They say one must love oneself and have confidence. But for some guys (and women i suppose), this is really easier said than done. How are you supposed to do this when the objective evidence is that you are not worthy of anyones love? Like you can tell yourself you are awesome, but clearly not awesome enough for somebody's love. Its like somebody telling you to be a confident football player but you always benched. After a while you won't want to play because you get the hint.
Just a thought.
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The correct term is a self-fulfilling prophecy. It means that you self-fulfill and event. An example would be because you believe you are not good enough to be first-team you don't try anymore. The coach sees that you are playing awfully so he decides to put you on the bench self-fulfilling what you thought initially. It only happened because *you* decided to not to try in the first place. Hence the "self-fulfilling prophecy".
But that's far beyond the point anyway because that's not really relevant to the initial question you asked. I would say that the whole 'need to love yourself for others to love you" notice is just false. People always find will fall in love or be romantically interested in those who are insecure with themselves. It always happens.
There is no set objective evidence that you are not worthy of someone's love because it's all down to opinions at the end of it. You can see yourself as some insecure and ugly person whereas the next person may not see you that way. It's just that having those negative thoughts about yourself tends to reflect in your facial expression, body language and behaviour which is what may turn people off.1