i just have to ask because on her it seems like quite many guys think this way. I know this doesn't apply to every guy out there, but i have seen a lot of guys complaing about women having "too high standars" or "too high expectation" when it comes to guys and dating.
For myself im really just after a bestfriend im physically attracted to in additon to other expectations such as a job or a higher education, place of their own (or rents while stuyding) and ambitions in life. Im perusing a high education and i just find in a turn off when people im dating doesn't have any ambitions.
Anyway, what are some of the expectations or standars that so many women have that makes its so diffcult for som many guys to date them? i know for a fact that dating isn't easy, but if it doesn't work out with a guy i never "blame" him for having to high standars or what not.. i just assume that we are too different..
Most Helpful Guy
Well I'll start with the stuff you mentioned.
Having a job is one thing, but many guys notice that the girls want higher income guys. It's a hypergamy issue. Many guys know the average woman is hypergamous. So this turns into a message of "I need to make more money to establish more worth in the field of dating." Many guys feel used this way and then wonder "Am I only worth what my yearly income is?"
Having a place of their own is only an issue in some cases. One case which I witnessed is when the guy has his own place and she doesn't, yet it's a "must have" on her list and then the guy realizes she doesn't care about him, she just wants to get away from her parents. The one case I saw was one guy I know telling me how she basically "moved in" to his place and was so lazy that she wouldn't even do her own laundry. Other cases that some guys have problems with are ones where guys rent but the woman will only date a guy who owns. Basically she takes such a case too far.
The highest education thing is mainly a problem with girls who get elitists and this is far from gender specific honestly. People with high end degrees have a tendency to "look down" on others. Some guys just happen to advance through a place they worked from when they're young and live just fine. Some do trade schools. Other than that, people who whine about this are just kids who live in their mom's basement playing video games 10+ hours a day instead of going out and getting a job.
It's basically women taking the stuff too far. Having a place is not enough. "His place is too small." "He doesn't make enough to own a house." "He only has a bachelor's, I only date guys with a master's." For all the stuff you're listing the typical woman takes much further to the point where the guy asks himself "Does she like me for me at all?" We hear "personality" this and "loving" that but then see "the guy must have these possessions for me to consider him" which sends mixed messages. These things sound far fetched, but they're very real.0
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think it's necessarily that women have "high standards", its the fact that women pretty much have the ball in their field from the get go.
A lot of men paint this false perception of women because of their fear of rejection.
Just because a woman doesn't want to date you, doesn't mean it's because she finds you unattractive.
There's plenty of reasons why one wouldn't date another
(Ex. Just out of a long term relationship (not ready for one), Wants to play the field first (have fun dating around), Doesn't have time (pursuing education or career), etc.
Some men automatically assume they are being rejected because they aren't tall , good looking or fit enough.
That isn't always the case0