woman and he said no. He sure wasn't with a woman because I spoke with the tranny he was dealing with and that's who he laid up with. It makes me feel less of a woman. What was the purpose of him staying in a relationship with me? Why did he have a need to impregnate me so badly? Why did he do this to me? I drink everyday because I can't cope. If I die in my sleep I don't care. I can't live with all of these memories and trauma daily.
Most Helpful Guy
As the old song goes, breaking up is hard to do. Yes, your heart is broken. But the good news is that putting it back together doesn't have a thing to do with your ex — it's all about you.
Your Most Important Relationship is the One With Yourself
You can't change what you don't acknowledge. So get real about your situation: It's over! For whatever reason, your ex doesn't want to continue a romantic relationship with you. Until you understand and accept that, you won't be able to begin the healing process.
Although it's nice to have a romantic relationship, it's not necessary. You can be a whole person without being half of a couple. The old saying is true: It's better to be healthy alone than sick with somebody else.
If you're terrified of being alone, you probably suffer from low self-esteem. You need to get in touch with your authentic self — that is, the core of who you are. Until you truly know and like yourself, you won't find a healthy and compatible mate.
Getting Through the Day
Put things in perspective. Does it hurt? Yes. Will you miss certain things about your relationship? Sure. Is it the end of the world? Absolutely not! You'll get through this heartache. Just take it day by day.
Stay in the game! If you decide to be miserable all the time, you're bound to miss out on good opportunities. Don't let a breakup cheat you out of living a full life.
Have the urge to call your ex? Replace that urge with an alternate, incompatible behavior. Go out with some friends, rent a funny movie, whatever — just do something to keep yourself busy.0
- Show AllShow Less