He own a small bar and I always find him drunk and want to have sex with me. He's like I love you, I don't want to live without you but I'm so sick of that and I'm done talking to him about it. I love him so much but he isn't going to change or at least this is what I think. I'm pregnant in two months and I really thought of leaving him forever.
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There are a number of things I see here. First off he is always drunk and that is a red flag right there. He wants to have sex with you, this would be a normal need from him but it seems like it is triggered from him being drunk not actually wanting to make love to his wife. If he honestly loves you then he will make his number one objective to make you happy. It seems like he just says that just as words when his actions speak otherwise. I think you really need to sit down with him, when he is sober and lay it all on the line with him. Tell him the truth, tell him how you feel and what you are thinking. He first needs to admit that he is an alcoholic. He then has to get treatment. If he doesn't go for treatment and maybe he doesn't think there is anything wrong with him then you may need to flat out tell him it is either the alcohol or me. If he truly loves you he will choose you in a heartbeat. My guess is he doesn't know that you are ready to leave him if this problem isn't addressed by him. He is the only one that can change. Marriage counseling would also be beneficial if both you and him want to make this marriage work. Alcohol can really distort a mind and make you lose in touch with reality and it could make you lose your spouse, family, friends, etc. Before you do anything drastic, talk to him when he is sober and be direct with him. I know you love him but it has to be reciprocated and he has to again make his main objective to make you happy and that would be to get help to save your marriage. I am sorry you are going through this but dont give up yet. Maybe after you talk to him and he knows that you are thinking of leaving him that his eyes will open and he will have a reality check and do what he can to save the marriage before it is too late. I wish you only the best!2