I was in a four year relationship that started going sour at the two year mark when he cheated on me. He also began to emotionally, and physically abuse me till I finally left him. Almost a year later and I'm still haunted by it. How do I let go? What are some things I can do to get over it? It's hard because he's in my group of friends and isn't leaving for college till August I think. I live in a small town so it's hard not to bump into him. I just want to be able to leave it all in the past, so that my new relationship can grow.
Poll Question: Should I seek help to a therapist?
- Seek Professional HelpVote A
- You're able to take care of this on your ownVote B
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Self healing is greatest ally you ever had. If you rely cops to protect you from harm, what good are your knives, a taser, or pepper spray? Can't rely on just outside help, Professional help may or may not have walked in your shoes but there advices may or may not help. 50/50. vs your heart, your instincts, your intuition, your spirit, your courage, and your ability to recover knows way more that you are doubting. Let's say you had a heart break, no amount advice will take away the memories, the pain, nor the solitude it brings.
You will see the guy you have feelings for and you may or may not engage in activities or conversation but you cannot or mustn't let your feeling or emotions get involved. Time heals and you'll get less and less attracted to him the more you admit this not the life you choose. You must submit yourself to being a better you and not look back.
So my solution is not rush it, don't give in emotionally to him and don't invest your feeling in him and ignore all else. You came this far but only you can make change in your heart.0