My bigest dream is to become a famous flute player; to play in orchestras, conduct music, and play beautifully. My family and sisters often tell me that I'm a horrible player and to give up. It crushes me everytime they say this stuff, and I try to tell them to stop, but my parents care towards my sisters and take their side. They've also crushed some of my other dreams, so I keep having to change, and every time it's another disappointment. What can I do to make them understand?
They don't like anything that I do, and no matter how many times I talk to them they assume the wrong thing and turn against me. I try to ignore them but it hurts. I've had thoughts, about cutting myself again from their comments, but I don't want to go back to my depressed self, I've gotten so much better.
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I'm sorry you have to go through this.
The thing about life is that we are put in situations that are hard/upsetting/painful and we always have choices on what we want to do with those situations. It already sounds like you made the choice to not give up on yourself and to not go back to your depressed self. which by the way is a strong thing to say considering with what your dealing with. having your family reject you and be unsupportive is extremely hurtful. one thing I learned in life is you can't change other people, you can only change yourself. so if they want to bring down your dreams, let them. in fact, don't even tell them your dreams. keep your dreams to yourself, and never stop dreaming, never, and then one day you'll be on stage, playing the flute, in the orchestra, conducting music and they will be the ones in the wrong. you are not wrong. don't stop dreaming. if you can imagine it, if you can feel it, you can be it. stand strong, because you are strong. and in the end, all the bullshit you have to deal with and all the struggle and all the pain will make your stronger, make your more determined, and make you even more beautiful on the inside and out. god bless you. xx0