So, I'll be starting high school in September (in Istanbul, Turkey) and I wanted to ask this question.
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For all my life, I was known as the weird one in school. It was same even in elementary school where I had a racist phase. When I grew up and started thinking before talking, it got worse, because at this point, my opinions differ dramatically from those of other Turkish people. Older Turks (+18) don't agree with me and other teens have no clue what I'm talking about. For example, I recognize the Armenian Genocide when it's almost illegal. Elders deny it and teens don't know what it is. No one speaks English , which is why I have a hard time speaking. They don't have opinions about anything—sexuality, politics, human rights. I had girls running away from me with the mention of sex ed. I thought that one girl was going to drop dead when I told her I was bi.
So, the question is: should I play it dumb in high school, trying to fit in and make friends, pretending to be interested in clothing and boys, or should I be myself? I want to be myself, but myself drives people away and I don't want to be alone for four years.
- Conceal, don't feelVote A
- Let it goVote B
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I can confidently say that I'm going to be the one that understands you the best. I'm a Turkish girl living in Canada. And I completelllyyy understand you when you say how you feel so out of place. Its almost as though girls there are fabricated, they're all the same! In terms of you being bi, I do suggest that you keep that within you because 1. it's not super relevant information, and 2. it IS a Muslim country and naturally Turks won't look at it in a positive way. However, in terms of the way you do you on a daily basis, or the way you dress, stay unique!!! At first you will find that people will grill you a lot (my God they do that a lot its annoying) but after awhile, TRUST ME, there will be one or two chicks who will try to be like you, especially if your style is nice. And in terms of the Armenian Genocide, I also dont agree with you (lol) but here, in Canada, you learn to accept people who have other opinions. IN Turkey? Lol no. People are tooooo similar to have a diversity of opinions. Have your opinions and dont be scare to voice them. But dont go too far with them because you neverr know what my people will do -.- But hey! If you need help with anything else, let me know :) Glad to help!! P. S I can also speak Turkish if thats something you're struggling with as well1
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