I'm confused and hopefully someone can shed light on this. Basically my granmom doesn't appear racist, but also she does at times. Like if I invite friends over, she always has something to say about them if they aren't black. She'll be like, "White people, see, they sneaky. Nosy, always poking around. Gotta watch for them." But my black friends get none of that, even my Hispanic friend gets less crap.
When I'm with my white friends, she always says something along the lines of not trusting them with anything cause "like white people", they'll tell everyone everything I said. I'll explain that its not just white people, that goes for every race but according to her white people are the worst.
It even gets worse when I brought up my interest in white girls. I stated that I have a preference. She immediately jumped to black women and I had to explain that I would much rather be with a white girl. She claimed its cause I think black women aren't good enough. I don't think that, I just prefer a white female, nothing wrong with that. But she then goes on to say that I'm preparing myself for pain because, "White females use you and divorce you. You know how white people are, they don't really know committment. Now if you were with a BLACK woman..." and goes on and on and flipping on about the glories of being with a black girl and the consequences of being with a white woman.
I don't get her. Like she's fine with me having white friends, but prefers I have more black friends if possible. Then gets an issue when I bring a white girl home, like she said, "I'll teach her how we black people are. Good cooking and stuff." and laughs. I think it's disrespectful and racist, but she always claims to not having an issue. She doesn't do this with my other friends, but only my white friends. I've brought a Korean girl over and she's even nicer to her! What the hell is with my grandmom?
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Well she is older and probably experienced a lot of racism and intolerance from white people as she was growing up. The world taught her that , and there still is a lot of prejudice towards black people today so its natural for her to have precautions. Just explain to her most white kids today aren't racist and they are more loving and accepting than other generations. Like a lot of milenials are cool with interacial relationships, gays, trans people , we all have friends of different races, religions. The world is changing and you have to slowly explain that to her2