ok so i have been dating my boyfriend for about a month and he is always talking about how fat and ugly he is and how he doesn't deserve me and im to good for him. i obviously don't think any of that is true, and i keep telling him that but i dont think he believes me. but he has told me he used to be depressed and self harmed and even had suicidal thoughts... i hope he's not depressed again. but he's always happy when he's with me, not so much with other people tho. what do u think is going on?
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It's very very Difficult to be in a Real Relationship with someone who has mental issues... This one is Still traveling down a rough road with his own Not 'Used to be' But Is Still...
I see the sure signs of someone who needs professional help here, dear. Now that he has found someone who cares about him unconditionally, his mental issues are not allowing him to accept Anything what you are saying and it's triggering off Everything else. Bottom line is, It's going to Lead down a beaten path and end up a War of the Roses.
You could stick around and try to be his shoulder to lean on but without guidance, medication, it will keep going down a wrong direction. And even then, it's a long Stretch... Ask yourself just how long are you in this for, short or long haul?
Good luck. xx0