so i have some minor problems that i'm actively working on, but by the way most relationships go and how i think, i know that it could be a big factor in my lovelife basically. I don't know what i want.. or i do, i want a serious relationship were we are equale and are pretty much best friends who are lovers.
But whenever i meet a guy i lower the standards to just something less serious, and i think i do it because a part of me knows its not going to work out.. so by not giving it my all or trying to find faults with the guy im dating im kinda distancing myself emotionally so it won't hurt as much when it ends..
Ofc, i want it to work.. but i have been burned before.. And on top of that im experiencing external pressure from my family and other people too (technically internal pressure, but it feels like people expect me to have a boyfriend)... i feel like a failure when i can't get a boyfriend... my mother was and still is very pretty and she had several boyfriends.. and when she met my dad she knew she wanted him and just went for it.. and now they have been married for 24 years.. I meet a lot of guys, but it never works out.. and i feel embarssed by that.
Anyway, so you might understand i have some issues... so would you date someone like me or should i just stay away from guys all togheter?
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Depends on the problems and if she's dealing with them or is at least willing to deal with them.
Your "problems" aren't really problems though. You have been led on and hurt, it wasn't your fault. I know exactly how you feel. I have been fucked over and led on so many times that now I have trust issues as well as very low expectations.
Don't get me wrong, I do not have low standards. I have very good (and reasonable) standards. It's only my expectations that are low. You could be everything I want in a girl and then some, and I would still expect shit to happen. Is it cynical? Yeah probably. But it has been helping me lately.0
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