I am sorry this is long but I really need some opinions.
I lost a friend some time ago and I don't know what to do. We used to sit next to each other on the bus and talk everyday for about 2 years at school. I only saw her as a friend at first, but the more I got to know her, the more I started to realise I have feelings for her. So one day I got the courage to ask her out on a date. I was a little worried about rejection. but the mindstate I was going with was that if she said no, then I wouldn't be too upset about it because we would still be friends and talk to each other, and as long as we were still friends I would be ok. So I asked her out, and she told me she wasn't up to going out that night. I was a little sad, but I was ok with being friends. So I smiled and said ok and we both said see you later. But what sucks is that we didn't see each other later. A few days later I go on snapchat and i see that she deleted me from her contacts. I message her on facebook to see if I had done something to make her upset. She doesn't reply. We don't talk for days, the days turn to weeks, and then the weeks turn to a couple of months. I want my friend back but I don't know what to do. I want to try to message her on facebook but I can't bring myself to do it. My friendship with her is on the line and I'm not a little worried like I was when I asked her out, I am down right scared that we will never be able to go back to talking to each other like we used to. I thought about letting her go and thought about how it might be for the best. But she always comes back to mind. I feel cowardly for not just doing something about it, but I don't know what to do. What should I do and what should I say?
Guys, what would you do in my situatuon?
Girls, if you knew that a guy was in a situation like this and the girl was you, what would you want him to do?
Most Helpful Guy
You fell in the friend zone, you can't get her sexual feelings now so she cut contact off with you until that feeling comes back to her. You postponed asking her out for way to Lengthy a time. She lost interest in you sexually because you let her discover you without sex which bores her into keeping you as a friend and not wanting to risk hurting you because she knows you so well. You didn't compel her very well in two years. She now has to adjust. You can only move on now or hope and pray that you meet her a year or two from now where she misses you and wants to catch up on things in rememberence needing a boyfriend. That's highly unlikely. Hey at least she didn't keep you in the nice guy friend zone doing you a favor. That's how woman are, live and learn, next time don't wait so long having her attention for 2 years. Man she was being patient.0